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Q: 18/f

I've been involved with this guy for about a year. And every time I let him go he does something that makes me want him back again. How do I get him out of my heart for good? Please help me, I can't do this anymore.

When you have let him go and he goes and does whatever he does to get you to take him back, you should remind yourself of all the reasons that you let him go in the first place. If he is truly not worthy of keeping around then also remember that you deserve better. You deserve to be happy and if he is not making you happy then he's not the one for you. It's going to be hard at first but it will get easier with time.

Q: i have a so called mate hu is trying to split me and my bf up cuz we are happier then she is by far and tonight (11/03/2012)she sent him a text saying 'dont propose to her she will only leave u for her mate hannah' this reduced him to tears and myself too i have reasured him this isnt true but i dont know what to do bout the so called friend that has caused this pain. anyone know what i can or should do?

I would be up front with both your boyfriend and your "friend". If you and your boyfriend have had a stable relationship thus far then he should be able to listen to reason and know that you're telling the truth when you say she's just lying and trying to hurt your relationship. I would then go to her and tell her to stay out of your life and mind her own business if she can't treat you like a real friend. If you have had this kind of trouble with her before then I would definitely tell you to cut her loose for good but if this is out of the ordinary behavior, ask her why she would stoop to such a level of immaturity just to hurt you and someone you care about.

Q: There was this pop up saying something about an update or clean up or something(I did not really stop to read it. My bad.)I said okay to it. Then I sec or to later my sister saw that most of my mom's(yes my mom computer. Most time she let's us take care of update's)icons are GONE! I try ehow and they said to: toRight-click on an empty area of your desktop and select "Personalize" from the drop-down list. The Personalization window appears.
But when I try a have no personalize. And what I do have I try. Help!!!

if it's a option, I would definitely let your mom in on this because it could really end badly if you try to hide it and you have actually messed something up. I'm thinking maybe the update cleaned up a lot of shortcuts though. If the icons are off of the desktop, check in the program folders or on the start menu to see if the programs are still on the computer and if they are just make another shortcut for them on the desktop and no harm done. If not, then I'm sorry to say you'd have to re-download everything that was lost. :/ good luck to you!

Q: And both of them are single, but don't see each other outside of school? I'm in this situation right now, and don't know what to make of it. I don't know if I'm even ready for a relationship (never even had one and I'm 17) but I can't help but feel strong feelings for him, though I'm not really sure if he likes me back the same way. Tbh I'm not ugly or anything, and I feel like I've gotten some signs he may like me in some way, but idk for sure, cause we only communicate with each other at school. I mean we have notable common interests, it's not just physical, though I'm not gonna lie, he's really cute. I just get lost in his eyes. It's just weird cause we often have noticeably awkward conversations, and when we're not talking it feels like sexual tension to me, but I don't know what's on his mind! And I can't just ask him about it, I'd be too afraid of rejection. there's other factors involved, too, like how it would be interracial and I don't know how he or his family would feel about something like that. i love talking with him but at the same time this is just torture, haha

I know it's probably not what you want to hear but you just really need to be honest with him. You don't have to be blunt about it and just say something like " hey, I want to be more than friends." build up to it. You said you guys only talk at school? Invite him with you to a movie or just to hang out after school. Do this with a group at first if you're uncomfortable but gauge his reaction. If he seems happy about it then chances are he's been just as nervous about asking you to hang out with him. Get to know him better. Ask him about his family and such. Interracial couples are an everyday thing in most societies and if he truly likes you, this wouldn't be an excuse. To sum it all up, Go for it! In hindsight you're only going to regret the things you didn't do. (:

Q: i got to an accident with a tree and i have learner's permit with insurance but no one got hurt so my question is are we going to get help from insurance company if we don't have license? but we do have insurance policy

well there's a couple of different answers for this question. If you had a parent or guardian of legal age with you in the passenger seat as the law mandates, then more than likely you will get help from your insurance company unless an accident like that isn't covered in your policy. However, if you didn't have a parent or legal guardian with you, then your coverage would be denied because technically you would have been breaking the law. Best of luck to you though! I'm happy to hear that nobody was hurt.

Q: Okay, this question will be very detailed and graphic, sorry about that, but I think it's necessary. I'm 17 and female, my boyfriend and I love each other very much and have been together for a long time. On Thursday, we were together in his bed and we started to make out. Clothes came off, things got heavy, and I gave him head. He finished in my mouth, and then we cuddled. Neither of us were wearing any clothes at this point. His penis never went in me, I don't even think it touched the front of me, but I need someone to tell me that I'm just being paranoid and I couldn't be pregnant. I'm a worrier, about everything, and driving myself crazy! Please help!

you are definitely just scaring yourself. there's no way you can be pregnant in the situation you've described. I would however recommend that you two take a trip to your local clinic and ask about birth control options. If you two decide to take the next step (or if you already have) being put on birth control will help to put your mind at ease.

Q: I think Im anerexiant. I havent eaten anything for a week but not because I dont want to gain weight. Its because I am so depressed and just cant eat. I have thrown up stomach acid every 3 or 4 hours the week I havent eaten. What should I do? I want to eat but everytime I try, I gag and throw up again. Im 13/f. Thanx for any advice .

you're not anorexic if you're not doing this with the intention of self harming. Anorexics have a body dysmorphic disorder that causes them to see themselves as unattractive or much bigger than they really are. I would seriously recommend that you go to your family with this and get medical help. if it has been just a week of not eating and you are throwing up like that, it's not only due to not eating. I would also very strongly recommend you seek professional psychiatric help. Sometimes things like these can be psychological and you do mention having a problem with being depressed. I hope you get care very soon and you become well again. Remember not to let things overwhelm you. You're only 13 and things get so much better later on.

Q: When I was little, I never had to work hard in school. I've always been smart, and so I could easily do better than the other kids without trying. Once I started middle school, things started getting a little harder, and I generally made do, but once I got into high school, I started falling behind. Now I'm in college, with about a 2.9 and falling, and still no work ethic. I'm not waking up in time for classes, I'm not turning in assignments, and I've developed some serious school-related anxiety (which is contributing to the above). I don't want to have to continue to watch myself slide down this slippery slope, but I don't know how to fix this and make changes that will help me succeed in the long run. What sorts of things can I do to get my life in order?

I can wholly relate to you because I have struggled with this myself. Studying with my friends helped me because they kept me on track and even asking my parents to quiz me over subjects helped as well. I began to force myself to keep a daily schedule and write down all of my assignments so I know exactly what is due and when it is due. Other than the preceding options, I just remind myself how unhappy I was when I wasn't making an effort to do better. That motivates me to continue trying my best. I hope this helps you!

Q: Well, I don't know what to put this under. So I am 22 years old and I am just now getting a bit more comfortable accepting my body dysmorphic problems. As far off as I can remember I've always wanted to be a boy. I was born female. Growing up was terrible for me, kids made fun of me up until junior high, for acting and dressing like a boy. My parents put a stop to it and told me to "act normal" or else I would never have any friends. For the longest time I've felt very confused, I just always wanted to appear more masculine to others and I don't really know or understand why. Putting sexual orientation aside. My parents and brothers and sisters would pick on me and thought maybe I was a lesbian. But when I told them I liked boys over girls they began to laugh. My mother even once told me, "Let me get this straight, so my little girl is really a little homo." Yeah, well putting that all behind me now, I finally moved out but I feel very distraught about it all. Living alone means I can finall wear what I want. Meaning male clothing. But I am very nerve wrecked about shopping. And about cutting my hair. In high school for my junior year when I cut my hair I was called a dyke all through out until graduation.

So I guess I would just like some tips or sites or books that can point me in the right direction of passing as a boy rather than having people view me as a butchy lesbian. Not that I have anything at all against them. I just feel terrible having to force myself to look all female. I've done some searching online but all I find are ftm but "lesbian" wise. Nothing on "transfags." One more thing is,I work with two siblings of mine in my mothers catering business. So of course I see them everyday for a few hours. I feel uncomfortable about it all with my family for obvious reasons. Everyone else in my family is, "normal." Meaning straight. At least that we know of, so it only makes me feel more alienated. I don't know what to say to my family about it if they ask. My youngest brother is support of it, he always asks me about it, and he states. "You'll make a handsome gentlemen one day sis." lol But as for my sisters and elder brother, they tell me I'm disgusting and to just be normal. Otherwise I will never get married or have children. Which honestly I don't care much for finding anyone, I just want to feel comfortable with myself and understand myself. I mean you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first, right?

Well I'm sorry if this is long and hard to understand. But any help at all, thank you for it.

One way that you can feel better about yourself is to acknowledge that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. you're a beautiful person no matter what your family or other people may say. you deserve respect from your family and if I were you, I would start to demand it or tell them to shut their mouths. They have no right to deny you love and support that I assume your other siblings get just because you are different. As it has been so eloquently put, "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." Something I know you may not want to hear but must hear is that people can and will constantly judge you. Ignorance is rampant in recent times and will continue to be in the future. The important thing for you to remember is that their opinion of you does not matter. You must free yourself from your own insecurities and rise above the bigots who don't accept you for the wonderful human being you are. I can't think of anymore advice to give you but I do extend extend a hand of hope. If you ever need an open ear, I am always available. I may not reply right on the spot but I will soon and I will provide you with the best advice I can muster. All my best wishes to you dear.

Q: I was 17 when i had my son. I was young immature and the father was in the same boat as me. Neither of us had any business trying to raise a child. We gave custody to my mother while each of me and the sons father got seperate visitation because we were no longer together. I am know 22 and married and have held a job three years and have my life set like a adult is suppose to and not like a 17 year old child. I am trying to approach my mother on getting custody back of my son. while i have been in his life she has been his primary care giver and my son and her love each other very much. I'm looking on how to break it to her that im going to seek custody of my son. Any advice would be great considering i sat staring at her 45 minutes trying to make the words come out of my mouth but couldnt.

Instead of viewing seeking custody as stealing your child from her, try to see it as you finally giving her the gift of fulfilling her role as a grandmother. I assume your son is aware that you are his mother and that you also love him equally as much as his grandmother. When you break it to her, tell her you are not seeking custody to keep her from him or to hurt her, but to take your first step in putting your life more on the right track and you want the responsibility of raising your own child because you have already lost enough precious time with him. Remind her that you love her and that you are forever grateful that she would sacrifice her time to take care of your son for you and that you know she only wants the best for you as well as her grandson and that now you are ready, you want the opportunity to raise him with her involved in your lives.

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