I love observing and talking to people to find out what makes them tick. I love it when I can help people figure out answers to their problems-- no matter how big or small!
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A couple months ago me and this guy got together. Turns out he said he just wants to be friends. Anyway, Im going to see him next week he lives in west virgina i live in north carolina. When I say get together I dont mean go out I mean we just act like a couple. Anyway, I was talking online and I was like "I cant wait to see you I mean see all of you guys" and he was like "yeah I cant wait to see you either" does this mean he wants to "be with me" again? and not just friends? (link)
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I would say in "guy speak" he was probably just saying that he was excited to see you again. As in hang out.
Unless he's been dropping other hints. If you can't decipher his signals then I would say to just straight up ask him (in person).
Say something like,
"Y'know I've been getting some really mixed signals from you and I know that you said you just wanted to be friends a few months ago but have you changed your mind since?"
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I have a 12 yr old cuzin who i'm really beginning to get worried about. The thing is, she's starting to get into this whole emo look by dressing up in all black and stuff and the worst part is that she even told me that she's started cutting herself. I really don't understand why she would do this because my aunt and uncle treat her with kindness and respect. The problem is that she's always so negative towards everyone and my aunt tells me that she doesn't have a single friend at school. I try to help her but she simply brushes me off and i don't know what to do before this case gets seriously worse. Please help! (link)
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Changes in attitude are a sign of depression. And the cutting is a dead giveaway.
Talk to your Aunt and Uncle. Your cousin may hate you for "telling on her"... but she'll thank you in the long run. Cutting is a VERY serious problem and she obviously has some very serious emotional problems. She needs more help than you can give her right now.
All you can do is love her enough to tell her parents that you think she may have a problem and needs help.
Please let me know if there is anything else I can do.
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I used to be so outgoing, I would just totally be me, and go crazy and everyone loved me for that. But now I'm like constantly tryin to be popular and I'm to afraid of what people will think if I go back to my outgoing *personatlity* Any tips on how to go back to being the true me? I'Ll rate Lots (link)
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I think that everybody goes through stuff like that-- it's all a part of growing up.
But basically you need to search deep down in you to find out what your all about and what you want. It sounds like you've lost some confidence in yourself-- so you need to boost that back up!
Throw yourself into new and different situations. Take charge. Plan parties, go out with friends, meet new people. All of those things will help to increase confidence in yourself.
Find out who you are. What you want. What your morals and values are and then you'll become you. Maybe not exactly like the old you-- but a better, newer, improved version of you.
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I'm switching schools next year so I won't be going back. I want to admit to my guy friend that I have feelings for him. I like him alot but I know he likes another girl & she knows that. If I tell him how I feel, do you think things will be weird this summer if he rejects, since I planned on hanging out with him as friends anyways? (link)
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It could be weird. Situations like that are always weird at first... unfortunatly.
I would tell him though. Say to him, I've liked you for a while now and with me leaving and all I wanted to let you know. I know you like that other girl, and I didn't say this to freak you out, or complicate things for you-- I just said it so I could leave knowing that I told you how I truly felt.
Something to that effect. I think it would do you good! And who knows... maybe a summer romance could spark!
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Anyone know any healthy ways to loose weight in 3 months? I'll rate anyone with good tips. Thanks! (link)
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Drink lots of water-- 8 glasses a day. A regular sized water bottle, like a Dasani is 2 glasses so I make sure to drink at least 4 a day!
Reduce your caloric intake-- mine is 1500 (it varies from person to person, consult your doctor/websites to see what's best for you... i'm pretty sure 1500 is pretty standard however). Now, that doesn't mean eat anything you want and stop when you get to 1500. Make healthy choices-- salads, veggies, fruits, all those things you really don't want to stuff yourself with.
Excersise!! 3 times a week for 30 minutes is what doctors say will put you on a path to weight loss. However, I'm working out 5 days a week for an hour. Every other day weight training. It depends how much weight you want to lose, how much muscle you want to gain, and in what kind of time.
I'd say if you followed all those things strictly-- you could lose a good 15-20 lbs in 3 months! And the healthy way! Which is even better because it will STAY OFF.
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Ps-- My favorite thing to do is KICKBOXING. If you have a Y near you defintley go and check it out. It's intense... but a blast!
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13-m---like on a regular day, what kind of manners do girls notice the most or expect to see. guys dont care but thats not the group im aimed at. (just like when ur doing regualr things not like in front of ur g/f) (link)
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I love when guys open doors for me. It's also a plus when he's a gentleman around my parents (Yes Ma'am, No Sir). Respect is key-- it's hard to remember to pull out chairs, open doors, and pay half of the bill all the time! So basically just be repsectful of her, her family, and friends and you'll be just fine.
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I am a homeschooled girl, I'm turning 15 in about two months. I am doing this program for middle schoolers, where I go and pick up tons of work each month. Apparently, theres so much, that its hard cramming it all in a month, but I manage to get it done the very beggining of the next month, meaning I turn it in late. This happens, because either I didn't have parents take me because they were gone, or I wasn't done. Most of the time it was just not going on time. I expected a lot from myself when I was in public school, my grades were always in a high range. But now, I am failing three classes. Ever since I saw my grades, I have been feeling guilty for eating, sleeping, or doing anything I want because I shouldn't deserve to do what I want. I am so full of stress, I think that maybe another reason. I see a therapist that takes both of my parents sides, and my parents are divorced, but they still fight. But, I'm not going to drown myself in excuses because I've managed to do well in the past. There are lots of other stressful things going on, but I am just really scared that I'm going to get held back. I havn't finished the month of May, I tried to last night, but those thoughts of being a failure took over and kept me from concentrating. I have no idea what to do with the present work, but I do have goals for high school, I might be staying home again. Could anyone share some advice that could help me get my stress out and my future thoughts in?
I'll definetly rate because of the length of this question. It will be more than just thank you. (link)
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Hey There--
You already had a few answers but I thought I would share my story with you. I've been in a somewhat similar situation before and I know how hard it is to try and play catch up in school.
Back in the fall I had to go into a homebound program which is pretty much just like homeschooling. For about 6 weeks of fall semester and all of spring semester I was going to pick up packets of work at my school's guidance office several times a week. The only draw back was my teachers had a really bad habit of sending a lot of (overwhelming) things at once.
At the end of April I still had so much work to do-- it wasn't looking like I was going to pass my spring semester. In American Lit alone I still had 3 novels to read and write essays, take tests, etc etc. And I like you am such a perfectionist. I want to do well-- and if I don't I come down really hard on myself.
So, on to my advice. Talk to your parents. I understand that your parents are divorced and don't always necessarily agree-- so talk to the parent you feel would be able to understand your concerns best. Going to talk to my Mom and Dad about my worries was the best thing I could have ever done-- they were my strongest allies during Spring Semester.
They met with my principal, my guidance counseler, my teachers, my homebound instructor, etc and worked with them to help me. In my school district there's a thing where you can have a week into the next semester to make up any tests, work, etc if there are special circumstances. Perhaps one of your parents (or both) could get together with your principal (or the person in charge of the program you are enrolled in) and arrange something like that for you.
As it turns out-- I didn't need the extra week (which essentially would've given me all summer and then a week into the fall semester) just do the best you can. That was always my motto. If I couldn't finish a whole worksheet or do every assigned page in the book-- it was okay. As long as I was ready for the test. If I didn't read every page of every book and had to use Cliff's notes to help me-- that was okay. Just do the best you can and push through. It will be alright.
Talking to your parents will defintley relieve some of your stress. Dealing with issues like this is hard to do alone-- you cannot do it alone. You need someone on your side to help ya out when times get tough!
I hope that was somewhat helpful. Sometimes I get wordy ha. But I hope it works out for you-- Please let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you out.
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