I am a humble soul. My life's motto is this; If I have to work hard and suffer blood, sweat and tears in my days upon the earth to accomplish, acquire, obtain or achieve just ONE thing in life, I will want to take it with me when I go.
I may not have much in the way of material wealth, but in my life I acquired a wealth of wisdom and spiritual knowledge that I can give freely and generously to the world, and I can still take it all with me when I go. :D
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Location: Vancouver, Canada
Occupation: Customer Service
Age: 48
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Sorry this is long. I used to have the most awesome Christmases at home with my parents, sister, and grandparents. We had all kinds of traditions that really were a lot of fun and Christmas eve and day were always very relaxed. From 2005 to 2007, I had an aunt, uncle, and cousins come too, but ever since 2008, they've been asking us to come to their house. We have every year since they started asking, but it's been a lot of trouble. There are more of us than there are of them, so it's more expensive, our first flight is always late and makes us miss our layover, we've spent Christmas night in hotel rooms because of trouble getting there, and my uncle always wants us to stay for longer than is convenient. The biggest reason I don't like it is because we don't have our Christmas traditions anymore and it feels like Christmas is too different and much more stressful nowadays. I've gone the past four years because my family likes it, but this year, my mom, dad, and grandparents don't want to, which is a relief. The problem is that my uncle is still asking us to and my sister, who has a type a personality, says she wants to have Christmas at my their house forever and will not have Christmas at home again. It shouldn't be her decision, but I'm worried she'll find a way to get us there. Another problem is that my sister is bossy and when she gets married, she wants us to have Thanksgiving at her house, which won't work because my fiancee's birthday is November 22nd, so it's always on or around Thanksgiving. He has family that lives close and the rest of his family meets in our area for Thanksgiving they celebrate his birthday that weekend. So the only way for my family to be together as well is for us to meet in this area as well. I want us to start having relaxed Christmases again, but I'm afraid if my sister knows I said something to my parents and grandparents about it, especially if her Thanksgiving idea doesn't work either, she'll lose respect for me. I know it sounds like I'm being selfish, but I've always done what made everyone else happy UNTIL it didn't make them happy anymore. Now that most of us want to be home Christmas, I think we should have it, but how do I get it for us and how do I keep my sister from being mad at me? (link)
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Is there anything stopping your sister from making the trip herself without the rest of the family? If she' s the only one of you who wants to go,tell her to go for it! She'll have to pay her own way of course, or let your uncle foot the bill. Having her away at Chistmas may even make your family happier, if all she does is complain. Tell her; " You want to go? Ok, see ya, bon voyage, have a nice trip. Start hitchhiking now and you might get there before christmas". Tell her you'll gladly help her pack. Who knows? It might even shut her up. :)
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I've been noticing a trend in the way people treat me. I've realized it has everything to do with how I act. I'm really nice and I think people feel that because of that, they can push me aside when they don't feel like dealing with me and they know there won't be consequences. Like at work, this one guy talks down to me as if I'm a teenager, but I'm 21. I know that I'm naive and I ask my co-workers a lot of questions pertaining to my job, but at least I'm polite. I don't want to change who I am to receive better treatment, so are there any other options? I'm even receiving the same treatment at a place I internship at, so I realize I'm the problem. (link)
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Before others will respect you, you need to learn to respect yourself. This I also learned the hard way. I was in the same position and one simple change worked miracles for me. Put a smile on your face even if you are having a bad day. Develope a sense of humor and learn to laugh at your own mistakes.
Let people know that respect is a 'two way' street, and for them to gain yours, they need to give a little back. As for your job, even though you are an intern and still learning, try to solve problems yourself first before asking for help. That is the best way you'll learn. If you're not sure, discuss your ideas with your supervisor and get his/her opinion, but don't ask for a solution until you've tried to come up with your own. Others will respect your effort and contrbution. Good luck. :)
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I am a procrastinator and there's something I do not want to put off any longer. I've had a couple health scares this past year with cancer and kidney problems. Everything ended up being just fine, but I decided when I found out I was okay that I'd find a way to help people who were in the hospital with those problems. Not just them, but any patient really. The problem is that I don't know how. Is there any way I can make people's days a little brighter, like through some kind of charity organization that I can get involved in or something? Also, I really want to get more involved in my church to help people and just to be more involved and serve God. I'd talk to my preacher about it, but he's really good friends with my dad and I'm afraid he'll tell him what we've talked about, which I don't want until I know what I'm going to do and I feel bad asking him not to tell. Should I talk to him anyway or is there some other way I can go about it? (link)
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To get more involved with charities, choose a cause you believe in, (cancer would be a good one), then do some research online about how you can get involved. Go to the website of your local cancer society. They usually have a list of volunteer positions that need to be filled. If you are passionate about helping sick children, visit the pediatrics ward of your local hospital or the nearest children's hospital. The hospital staff and the families of the kids will welcome your giving spirit even if all you do Is sit by their bedside and read to them or put on finger puppet shows.
As for getting involved with the church, talk to the pastor. Even if he is friends with your dad, he should honor and respect your confidence if you ask him not to tell. Make it clear that you will tell him yourself when you are ready. ood luck with these endeavors and bravo for you!
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could you tell me what's my job in the future? (link)
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No, I cannot predict your future, that is entirely up to you. But I can predict that laying around dreaming about a job won't get you one. Much hard work, passion and perseverence is required from you if you hope to live your 'dream' life.
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I've been dating this guy for seven months and there isn't a bad thing i can think to say of him. he's absolutely amazing and I am so so so in love with him. I just know it won't work out in the long run. We both have different goals in life. We are best friends and having him in my life as my boyfriend has been the most secure feeling ever. I just want to do the right thing and not date him anymore when i am 100% confident it won't work out. But i know he'll be super crushed and I will too. I get so depressed when I think of us not together or him in my life. How do i do this without hurting him &myself?
Thanks so much! (link)
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The best thing to do is to be honest with him. It won't be easy but he needs to know that you can't foresee a future with him other than friendship. Does he know what your goals are? Can he see that they clash with his? If not, he needs to know. If he already knows, then that will make it easier as he will also understand. He may even secretly feel the same way. Talk to him. Who knows? Maybe there is a compromise there that you're just not seeing yet. Good luck.
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13/F a couple of days ago I woke up and my vagina was hurting inside a lot. I thought nothing of it and went to the bathroom. It stung when I peed a lot!!! This happened many times before but this time it's even worse!!! I don't know how it happened or how to treat it!! What can I do?? (link)
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To get an accurate diagnosis, you need to see a doctor. It could be a yeast infection or it could be something more serious. Many things can cause yeast infection...wearing tight clothing, the use of tampons...etc. keep the area clean and use a vaginal cream in the meantime, but do see your doctor as soon as possible.
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