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Q: Im 17 and I have two bumps on my vagina, but not around that area and they are hard. Are they warts? Oh, and Im not sexually active or anything. They go away and come back;; Im really concerned.

Well its because you have in grown hairs prob... like every girl gets... its annoying!

Q: ok i havent gotten my first period yet, but i had a spot where my vagina touches (srry :P) that was brown, like almost poop colored. it was pretty small though. like a little smaller than a dime, or a dime sized. i got it like two days ago but havent had it since. i had a little more than usual discharge 2 or 3 days before it happened i also in the past 2 days after i got it had pretty light discharge, almost none when i have been getting it for a while. what is this? do u have any idea what could be happening? PLZZZ HELP! :) ASAP! as many answers as possible wld be soooo helpful!!! :) THanks!! :)))

it could be a possibility that you are spotting. Which some people get before they have their actually, first menstrual flow. If the spotting continues you should ask your parents or call/see your doctor because there is a slight chance that it could be something more serious. HOPE THIS HELPED!

Q: i have this boyfriend and he's pretty sweet but he liks doing sexual stuff. he knows i'm a virgin and that i want to wait but he still wants to do things like oral and stuff. i'm pretty sure he likes me because he texts me all of the time and we talk about alot of things, not just sexual. infact we barely ever talk sexual, but when we're together he always wants to after we start making out and stuff. but i guess thats normal right? anyways i'm 18 and he's 17 but i'm scared he might be too young for me and especilly since girls mature faster than guys. do you guys think i should stay with him? any opinions would be awesome, thankss.

If he makes you happy thats all that matters! age is just a number. Yes, its true SOME girls mature faster then SOME guys. Honestly all guys are not the same. I mean im talking to this 14 year old and im 17 years old yes it seems bad and people can judge me all they want and yes ill be 18 in May and he'll only be 15 in October but i've been with a few boys before him and i have never been truly happy like i am now. He looks like he is 17 and he is very mature for his age. And for instance i know this 15 year old and he acts like he is 11, and billy(the guy i like) acts 17 & sometimes more mature then me. If he is mature enough for you and he treats you right, and you can be yourself around him then stay with him. It's all about your happiness, no one else's. Just dont move too fast either, from experience, thats not a good idea. Make sure that your feelings for each other are real, and nothing short term and really get to know each other. Wish you much luck, boys can be as complicated as girls, and if he truly likes you and wants to be with you, he'll wait for sexual stuff, you should NEVER feel pressured ! your first time is more special then you'll ever know... you'll remember it and who it was with forever. Good Luck darling :D

Q: Everytime I get a new "crush" when I was little, I'd like obsess over him but I was younger and doesn't every little girl? But I did stop for awhile but the I got my first boyfriend then after that it seemed like I had a month inbetween each boy. Some would last 6months or more and others would only last a month or two. My last boyfriend was a 1 monther and the break-up was from him and totally unexpected. I didn't have a "back-up" which was a good thing. It's been around 8 months now, since i've had a boyfriend. And there's this boy that clearly likes me and hes nice and blahh, all that good stuff. But... I'm just totally scared of the whole idea. I don't want to fall into another obsessing over guys kind of relationship. Any ideas on going forward without worrying and not falling back into that trak of boy after boy??

get to know the boy that likes you, if you get to know him and you like him and he treats you right then dont give up the opportunity of being happy. You never know he might be the one, or maybe he's not but if you like him, there's only one way to find out. I think you need to do what i did for myself, dont get sexually involved until you know alot about him and you know the feelings for each other are real and not just lust, you know, stuff that only lasts a month or so. Believe it seems like it is impossible to find the guy that is right for you or treats you the way you should be treated more than short term, but believe its not impossible. Wish you luck! and ps. dont fall too hard too fast for a guy. :D

Q: Alright guys :) I'm 18, and I'm a chubby girl. It seems that whenever I buy a cute pair of jeans, they rip (in the inner thigh) and I'm left with no jeans at all. I'm tired of this happening, but I know it will keep happening, so does anyone recommend a certain brand of jeans that won't rip as easily and will last? Any experiences? Thanks for the advice!

old navy have AMMAAZZZING jeans up to size size 18

Q: Okay so I'm 22/F and I'm in a relationship with a 24/M. I think I maybe bi...and I'm curious to maybe starting dating a girl or hooking up with a girl. My boyfriend says he doesn't mind it. Are there any websites to meet girls who are into hooking up with girls in a relationship? Or where could I meet a girl who would be interested in something like this. Any advice? Has anyone felt this way? Please share your experience! Thanks!

I've gone through the same thing... im bi curious and i have only kissed a girl, but you cant help if you are curious about girls, cuz i still am. I believe that u should experiment and see what you like.

Q: ive been on loestrin 24 fe for 7 months. i missed my period that was supposed to come 12 days ago. i have had unprotected sex right before i was supposed to get it. im trying to find answers online but cant. have any idea if this is normal or if its pregnancy? most people on this birth control miss the 1st period on it but i didnt...should i be worried?

i am on loestrin 24 and i have had a problem once, my period was late by two days. If its been longer than a week, i think you should see a doctor or a free clinic, if you don't want to go through ur parents if you're a teenager. HOPE THIS HELPS :D
if you want to talk more about this... shoot me an email and title it LOESTRIN 24 fe HELP!
jerichaaasayz@aim.com

Q: I want to start using Mirena, which is a small insert that your doctor puts in. But i dont know if theres any horror storys about it.

Does anyone use this type of birth control, and if so what are the pro's and cons?

a better opinion would probably be the pill if you dont have any serious health problems. I am on Loestrin 24 and i have very regular periods and have had no weight loss or weight gain.

Q: 17/f

I don't know why this happens to me. but me and this guy like each other. we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet but we definitely have potential. anyways, we hang out a few times. and we have fun a lot. A few times, we will even kiss and make out. Out of like the 20 times we hung out, we've gotten pretty frisky like 4 times. Here's my problem, when we do go pretty far.. I always get this sick feeling in my stomach. Like I have to throw up. You know how right before you throw up, you get that sour feeling in your mouth? and like a bunch of saliva in your mouth? That's how i feel when we make out a bunch and get really into it. I don't know why this happens?

Its like whenever it happens, I have to tell him to stop and I get a drink of water and try to calm myself down, but it doesn't really go away. I don't think it's because i'm nervous.. because I'm never nervous around guys. especially him. I always feel myself around him. Help!

The only thing i can think of is... maybe you arent ready to go as far as you are going with him. I personally haven't had this problem but a friend of mine has had one in the past similar to this situation. She just moved slower with him and when they finally went further with sexual stuff, she didnt have the problem anymore.

HOPE THIS HELPS A BIT :]

Q: My Boyfriend has had jock itch for about...5-6 days now. We of course have not had sex since it all started.

But i was just curious, is it contagious? And how long does it normally last. Its on the lower part of his penile shaft. He has a cream for it and hes been applying it and it looks like its getting smaller...but honestly im going a bit crazy lol.

Any info on this would be helpful!

Honestly, he should do some research on it and see what it could possibly be online or even in books. If that doesn't help and the itching doesn't do away he should really consider going to the doctors and getting it checked out, because for all you guys know, it could be something serious. I went through the same thing with my ex. Doctors will help, even though i thought they wouldn't because usually they say it's nothing lol.

HOPE THAT HELPS :D