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I'm BLAiR, Im a SENi0R this year, Finally! I have waited 4 years for this! I would like to say I'm enjoying it, but I think its one of my most challenging years yet. Im so excited to go off to college and meet new people. I hope to go to aTm! I love polkadots and duckies too. I have been through a lot with guys and relationships so shoot!
NO QUESTION IS STUPID!
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Well, Christmas is coming up, as we all know.

My dad is a software engineer, so he works with computers. Is there anything computer-like that I could get him that isn't a

-laptop breifcase
-mouse
-key board
-mouse pad
-office chair.

My budget is 100 dollars.

Also, he gets back pains, so I was thinking of getting him a back massager? Anyone recommend a good one?

Thank you, and any other gift ideas appreciated (he doesn't like sports, cologne, ties, suits, watches, etc) Pictures and scrapbooks are stupid.

You could always get him a gift certificate to get a massage.
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Well i was just wondering if it was ok to have sex with my girlfriend when she's having her period if i wear a condom?

Its okay, I imagine it would be messy though.
Keep it safe =]
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is it a bad thing to wear white pants in the winter?

and if it is..why?

Its a 'fashion rule'. But do what you want, wear what you want, dont follow everybody because they say 'no' =]
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Okay, well I know that a recurring dream is something that's trying to be told to you but you're often missing the point of it. I've been told by people that you have to have an objective standpoint when looking at dreams. I'll just tell you all my recurring dream and if anyone could tell me what they think it means it'd be greatly appreciated
my dream:
I have a dream about every month or couple of weeks, and in it I move back to my old house. It's not always the same house though, but i can just tell that it's where I used to live even though it doesn't look the same. In every one of my dreams I see my ex-boyfriend there. In one of them It was as if we were going to a dance together. In a couple others he was always just outside and i'd be looking at him from afar (oh, we used to be neighbors) In one of them we kissed. So, if anyone has any input on what those might mean, it'd be great. thank you!

Usually what you dream about has NOTHING to do with what you actually dreamt about. Meaning it means something completely different. =]
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i really want to have sex but imnervous about it because liek how does it happen ont he first time??? and dont say if ur too young u shouldnt do it because i am 19 years old its not like i'm 14....and i am too shy to ask my friends how it is like...plz help:S

Sex should be something special, not just because you want to do it. I have heard it hurts the first time but other people have said it doesnt. Just depends.
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16. F.
Ok two kinda three questions:
1) How do you make those 80s shirts, where like one shoulder is out out? Do you just cut off the neck part?
2) Where can I buy them online?

THANXXXX.....

Yeah you just cut off the collar part of the t-shirt. =] You can buy just a plain tshirt or even a sweater is cute too
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Ok well my bf is taking me to the book store and hes buying me a couple books but i dont know what to get him and I am going to a hockey game with him so idk i guess our gift is just spending all day with each other. We actually arent dating yet but we r best friends and have taked about dating (we can talk about anything :] ) and i think hes going to ask me out before the game at his house anyways so bascially im calling him my bf in here. Back to the question: i asked him if I had to get him something and he said no of course not i dont care if you do and i told him i want to write him something instead. he knows i looove to write (want to be an author! i've already published a couple poems!) so i told him i was going to write something instead. i wanted to write him a note and the words to 'our' song. Does that sound ok? he sometimes just tells me when hes listening to it and loves it and that he loves me and so i thought writing him a note and the lyrics would be a good idea. i want to show him i care and i dont think a gift would work. plus im terrible at getting guys gifts! also is giving him one of those big solid hershey kisses cool too? its not the huge ones but the bottom is like 2/3 the size of the palm of my hand. and then maybe give him a real kiss? thanks SO much and if you have any other ideas PLEEEASE share! :] and he always wants pics of me so maybe a picture too? again THANX

Yes I think you are on the right track. With the letter, write it out then write the lyrics all the way around the page, if you know what I mean.
Sounds like you really have something. Good luck.
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so, theres this boy i like a lot and we might even date. but the pronlem is that all the relationships i've been in before weren't that serious, maybe a hug or a kiss sometimes but not much really. and now that im older im kinda worried because i know when your older and in a relashionship you make out or go further, and i've always worrid about that kinda stuff. i really want to do this stuff but im scared ill mess up and embaress myself, help!!!!

You cant mess up because theres no right way to do it. And if he cant handle a mistake, hes not worth it anyways
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my boyfriend's birthday is the 30th.
i have literally no money, so as my present for him, he's going to come over to my house and hang out for a while.
i plan on watching a movie of some sort, but since he's picking it out, i don't know what type it will be.
and i know the type it is will set a mood too.
but the point to all of this is, i want to kiss him (we haven't kissed before.)
i'm more nervous than i should be, and i don't really know how to go about it.
i'm kind of shy (getting a lot better though :] ) and he's a little shy too.
any advice helps at all, thanks.
(:

Aww. Just look at him during the movie and see if he looks back, you are both probably thinking the same thing. Or if you are laying on him look up at him and smile and see if he looks down at you and go for it. Good luck.
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My boyfriend and I live about 40 minutes away and usually only get to see each other two or three times a week because we're both so busy. Sometimes its a stressful realtionship but its worth ever single moment.

Last night when he came over he gave me my Christmas present saying he couldn't wait any longer. It was a diamond necklace. An extremely expensive diamond necklace. Let me just say here that he's only a junior in highschool and has a part time job at Staples.

I was having trouble before trying to think of what to give him. But now its even harder. What says I love you without being too much? And how can I compair with his gesture? I'm not saying this is a competition of who can get who the better gift its just a matter of me feeling that I should get him something as amazing as what I got me.

Any suggestions?

I dont think its the money that counts but the feeling it gives him. Give him something sentimental. Like a framed photo of you two together so when he misses you he can look at that. You could also get rings engraved with both of your names and dates or something. Hope I helped a bit.
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recently at a party..my brothers friend was like flirting with all my friends. he is like a total player and just wants a girl pretty much. especially when he is drunk haha. well i got a little drunk that night, and he was helping my up the stairs and stuff, then he slept in the same bed as me..we didnt do anything, but like major cuddling and stuff..and he tried to kiss me, and i backed off, im pretty sure, but i was a little buzzed at that point so idk if i did back, but i dont think so. anyways, i kept telling him to leave, and when he didnt i had to walk him to somewhere else to sleep. i feel awkward now, and i am really nervous for when my brother brings him over again. ok so what should i do..like just act normal? avoid him? its gonna be so weird! please help, and please dont give advice if your gonna say im horrible for doing that, because all i did was no more than kiss, if that even happened. and if not, it was just cuddling and stuff. alright thanks! im almost 17 if it helps by the way!

Well from experiencing other peoples situations, seems like everybody just wants some action at a party the guys at least. I say just act normal. Its only as awkward as you make it to be. And if he brings it up, just talk. It cant hurt anything.
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hey everyone, i'd really appreciate your time and input, i'll keep it short :)
there's this sweet guy i've known for about a year now, he's not like other guys i've seen: he's a great listener, very observant, humble, and kind to everyone.
we've known each other for about a year now, and have the same group of friends, didn't know him that well then. but recently he's opened up a little. i've noticed he laughs a lot at my jokes, moreso than other people do, (and they're not all that funny). it could just be that he's nice. but just recently he started to touch my arm, gesture to me, get my attn. over little things and mentions my name a lot(i'm excluding some tidbits to shorten this). a lot of girls are attracted to him, and he's known our groups of friends(who are mostly girls) longer than he's known me, so i'm wondering what this new comfortableness means. and i just found out that he's going to europe and at the end of the trip he's going to spend 3 days in paris w/a girl from school who'll be there too(but she apparently has a bf). i don't know this girl, but my friend says he doesn't poke her or anything, but then who feels comfortable enough to go hang out w/a girl he's known only for 3 months in a diff. country?have i misinterpreted these signs, does he like her instead, and me as just a friend? please help!!! thank you!

Just because they are going together and are going to hang out, I dont think it means anything, it could be with an organization that they both happened to sign up for. I would want someone that goes to my school and some one i sort of knew to hang out with so I wasnt with complete strangers. But as for all the little tid-bits, he does seem into you, him touching your arm and stuff. Why dont you straight up ask him? Or hint it to him. Hope all goes well!
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15/f
dating my boyfriend for a year && a half; hes 15 too. were serious about our relationship, dont doubt our age. anyways i really have no idea what to make/get him for xmas. i just bought him a shirt && made him a pillow that said i love you. hes not really into jewlery, has plenty of shoes, doesn't play video games.. he wrestles. but i have no idea what to make/get himm! ah help? =)

Maybe this is cheesy but I think its cute. Get a box and fill it with hersheys kisses and hugs for how many days you have been together, or 365 of them, so he can have "a kiss or hug" for each day of the year. Or you could do the 100 reasons why I love you. I know I did that and my boyfriend had a fit. (a good one) hehe.
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Say you started dating someone on September 26 and you wanted to know how long you've been dating.

Would you:

(A) Just use the day "26" of each month as another month even though it doesnt actually add up to one month.

or

(B) Get a calander and count 7 days after September 26th, use that as one week then Actually count 4 weeks out each time and not have it land on a day "26"?


If anyone understands what i'm asking I would really appreciate an answer.

Thanks =)

Aw this is cute. Yes I would use the date you started dating and use that for each month. =]
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i know my boyfriend masturbates to beautiful girls on the internet, hes even told me. im just crying right now because i looked at the insanely pretty girls he has as his favorites and who he probably masurbates to. im not pretty like them and i never will be, and it just really hurts because i feel like he isnt happy with me and would go with a beautiful girl if he could. we have been together for almost two years, and we have had our issues, but i just feel really low right now. is this normal? do i have anything to worry about? any input or experience like mine is appreciated, especially from a guys point of view!

Guys are always going to want better, most people do. Majority of guys do that regardless of how satisfied they are with you. I know my ex boyfriend did those things and he was completely happy with me and wanted to marry me! But he was just horny. I say you have nothing to worry about girl.
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If you were to dress up for, let's say, a dinner, a school dinner, what would you wear?

Depends, What kind of stuff do you wear? I personally would go with maybe some slacks or even jeans and a cute but casual top or a simple dress with some cute jewelry.
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okay im 14 years old and im having sex with my boyfriend i dont want ne lecture about im too young i have been with this guy for 6 years and i wanna hint to my mom that i need put on birth control...she has said shes gonna take me but she never does what can i say to hint her to take me...nothing involving the sex thing..i mean could i say my period is jumping around the month or sumthing like that plzzz help me lotsa love

kaitlyn

you answered it yourself, use your period as an example! you have REALLY bad cramps, its always late, or its EXTREMELY heavy.
hope i helped dear and be safe and congrats on SiX YEARS wowww.
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I've heard that if you get a sunburn, and you put sunscreen on wherever you got sunburned, it makes your sunburn turn into a tan. I've tried that before and it never worked.

My question is: is there any way to make a sunburn turn into a tan? Are there any special things to use? How long does it take to work?

Thank you!

lotion helps, and it also makes it not peel//not peel as bad.
good luck!
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heyy, uh i have a question... ok i found out that my boyfriend may have cheated on me with his ugly ex girlfriend.. i recoreded on my phone the whole conversation between me and her and i confronted him about it and he denyed it all.. i rreally dont know who to believe cause she s known to lie to break up a couple.. but her story is just so convincing that i want to believe her... i havent broken up with him yet, but with all the fighting i dont tihnk we are going to last much longer... i really really want this is work because i like him alot. i really dont know what to do if i should just end it because there is the chance that him and her did do what seh said that they did its just i want to trust him so bad. please help meee... i reaallllyy dont know what to do.

Well ask yourself some questions
-is he reliable?
-how long have you known him?
-does he seem like that type of person?
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-is she reliable?
-how long have you known her?
-does she seem like that type of person?

honestly all i can tell you is to follow your heart, and talk to him [[you did, now you just need to make up your mind if you want to believe him or not]] also when you confronted him, was this face to face or over the phone/internet/texting? because if you confronted him to his face, its easy to tell if he is lying or not, unless hes a really good liar. also another question to ask yourself, what kind of reputation does he have?

let me know how things work out chica
=D
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i'm sorry about that last jerk to ask a question,

i really like doing stuff, but i don't do anything cause i can't thini of anything to do, what in houston can i do, preferably free like a cool park, but not a park

Hmm maybe you can get your friends together and go to the park and have a picnic and laugh and just have a great time, and yall all bring something to eat. uhhmmm, there could possibly be a waterpark near you, i know my friends and i went to one last year and had a blast being little kids again. Also with it being summer, have a bunch of you and your friends go to the pool and hang out!
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