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what's there to know? i'm a sixteen year old girl from raytown mo.. i have long black hair.. and brown eyes.. i'm 5'10 and a half.. and i love ♥ music ♥.. feel free to ask me anything.. i'm a pretty knowledgeable person.. i know a lot about many things.. haha.. okay.

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I am in the 10th grade and I have been thinking about what I want to be when I leave college. I now have discovered that I might look into being a psychologist. Can anyone help me find like websites that will help me research more about this. Thank you

http://www.quintcareers.com/teens.html

I'm not sure if this will help you, but it's worth a try.
I understand what you are going through completely. I'm a Junior! I reeeally have to think about what I'm going to do.
And really, I decided on something I know I'll enjoy doing. Well, I've narrowed it down to two.
M.A (medical assistant) and Computer Tech.

Hope it helps dear. Good luck!!
God Bless.
Hailie

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Well i have been pretty close with my friends for the past 3 years (I'm a senior in HS) and i feel as if they have become very distant from me lately. They all have girlfriends except for me. It seems that all the girls i have crushes on are the ones going out with my best friends. It seems as if my friends ditched me for girls that i like, it's a very messed up situation. I don't think of myself as a shy person, it's just that i'm never around girls that i like. My friends have classes with these girls so they are around them more, so i guess you could say that they have more access, i don't know. I have never had a gf in highschool and i don't know what i'm doing wrong. At this point i'm convinced that i'm a loser.

First off, you aren't a loser. You should NEVER consider yourself that way.

Perhaps, deep inside, you are waiting to find that 'one' girl that catches your eye.
Some people don't choose wisely who they date. Just give it time, you'll find someone.

If they don't find you first!
-Good luck! and God bless!
-Hope it helps.
Hailie

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My sweet sixteen is in 10 months, I need to get my planning on a roll. Big problem, I don't know what I want to do anyone has any ideas. Umm, I live in the suburbs and I am an african american with a lot of friends. Please help

Well, my sweet sixteen was two months ago!
Believe it or not, all I had, was a nice get-together with my close relatives. (boring.. I know.. lol)

You could always throw a large party? With dancing.. and games.. (too cliche?)
Maybe go bowling? Movies?

Well, I hope that helps you a little. Happy early Birthday.

Take care, and god bless.
-Hailie

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ok like for starter i am 14/f and i am 5'6'' and sometimes 5'5'' ...i kno ..like how strange i dont kno how but the difference happens when i measures ...ookay anyways... i like just recently lost about 20 lbs... which is soo good ...yay... and even though the BMI calculator said my weight is like normal i still could lose 20 more pounds because that would be the ideal average weight... but i've been like slacking off now...before i used to never drink any soda or eat any snacks at all so thats how i lost 20 lbs but now i eat way much and eat junk foods...im glad i am not GAINING any weight...so is there any way i can get back on the track? so i can actually wear and be comfortable in my swim suit???

i give easy 5's if you actually helps even a little

and no funny stuff peoples because i will report you and you will get consequence and yea i know some people will say...and i've heard...what you cant do that blah blah blah...well believe whatever you want to believe but i dont think its funny how some people just say some not so nice stuff about others when they ACTUALLY are in serious dillema...anyways for who is helping me THX a bunches in advance~

Okay,

Try and motivate yourself. If you've ever been happy at a size/in a bikini, and you have a picture, put it somewhere where you KNOW you will look. To me, I think that will be motivation enough for you to stop what you are doing, and think.
(just remember, you are perfect the way you are) But you did ask for advice, and I plan on giving you a little.

Take care hon,
Good Luck, and God Bless.
--Hailie

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A guy that I'm friends with works at a cafe, he is the cook. Another friend told me that she went in to his restaurant once and he told her he wanted to go to bed with her. (he is married so she said no).

Well I asked him if that were true and he started laughing and said "she's not my idea of a babe".
We told his wife and then she said sarscastically that he flirted with everyone (they work toghether,she is the waitress).
I think he did say something and it makes me really mad because he is saying my friend is not only a lyer, but she is ugly!
Do you think he lyed?

I really sounds like it.

He probably lied because he didn't want anyone to tell on him. Y'know, since he's married and all.

Hope it gave you a little help.
-God Bless
--Hailie

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This guy I like (A) was walking in front of me and his friend (B) passed him. A sort of half-grabbed, half-cupped B's butt cheek. B glanced behind and greeted A. A nodded at him and proceeded.
I sort of smack my friend's asses sometimes but I only see other -girls- doing this. I have never seen that happen before.
Now is this some sort of display of masculinity or something? Or is he attached to the friend>

I think it's more of a masculinity thing.

Guys slap other guys butts, girls do it too. It's just a .. 'thing' I suppose.
lol Don't be worried about it. Guys are like girls.. except..girls are a tad bit smarter! *wink*

Hope it helped.
God bless,
-Hailie

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I saw the question on social anxiety disorder. I was just wondering what that is and what are the symptoms. Thank you!!

Social Anxiety Disorder, is basically the fear of social gatherings or whatnot. It's commonly known as "SOCIAL PHOBIA"

The Symptoms include:

1. Intense fear during social interactions.
2. Avoid speaking in class or dining with co-workers.
3. Start trembling and sweating at the thought of attending a party.

Social anxiety disorder can make you feel trapped, shut away from the world.

-Hope that helps.
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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is there anyway to improve my kissing?

Naturally there is no way.

You are who you are, no matter what.
If you want more practice? Try the back of your hand. (old theory, but hey, if it works!)

Good Luck!
-God Bless
--Hailie

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Okay This kid is a year older then me and hes so cute!!!! I think he may and may not like me I'm not really sure! Okay so I was in 5th Grade and he was 6th and he would like always look at me and stuff and now were older and he talks to me online and the other day my friend asked him online if i asked him out would he go out with me and he said I dont know maybe So I dont know if i should ask him myself or what?? I played the "knockout" game its a basketball game and it got down to me and him and I won! I was happy! But anyways. I don't know what I should do he goes to my school and I'm like a 50/50 here. Do you think he likes me? what should I do?? im not that kind of a person that can just go up to someone and start a conversation or ask him out right away. Thanks!

Ask him anyways.

You'll never know, unless you take the chance. Life is all about decisions, it's your turn to decide which is right for you.

So, ask him! If he says yes, then whoo hooo!! If he says no.. well, surely you can continue with being friends.

-Hope it helps
--Good Luck, and God Bless
Hailie

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heyy guys.. well my best friend is taking this reallly cute guy to homecoming, but i don't think he likes her anymore. but he i think he flirts with me aloot. i mean calling everydayy, texting at 430 in the morning, texting to wake me up in the morning.. aw. yea i know he's sweet but like when i see him at school it doesn't seem like he likes me? cause i think he is such a cutie! do yall think he likes me or what? pleaaasseee help!! thxx (rate)

Well,

It's quite possible, from what you've stated.

He could be putting up a front while you guys are at school.
(you know, the whole I want to seem unattached infront of everyone at school thing)

Or, he could be trying to hide his feelings..

-Hope it helps
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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how can you keep a tan tan?

I would try using Lotions enriched with Cocoa Butter.

I know that it helps Stretch Marks, but surely, it can help your tan.

-Hope it helps!
--Good Luck and God Bless
Hailie

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So yea this is one fo those what do I do and what is going through my mind and his mine questions.
Two years ago I dated this guy Kyle and we broke up cuz my "best friend" broke up with him behind my back and told some other guy that I would go out with him (I so didnt). Well Kyle, my "best friend", and the guy call me and are all confusing me so I couldnt explain myself. Well now two years later I am still not over the fact that I didnt try to tell him what happened. But lately I have seen him around unlike before. Like I dont know why but randomly the other day he drove down the street next to mine that I was walkin the dog on and then went around the block and passed me again. What is up with that?? Well now I so cant get it out of my head. My friend is friends with Kyle and asked him if he was still mad at me and he just said I dont know. I dont know what to do. I want to talk to him buti dont know how. I dont even know how he feels. He doesnt know anyone that lives by me so what was he doing over here when there is no reason he could be over here! ugh! and he went around the blocj twice! Someone tell me what I am doing so obsessed over him drving by and what i should do cuz all my friends are just too dumb to understand and I dont wanna talk to them about it.

Thanks,
Me

Well,

It's possible, that he is feeling the same 'guilt' that you are. That he didn't talk with you about it.

Avoiding him, or ignoring him, won't help you at all. Just go to him, and start a normal conversation.

I know that when my conversations start with my ex, they always lead to what happened, why it happened, how it could've been avoided, and what we didn't say to oneanther.

I wish you luck.
-God Bless
--Hope it helps!
Hailie

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Okay so the other night me and my boyfriend snuck out to meet at the park. We had sex but my quetsion is can I get pregnant from this... The first time we did it we used a condom and he came. Then the second time he came again in a new condom. The Thrid time he didnt come but he didnt use a condom. Is there enough sperm cells on his penis left from when he came in the other condoms enough to get me pregnant?? Im not sure.

Please be honest and I dont care tell me how stupid I am too for askin this.
Bye

Well,

You aren't stupid hon. I'd be worried as well.

I would think it would be very possible. Just wait it out, and if you miss your next period, then get a pregnancy test.
Be informed, that P.T's aren't 100% accurate.

Good Luck to you. And God Bless.
-Hope it helps
--Hailie

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hey!.....i like this kid and hes a year younger then me in school...anyways..i started talkin to him just like 2 months ago and we barely talk but hes really hawt....like i cant stand looking at him because i just wanna kiss him so bad anyway..i told his friend that i htink hes hot and his friend told him and he says the same about me...and he hasnt done anyhting about this...i mean he smiles at me once in awhile wen he sees me and he says hi or w.e and his friend was supposed to hook us up but this kid i like lives in a different city like 15 min away...not a problem for me i drive..but i dont know how to get his attention more or how to take our friendship to a higher level...we have a lot in common and he was surprised that i thought he was hot so i dont know

help me!! i rate high

Well,

I would try.. maybe asking him and a few friends to go and see a movie.
Make yourself up. Well, dress up. It's always better to go with friends, you won't make it seem like a 'date'. (that might scare him slightly)
Just a casual get-together with you, him, and some friends!

Like I said, dress-up for the occasion. Not too dressy, but casual. Okay?

Also, if he hasn't made a move just yet, he's waiting for you to. Guys like for woman to make the first move, believe it or not.

-Good Luck, and God Bless.
--Hope it helps.
Hailie

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I have been going out with a guy i've liked forever as of yesterday. He is already saying I love you and I said it back. Are we both just saying it or what?

If you've only been going out for a day or two..

I'm not quite sure if you are just saying to say it. It is quite possible that you both just like how it sounds to say it to one another.

Believe me honey, my ex-boyfriend told me he loved me the second I said yes.
And I said it back.

It leaves you wondering if you/he really means it. Talk to him about it. Make sure that it's the real deal.

-Good Luck and God Bless.
--Hope it Helps.
Hailie

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can you please help me, i'm about 5'7 130ish pounds, i guess you can say i'm skinny, people tell me i am skinny & pretty but i have no self-confidence, i always feel so ugly! please help!! i rate high thanks

Well, at your height and weight. It's perfect.

I'm 5'10 and a half.. and.. well.. I'm not skinny.
But, I have all the self-confidence in the world.

Really, good advice won't get you anywhere. All you need, is to believe in yourself. Wear clothes that you feel like you could conqour the world in. Dress yourself up, even if it means just going to the store. But make sure you are comfertable with doing so.

It takes YOU to make the change.

-Good Luck and God Bless.
Hailie

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im mad b/c these two gurl at my school call me a slut and a whore and stuff like that and i dont know why b/c im really not and on top of that i dont even talk to them so i dont know how they would know anything about me i hate them like really hate them i dont know if i wanna get even with them or just get rid of them any ideas on either way would be helpful please thnx

Now,

If they are calling you these names, would you really want to stoop to their level? I mean, you said it yourself, you don't like what they are calling you.

If at all possible, ignore them. It's one of the only things you can do. Or, talk to them directly about it.

-Hope it helps.
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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My parents always used to fight well now its were, my dad sleeps on the couch, and my mom doesnt talk to my dad they ignore each other. my dad had a "family meeting" a few years ago and told us he was leaving . but then saw us crying he didnt go (is it wrong to wish he have left?) he starts this thing now that since my lil brother is in foot ball and is the only son living there i have to do everything, and he is ALWAYS yelling at me when my mom is sleeping or if my mom is at work. i couldnt take it any more last weekend i blew up i told him to back off and leave me l aone i called my mom and she said ignore him so thats what i been doing well now im supose to be grounded from the computer but i dont listen to him and plus he aint home. but now im grounded for ignoring him!! i dont know what to do any more. please help i wish hed leave . but its not working.

Okay,
I've been in similar situations. Have you talked about everything he says to you to your Mother?

Just make sure that she knows. That's all I can tell you. If it gets worse, talk to your Mother about you staying with a friend. Nobody should be put through that.
I guess it's a bit of a threat to your Mother. If and if, she has the ability to kick him out.

-Hope it helps
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie
(keep me updated?)

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So I've been with this AMAZING guy for about a month, officially on Friday, the 14th. And Saturday its Sweetest Day, any ideas? I was thinking of something for both of the occasions. Please dont tell me to do a search. =) He is very creative and I'm not all that creative. Please just something creative/homeade or omehing that isnt pricey.(up to $30)Something that shows meaning. Thanks in advance, I rate! =D

Okay..

What's Sweetest Day?

I would suggest maybe.. going out for dinner?
Maybe that's too much. I know that on my sister's One Year anniversary.. he took her out to the Mystery Train.

Perhaps dinner might be a good thing. Or even, cooking it yourself..
It all depends on what you have in mind.

-Sorry if it doesn't help. I tried. :)
--Good luck. I'll make sure to comment if I get any ideas.

-Hailie

(happy one month in advance!)

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okay heres my PROBLEM:
im 13/f. i am practically in love with this guy, hes 15. alot of people say 15 isnt too old for me, but i am now worrying that he wouldnt look at me in that way. i need to go out with this ked, or else my whole life will be miserable. what can i do to catch his attention?
BY THE WAY!!!!!! - i ONLY see him on fridays. its for a club thing [CAP.]

SO PLEASE HELP ME!♥

For the record,
You are thirteen, it won't ruin your life hon. There are plenty of other guys out there.

Okay, now that that's over. :P

Do you talk to him a lot? If not, try and dig into his hobbies, try and catch what you both have in common, and embrace it.

To catch his attention? Be yourself! If that doesn't attract him? It's not worth it.

-Hope it helps.
--Good Luck, and God Bless.
Hailie

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