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i broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months a few months ago...lately ive been hanging out with him alot and ive reely started liking him agian but every time he ends up liking one of my best friends...i wana know if i should tell him and risk him liking one of my best friends agan or just keep it my secret?
hope you can help me mucho love (link)
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Well, welcome to the life of Megan and Erika. Good news is, you will come out alive, with an achy heart though. First thing is, BE YOURSELF! don't be someone you're not just for him. everything gets all screwed up if everything is something totally differnet than who you are. If he doesn't like you for who you are, then its not meant to be. Second of all, if this girl is really your best friend, then you should definitely talk to her about it. She should understand where you are coming from if she is your best friend (at least thats what we did). Thirdly, evaluate how much you really like him and how far you are willing to go for him. Sometimes risking it all is worth the fall, but other times not. Either he will catch you at the bottom, or he will watch you splat on the ground. And when it comes to telling him, there are two things you can do. Megan, didn't get him, but also didn't tell him. Erika, told him, and ended up getting him and only lasted for two months. But not all guys are like the one we liked. Some like the hard to get girls. So its up to you and what you know about him. Just remember, don't get too clingy, most guys don't like it (take it from the experienced ones) Good Luck sweetie!
P.s. Guys like it when you play hard to get. Its a challenge and most like it.
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okay so theres this kid who really likes me and has asked me out so many times and each time i have politely said no, but lately he wont quit and keeps on asking me and asking me sometimes more than once a day! how do i tell him to stop asking me without being completely rude? (link)
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PUNCH HIM! he'll get the point...jk jk! haha. No but really, just keep saying no, and tell you're always gonna say no and that you don't think of him that way. eventually, he will get it. But hey, you can always use you're fist, he will never see that coming :)
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ok i just started going out with this guy yesterday and today at school he was seriously CLINGY and he said he loved me at the end o the day i was so freaked out how should i act around him what to i say cuz im not even sure if i like him anymore PLEASE HELP SOON 5's for anyone who helps at all (link)
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If he said i love you the first day, I don't think so. He is more of the guy who is--more of the lust over love type. He just wants you to think he cares, and then it will be a wam, bam, thank you ma'am and its over. We mean, it may sound harsh but that is definitely the way a guys mind works. A guy who is clingy is definitely not good. He will smother you and you're gonna want out, and you want this over before it starts. we are sure he cares about you, but I love you in the first day--thats a little overboard. Good Luck ;)
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Can you fall out of love?
I mean ive been w/ my bf for a while now and its great! this last month however is kinda shaky. I feel myself NOT wanting to hang out w/ him. But i miss him.
Am i falling out of love or whats wrong?
how can i fix it? (link)
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well the first thing is, why do you want space? Is it because you want to explore more with other guys, or is something wrong with him, or do you just want to do other stuff. Having a relationship is a big commitment and we all know that they have there high and low points, it wouldn't be any fun if you were just coasting along day to day. If you think that you're problem is one of the first two, then things are definitely going wrong in your relationship. The best thing is communication. For all we know, he could be feeling the same about you, he's just to scared to say anything. Boys are confusing like that. But now if its the third choice, maybe you've been spending a little too much time with him and you want your independence. Maybe it would be good if you took a break from him for a little while. Not a total break up, but just take a week or so and recoop and get all the things straight in your mind. Then go back to what you were doing. But the main thing is to talk to him. He needs to know how you are feelings. Guys definitely don't have a clue on what girls are thinking and the best thing to do is just come out, plain and simple, and say exactly what you mean. WE hope this works for you. We wish the both of you luck. Be careful though.
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I'm in love with this kid. No, I don't "think" I am, I KNOW I am. lol anyways..we've gone out about 4 or 5 times, we just split about a month ago. He said that he liked another girl that he always said he HATED. Anyways, I went to his football game the other night and they lost really bad so they were in a team huddle kind of thing and half his back and side were to me so he was supposed to be facing in the circle. But he kept turning his head a little and I knew for a fact he was looking at me. He did this a few times and I accidentally made eye contact with him almost twice.Don't you think that he's supposed to be listening to his coach instead of looking at me or something? Do you think maybe that he still has something for me? I dont know if I'm over reacting but I know if I didn't like a guy that much at my game I wouldn't be looking at him like he did to me. Any Ideas? thank yoouuu! (link)
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well sweetie, we've got something to tell you. It might break your heart, or it might not. You may feel like you're in love, but you're not. It's more of an infatuation dealio. Trust us, we both went through this before and if you two were meant to be together, then he wouldn't keep breaking up with you. But now about the secretive looks he's giving you. He very well could be interested in you because you end up with someone, usually your feelings towards them aren't all gone so you are definitely in a sticky position, but just smile and be happy about it. If you want to know if he likes you or not, do some under cover work with his friends and see how much he actually likes this other girl. Good luck! We're always here for help.
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guys think im pretty but they are all kinda nerdyish and i was wondering why not alot of the popular guys think im pretty? i've always wondered about this so can someone tell me why? easy 5 unless your mean (link)
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OMG I HAVE YOUR SAME PROBLEM...join the club we have jackets! ;)
i think what our problem is:
we aren't in the same group as the popular guys, and we aren't saying you have to be, but get aquainted with the group they are in. Become friends.
the reason nerdy guys admit to liking you is because they know they have nothing to lose by telling you that. and popular guys have there whole reps to ruin if you turn them down. Its all about the social scale in junior high/high school.
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So, there's this guy, and well obviously i like him, but i don't get a chance to talk to him that often. I mean I've talked to him before, but not like had a conversation. He doesn't seem to notice me that much, but i really want him too. Can you give me tips on how to get him to notice me? (link)
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well you are in luck! well...i have just gone through that! its tough, i know...and hard...but its all worth it in the end. Okay, first of all-for the basis of a friendship or something more, you need to have a conversation. Start out with stuff about school because that is the easy stuff. Say hi in the hallways. Smile and give comments. once you become a little more comfortable around him start talking about random stuff, like movies, get to know him better. a good relationship always starts off with a good friendship. if he doesn't respond to conversation then get in good with his friends (guys or girls) and if nothing works there then we are sorry to say that he probably isn't interested. You said you don't want to mess with your looks, but choose some clothing that isn't your normal style...something bold that makes you stand out in a good way (no slutty clothing--ewww) guys love it when girls laugh and smile so if he says a stupid joke still laugh anyway. guys want a girl that they know they can be comfortable around. dont be stupid either, don't play the dumb person, have a brain, but we know how hard it is to have one around the guy you like. random stuff comes out--it happens to the best of us. and most importantly just remember to just be yourself. you don't want to have a guy like you for someone your not. Hope that works. it did for me
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I am a sophmore in highschool and I have been starting to talk to my old elementary school friend/ kinda of middle school boyfriend. His name is Tommie and i have known him forever. He now talks to be online alot and clearly is sort of interested but he is just so stupid! I mean he is really smart in school but is common sense towards girls is completly terrible. Me and my friends always ask him to come hangout or whatever and hes like yeaaa, then oh i cant go out.. i dont know. i am starting to like him and if i talk to him online later what should i say? good conversation starters/ how can i kind of tell him how i feel?
thankss alot (link)
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hi, we were in the same boat but lucky for you we got things straightened out and now we can give you our advice. First things first, does he ever hang out with you, or does he always blow you off? If he always does, then he is clearly not interested. Sometimes, he may have things come up, but other times he may just not want to so he will come up with an excuse. Even though you have known eachother for a long time, do you know eachother that well? If so, and you are still good friends then we'd say there is a good chance of something more. and for the internet talk, we know it can be hard to say things, just be random and funny. guys love that. ask him what his favorite color is. stuff like that, and plus, if your friends, it shouldn't make a difference if you think you sound stupid. DO NOT SAY I LOVE YOU TO HIM! wait for him to say it first or he will run away from that...intimidation. but you can tell him that you care and that you are happy to be friends. maybe hint around-be mysterious and try hard to get...it works and they dig it!
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Theres this guy that i've gone out with 11 times We've been thru a lot together and were always gunna like eachother no matter what. After the last time we broke up we stopped talking because i started going out with one of his friends. The other day i got in a fight with my b/f (his friend) and was talkin to him about it and he was telling me that he wanted to hang out with me this weekend and stuff and about how he still likes me. I like my b/f but im always gunna like the other guy.. should i stay with my b/f and forget about the guy or break up with him n see wut happens? (link)
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Okay well you are in a questionable spot.
What makes you so attracted to this guy you've gone out with 11 times? You need to figure out what is so great about him. Also another thing you should know is: The chances are a billion to one that you will actually have a working relationship the next time around. If you have broken up that many times before you will almost definitely break-up again.
But you also need to see which guy you like better, or if you even liek either of them enough at all.
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No matter what i tell myself to do. I can't do it. I like this guy. I say to myself I'm going to go say hi to him, but when i see him i can't. I feel weird saying hi to someone that i don't have eye contact with. what do i do to get him to want to talk to me and look at me in the eyes not stare at me when he thinks that i'm not looking. what do i do? (link)
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Alrighty, let's get cracking.
I was jsut in the same problem you have right now, but I figured it all out, and now I'm dating the guy!
Okay, first way to say something is if you have a class with him. Ask about the homework, or comment on how boring the class was that day, or somethign along those lines. if he totally blows you off after three attemps of trying, he's not into you.
Another way is to look him in the eyes, get some contact with him. It doesn't have to be long, but just noticable enough.
Guys love unique people, so one day wear something cute and out of the ordinary. spice things up, and be bold, if you never talk to the guy, he'll think you are uniterested.
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Okay so theres this guy in my p.e class...he stares at me alot like ill notice him starin and he'll turn around...well today i kept walking back and forth from the doors because i was helping someone with something. Well he watched me the whole time, after awhile we all went outside to play soccer n stuff, well on the way back in he was talkin to these guys and then they all turned around n looked at me...do you think he may like me? he tells ppl he doesnt like any1 but everyone does that..so what do you think?? (link)
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Ok, this is a very tricky situation.
This guy has something for you, that is the obvious, but what is it exactly?
When he's starring at you does he blush or smile? If so then it shows he's attracted. And the whole turning his head thing is a good sign. It means he doesn't want you to know he is checking you out.
Now about the group of guys. if he's talking to his friends he culd be saying anything. But, if he was giving good signs earlier then he probably saying something good.
Also about the "he doesn't like anyone". that is a complete cover-up. Everyone has a little crush on someone, so if he says he's not crushing, that just means he doesn't want you to know who he's crushing on. Which would pretty much lead to you. Hope that helped and good luck!
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