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Q: Today I went to my friend Lindsay's party. It was a swimming party, Lindsay's friend from another school, Ashleigh, was thier. All the boys love Ashleigh. Im so jealous of her. Im kind of fat, and they were forcing me in the pool. I just said that I had my period. Ashleigh calls out "I hate fat people." Everyone always does that to me and I neved know what to do. Any ideas?

Well you just have to except the fact that some people in this world are very mean.You need to find a good friend to help you get out of tricky situations.Maybe you could also try eating heakthier foods and if you believe in yourself you can loose a lot of weight by dieting and working out!

~Erin(fargo)
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Q: A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?

you might consider sitting down and talking to jessica and tell her that her first good boyfriend should be someone who really likes her and then tell her how your "boyfriend" doesn't like her.Then also you should sit down and talk to your "boyfriend" and ask him why he said yes to jessica if he doesn't really like her.

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Erin(fARGO)

Q: i want a change in my life so i thought of changeing my style. Right now i wear like somewhat preppy clothes but i dont wear hollister and ambercrombie and fitch because i cant afford it because i would have to buy it with my own money and im 13. But i where the tight pants short shorts tight shirt kind of thing. and i want a new style. Maybe like vintage or classy, any ideas on looks, any websites and/or pictures. Thanx a ton.

well i went through the same thing.I have tried a lot of different styles.maybe you should do the same thing.Advice:Get a few friends and go to the mall.go to some shops that you can afford and just try on all different types of clothes on and get your friends opinion about them and then you can see if you want to change your style or not.
~Erin(fargo)

Q: ok my bf and i have been together for a year and half now on and off. I'm 17 and hes 18. we have gone through alot together, with our families not liking eachother, sex, drugs, alcohol, trust problems, suicide, and one of the biggest problems we have is that he is a Jehovah's Witnesses and I am not religious. We both know that he isnt suppose to date right now until hes ready to marry but we both love eachother with all of our hearts and care tons. we dont know what to do. the way he takes on this situation is that we should stop dating so he can basically "grow up" and i really think he should "grow up" some because i dont feel he takes me or this relationship really seriously, like he knows this is what he wants but he doesnt want this now and he doesnt get how much i want and need this right now, also i dont believe you can put a relationship on hold...and this all brings the stress and arguing to everyday and i hate arguing and fighting with him...please any help would be great

If this guy thinks that he can put your relationship on hold then it's not going to be much of a relationship.I don't know the whole story here but it sounds like you 2 don't have very much in common so i would look for another guy that does share the same intrests as you until this guy "grows up".So maybe when he does get older you guys can start hanging out and see how it works or this other guy that you might look for could turn out really GREAT!

~Erin(fargo)

Q: My mom told my sister and I a few days ago that if she tells us to do something, we have to do it within 5 minutes or we "lose our privileges". She isn't patient at all. When she tells us to do the dishes, and we say "I will", then she looks at her watch casually to time us 5 minutes to do it. She constantly has to have us doing chores, too. Whether its vacuuming, yard work, dishes, emptying the trash, or putting something up, she can't wait and we have to do it NOW. If we aren't cleaning in some way, we're wasting time (according to my mom). What do we do?

You should probably prove to your mom that you can do your chores.I would suggest that you talk to your mom and ask her to make (or do this yourself) a chores (check) list so you are not alway pushed for time and also explain to her that if she makes you hurry you might not always do it the right way.

~Erin (fargo)

Q: My mother's boyfriend is very inconsiderate to my little sister and I. He seems to think that anything that we have to say can not possibly be more important than what he might be saying, even if we need help with our homework or are cooking dinner and can't find something. He also does not seem to think that the rules of the house apply to him. Another big problem is his phone behavior. He will call while one of us is on the phone with a friend (we have call waiting) and when we tell him that we are on the phone and that we will have our mother call him when we are done, he still calls back about ever five minutes. He has done this when we were on the phone long distance, and we finallly got irate and yelled at him (he had called back six times, we counted) Then when he talked to our mother, he told her that we were rude to him. We have told all of these things to our mother over the last two years, to no avail. How can we get her to break up with this jerk?

well my friend austin kind of went through the same situation but his might be a little different.See at first he hated his moms boyfriend but then they started to ask him kindly to do fun things with them(ex.go out to eat)and after a few years he and his sister relized that this guy was pretty cool.but if things never change beetween you and him then maybe you should try telling another member of your family about what he is doing and they can talk to your mom b/c usually adults will listen to other adults

Another idea that austin my friend came up with is that you can keep a journal(notebook)and write about things that he does and leave it out in the open where your mom might look at it and in austins case his mom sat him down and talked about the issues going on beetween him and his moms boyfriend.

~Erin (fargo)

Q: Here's the situation, me and this guy have been going steady for 4 weeks, we've been on 3 dates he lives 30 minutes away we met on myspace and I guess you could say that we're both "interested" in eachother. The problem is that I feel like I want this relationship more than he does. It seems as if i'm always the one who makes plans for us to go do something and I feel that he holds no initiative when it comes to us. It is both our first time in a male-male relationship and yet I feel like i'm more ready for an "us" than he is and when I asked him where he thinks this relationship is going all I get are "idk" and "wherever 'we' want it to go" which I think is very cliche. Also, i'm out to most my friends and family and he is getting there he just hasn't told his mother, however, some parts of his immediate family like his older sister and brothers want to change him and make him "straight." Amongst that whenever I want to come over to his house when he's feeling down he won't let me and keeps me at a distance and it just bugs the hell out of me. Also, we talked last night on AIM and it basically killed me talking to him because I'm just so confused about "us" so I told him that I was depressed (which I was do to him and just pondering about "us") and I started to cry... well I told him that and just ended the conversation by saying," I can't take this I just can't." Then I signed off and cried myself to sleep and he knew I was crying and still he didn't try and call me to cheer me up... All he did was just message me on myspace and was like, "I know our last date didn't turn out very well, but me and Stephanie were planning on watching a movie on Thursday and I was wondering if you wanted to come." I just don't know what I should do because everytime he plans a date it's always with one of his friends and it makes me feel just like another friend. So the question I keep asking myself is whether or not the only reason why i'm keeping him is because I like the idea of saying that I have a boyfriend as opposed to actually having a boyfriend... if that makes any sense. Thanks if you can help me out and sorry this quesiton was so long.

Even though you have tried to tell this guy how you feel and he didn't respond the way you wanted him to, maybe you could try to tell him one more time and if he doesn't care or seems like he is putting you to the side then maybe you should just be friends and search for a better relationships and people who like the same things in a relationship as u do!

~Erin (fargo)

Q: would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.

It shouldn't matter how old this guy is as long as you really like him it should be just fine,but before you make your move you might want to make sure this person fels the same way about you!

~Erin (fargo)