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Me and my guy friend have lockout (no class) twice. each class is 1 hour and 8 minutes long, so that is about 2 hours and 20 we minutes we have together everyday.. does anyone have any suggestions on things to do? I don't want it to get boring really fast. We can't leave school, and we will work on homework if we have any, but we still have a lot of free time and i dont know what to do during it. any suggestions will help (:
We're 17. (link)
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Music always filled my between class times. And harmonicas are cheap
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Hey, I'm 20, my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for a year. When I first met him I knew he was no good. I knew he was doing a lot of drugs but he told me that was his "past" and that he was ready to stop and move on. Our relationship was OK, I hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years since my last boyfriend had been emotionally & physically abusive. My current boyfriend had a friend named Maria. I never liked her. She was always about the drugs, sex, and raves. I knew they were best friends but she was always trying to convince him to do drugs and I really needed him to stop. So I told him to choose. Either he picked a future with me or drugs with her. He said he picked me. Throughout the 2011 year I learned he was occasionally still doing drugs and talking to her. I flipped out & we'd break up. But only for a few days. The 2012 year had been going amazing for us though. He seemed as though he had changed and he was treating me so kindly. Then Maria contacts me and tells me she had sex with my boyfriend in 2011, we had broken up for 3 days, and he had sex with her. This tore my world up. I knew something was up and every time I asked him he would deny it. A few days ago he finally admitted to it. He told me he had been on drugs and wasn't thinking straight and he was "heartbroken" so he went looking for her and it happened. Then he said after wards he was so disgusted with himself that he didn't want to see her ever again. But he did. Like 3 more times. These 3 months have been great. But last year tore me apart. So now, I don't know what to do. Do I stay because I love him or do I leave because he never respected me to begin with. Oh yeah, he got syphilis from her & gave it to me. (link)
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Do not associate with drug users and dealers, they are black holes and will pull you into their world. Even people who have cleaned up will have a tendency to regress. I am not saying drug users are doomed but they have to want to be clean in order to become clean for good. If they talk about their drug using days as if they were the good old days, they are likely to regress. Also even though you don't use drugs, being around it will cause you to be guilty by association. It is wrong, its not fair, but that is the way it is. You are reflected by the company you keep. I know it is hard especially when you like the people and know they have it in them to change.
No amount of your caring can change a person who is a user, unless you are willing to give your heart and soul to helping. From experiance with a beloved friend who is an alcoholic. I gave until it hurt, and when he pissed all over what I did for him it hurt me to the point I had to walk away.
It never feels good but it hurts more to be a door mat.
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I lost my virginity to Corry years ago, then stopped talking to him comepletely because I was scared and dont have a clue how to have a relationship so i played "hard to get" and failed obviously. then a year later I was dating Jay, when corry walked in the door at jays house and I discovered they had been best friends practically brothers since age 4. I loved Jay, but I dont think I can be with him since he's been locked up for 2 years now and I've been writting him the whole time but my feelings are going away and I just want to be his friend now. Jay realllly luvs me and I dont know how to tell him thru a letter. Most importantly tho, I dont know what to do about Corry. He now has a little daughter and is not with the mom. we haven't talked much in the last 2years other than small talk about life, and Jay. I really want to retry things with Corry mor than ANYTHING Ive ever wanted. He's all I think about lately. He flirts sometimes but Im pretty certain he has no clue how i feel. How do I tell him? I'm scared and am probly gonna tell him overa facebook letter, but I'm not gonna give up. I really care about this guy and cant keep the "what ifs" in my mind. I want this so ba, any advice on what to say and how?? Please keep the Jay situation in mind too! && please no advice trying to convince me not to go for him caus im going to no matter what, I just dont know how yet. Thank you ALOT!
PS: I changed names in this (link)
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Never go with the guy in jail
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What do you call a guy who likes you and you like him but you dont want to date but still kiss and stuff? (link)
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Friends with benifits
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When I woke up this morning and shook out my blanket a spider fell out onto my floor. It's dead right now but how do I know if it layed eggs? I don't want baby spider in my room because I REALLY hate spiders. Thanks. (link)
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It may have been a molt, spiders shed skin like snakes and the molt or shed skin looks like a dead spider.
Most spiders that live in homes with people make an egg sack out of silk. It is typically no smaller than a pencil eraser, check corners for a knot of silk with a ball in the middle about the size of a marble. They like to lay eggs in corners
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. I worked late tonight so we couldn't hang out. He told me that he would Be hanging out with his friends at his house. I was totally cool with that. He then sent me a text explaining how he wasn't feeling well and I asked him questions regarding his sickness and never got a reply. Later on he sent me a text sending me a message from my mom. After work I tried calling him and he didnt answer. I tried a second time and his phone answered and all I could hear was loud music and muffled voices and the music sounded buzzy. As if it were coming from huge speakers. I hung up and tried again and got no answer. If he really was at a party. I don't understand why he is making it a secret. I wouldn't care if he went to a party. I have been okay with that before. My plan is to ignore the situation and not mention anything about it when we talk. Silence can be a killer in a way. If he has sense he will apologize for not answering my calls and explain why right? What do you guys think? (link)
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I disagree with your solution. To ignor a problem in your relationship might give him license to continue the behavior.
He may not ever tell you what he was doing, he might not have been at a party, he may have been frustrated over something, he may have issues he is embarrased about, if you approch the subject from that angle he may give it up. Secrets are lies, and there is no need to lie to a lover
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I have these cousins, 4 to be exact that live near me. I'll call them A,C,L,&J. A (11/m) and C (8/f) are siblings and L (8/f) and J (11/m) are siblings as well. Since my mom and their moms are really close, we all hang out at each others houses and go places together often. I have a brother and a sister around the same of the cousins, so they have little cliques, a girl one and a boy one. But there's nobody my age around. Every time they see me, they all gang up against me and insult me. Like the other day, we went to a fun house and I A and L both made fat jokes about me (I'm a little chubby) and they call me things like nasty, fat, and a witch and treat me like crap. My parents tell me to ignore them, but it's really hard because I've always been sensitive to comments about my appearance (I'm f/13 btw). Occasionally, I try to fight back, but I end up getting in more trouble because I'm the older one. And their parents try to discipline them, but they never stop. Every time I'm around them, they always make me want to cry. I don't know what to do, but I can't take it anymore. It's really hurting my self esteem.
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You are a good cousin and sibling to spend so much time with them.
Children are really insecure with who they are, think back to when you were 8 years old. They desperalty want the approval of older people, not nesasarily parents but an 8 year old boy wants an 11 year old to think he is cool. The only way to do that is to immitate them.
You are older and you are crossing into adulthood, there are many strange changes that happen to a 13 year old, putting on a few pounds and other changes.
First an 11 Boy hasent began his pubecense so he lacks understanding girls change eirlier than boys, so he will be immature. Immaturity is an extreemly strong point of insecurity. If when they start calling you fat insted of fighting back just say "so?" It might take a while but once the realize they can't ruffle your fethers they will stop.
You need time to socialize with your peers, that is very important
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I have looked around the internet for answers to this question, WHY am I afraid of caterpillars, and HOW do I conquer my phobia?
All I have found is stupid little girls saying "eeew they are so gross! how do i get over my fear?" Well, first thing, I don't think they are "Gross" or "Icky" I think they are absolutely horrifying. And I mean it. They scare the heck out of me, not gross me out or disgust me, but they terrify me. I can't look at a picture of one without having that mini-heart attack and feeling dizzy. If I see one in real life, I automatically scream and run, and sometimes I can't stop myself from crying when I see one. Just hearing someone talk about caterpillars frightens me, and then I am paranoid all day and I continuously check the ground for them.
This is a serious phobia and a serious question so I would appreciate it if I didn't get any answers saying "Aaww get over it they are little and slow and cute!" Because that doesnt really help me.
I have read on the internet that I could go to a therapist, hypnotist, or do other things such as just be in the same room as one and gradually make my way closer until I am not scared any more. This seems like a good idea, but I am mostly interested in WHY I am afraid of caterpillars.
BTW, this fear has gone on for years, and I have had many many nightmares about caterpillars. Last night I had a nightmare that there were caterpillars everywhere I turned and when I tired to walk around them they just kept appearing infront of me.
I have once had a bad dream that caterpillars were all over my yard. In the dream I was sitting outside with my Mum and Sister, then there were a few caterpillars on the floor, then more started to appear, and by then I was terrified, then they were EVERYWHERE. They were FLYING (like caterpillars with little butterfly wings) and HOPPING at me (like springs or grass hoppers). I was running around trying to get away from them and then eventually I woke up.
I am not afraid of butterflies or any flying bugs, I am kind of frightened by creepy-crawly bugs, but nothing scares me like caterpillars.
If it helps, I also have an extreme fear of heights (I can't sit on something that is two meters tall) and I can't look up at a tall building without almost fainting.
Please help answer: Why am I afraid of caterpillars? Also, does having nightmares about caterpillars mean anything?
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I had a simmilar fear. The reason it is called a phobia is because it is an irrational fear. Most of the time the fear is justifide. The reason why is typically because at one time in your life you were tramatized, perhaps an older kid through a cterpiller on you and it scared you or perhaps it is indirect. Those reasons are typically different for every person.
Something that helps with understanding phobia is to understand your trigger, or stimuli. You are not afraid of a caterpiller because of what it can do, but more so of what it is to you. You have applied a fear that couldn't be rationalized onto an object, in your case a caterpiller. I know I said a mouthful just there, allow me to explain. Fear is rational for the most part, fear of illness, of attack, or of looseing something, that is why we experiance it. Basically what I am saying is that fear can save your life. Phobias are a fear we cannot define, however real they may be. It is hard to describe in words but I'll take a crack at it.
Fear really is human understanding that we are loosing control. Again a mouthful, keep reading. Say you were walking down the street and you see a snake, you automatically react in a fear movement, whether you stop walking, you walk around or you run away. The reason why it is such a negative feeling is because you were controlled by that snake, inother words you lost control.
Where phobias fit in are where you percive a loss of control, ether a real loss or a less recognizable loss of control. Say perhaps dealing with the death of a loved one. This loss of control is very scary, and most of us don't take the time to understand exactly why, wether its because you don't want to show weakness or you are embarressed of your reaction to the emotion. The main reason in my example is because the person who has passed adds to your mortality. Where this example may not fit your case. Typically debilitating phobias have a similar root. In the case of a phobia, the stimuli becomes a "boogie man" to use a very childish metaphor.
In my case I was afraid of worms. Earth worms, caterpillars, grubs, but mostly maggots. Terrerfide of maggots. Not sure exactly why I was so adverse to wormlike creatures but I was, to the point, I am a very large man, strong and hearty, but I was a scared child when it came to worms.
The way I conqered that fear was first and most inportantly,I confided in a person I trusted, it was hard to reviel such a, in my mind, silly fear. But once I realized I could trust this person (a very small woman who served in the navy) the repair began. We worked together at a swimming pool. And when water splashed out the earthworms came out. She picked one up and described how it felt in her hand, and then I touched it. Slowly from there my fear of worms dulled
The key is finding out if it is fear of the unknown or a phobia. Both are normal and you are not insane for experiancing a common emotion
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