Hi, my name is Katie and I'm 15 years old. In those fifteen years I've literally been through more than most people go through in their entire life. I absolutely love helping people, and I've been told by many people that I'm good at it. I'll definitely love to give you advice, but I'm telling you right now I will say what I think, I'm not going to sugar coat everything or tell you what you want to hear just so you'll give me good ratings. So if you have any questions, about anything at all, just ask away, I'd be more than happy to help =]
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ok. most of the girls in my class shave(i think) i want to to. i think i need it now. well, my mom and grandma keep saying don't do it you will get stubs and it will look terrible. you are too young. WEll i triend it a couple of times and i think i know how to do it. should i? my mom only buys the cheap blades and no cream... should i use reg. cream after? if i chose to shave now, what should i do! HELP!
i have one more.... periods. I don't have mine yet, and it seems i should of gotton it a while ago. what should i do with that also? thanks! (link)
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Okay, since you've already started shaving your hair is going to continue to grow darker each time. So you might as well continue shaving.
If your mother doesn't buy shaving cream then lather up your legs with lots and lots of soap then shave. I use shampoo when I run out of shaving cream though and it makes my legs soft and smell nice, so you could do that too.
But I think you should go ahead and tell your mom that you're ready to start shaving (that you already have) and she'll be more open to the idea than you think she will. I know it seems like a big deal right now, but when you talk to her about it I'm pretty sure she'll be fine. Have fun shaving, you'll hate it as you get older, lol.
Okay, now about your period. I'm guessing your pretty young.. 12-14? All girls start their periods at different ages. Some at 12 some even as late as 16 or 17. So don't worry about it now, there's nothing you can do to make your period come faster, it'll come when it's time. Enjoy your period-free years now, because like shaving, you'll hate it when you get older. It gets old real fast!
-Katie
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do your teeth grow bigger as you grow older?
yeah its a dumb question but just answear it cuz i need to know (link)
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When you are younger yes, but they should stop growing when you get into your teens.
-Katie
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Not to sound goofy or anything
but are myspace bullitens real?
like ones that are like
you you will loose the one you love most and stuff.
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No, they are completely fake.
-Katie
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There is this girl jesse, and she is constantly flirting with my boyfriend! I am sooooo sick of it! cuase not only does she flirt with him she does it in front of me! my best friend told her to stop flirting with him and she's like, omg Amanda (that's me) need to stop being so over protective of him! then she said she's not even flirting with him! But the problem is she never stop flirting with him! she'll go up and start poking him in his sides and belly and will be all touchy on him and it just makes me uber mad! please tell me what i should do! cuase confronting her doesn't work!
Thanks,
Manders (link)
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Hey Amanda,
I can't tell you how annoying this is, but you seem to know ;)
Instead of talking to the girl, talk to your boyfriend. Get him to say something to her. If he won't, then you definitely need to put your foot down and keep your man!
Tell her to back off, and stop acting like such a whore.
-Katie
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well it seems like you have been through a lot and you know what you're talking about. my best guy friend is an amazing person. i dont know if i really like the whole idea of love since many people have done tarrible things to my self esteem in the past. i mean ive been hurt a lot in the past by people i thought that cared about me. this is the one guy that shows me how much he cares about me every single day, he makes me feel special. what can i say hes the only person who can make me laugh and i feel like he understands me, how can i not fall in love with him. and yet, i know that maybe the feelings will never be the same. a lot of people know that he isnt exactly sure about his sexuality. but he told me a while back that he wasnt sure before but that now he is strait. so i dont wanna believe the stupid rumors. i liked him before but he told me that he just wanted to be friends after leading me on. i dont know if he was trying to prove to himself that he wasnt gay by hitting on me or something but it really hurt me. and well i told him i didnt like him anymore and ever since we've become really close. but recently the feelings came back. somehow i like him again, if not love him. i wish he would be clear about his actions. he makes it seem like he likes me too. he hangs out with only me, talks less with his other friends (girls) to spend time with me, makes up pet names for me, and tells me he loves me on a regular basis. other people think that he likes me. my friends always get jealous because they wanna spend time with him too but hes always around me. and hes known them longer. im not sure how this happened. im not sure how he became my best friend, my everything. telling him how i feel would make matters worse. schools almost out and after this year high skool will seperate us so theres no hope for a relationship. my friends tell me that i do have a chance with him but i find it hard to trust others and myself. when im with him i laugh so much and he brings all this happiness into my life. how can i deal with these feelings without hurting myslef or ruining this friendship? thank you so much
btw 14/f
SAM (link)
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Wow, this is a tough one. I'm going to go ahead and tell you what I honestly think though.
I think that if this guy really likes you, then he'll make a move soon. He might just be leading you on again, and that's so wrong to hurt you again like that. I'd say that you need to guard your emotions and your heart and don't tell him that you have feelings for him again. Some things are better left unsaid.
Just be flirty with him, and if he really likes you, then he'll me smart and talk to you about it.
I wish you the best of luck. I know this situation is hard to deal with, I've been through it, and I actually told the guy I liked him the second time. It ended up horribly, so I hope things are better for you!
-Katie
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When were you molested?Who molested you?How did it happen?Did it stop happening?Look at this web page
http://www.pioneerthinking.com/cgi-bin/mb/YaBB.pl?board=general;action=display;num=1174431707
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Whoa, whoa whoa! Calm down, I'm fine.
I don't need any help with this, and sorry, but I don't feel comfortable answering those questions.
I almost didn't even put that part of my answer into that one person's question for this very reason. I don't want pity or someone telling me I need help or badgering me with questions about it.
I don't mean to be harsh, but sorry.
-Katie
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okay so i had sex with someone, it was the first time for both of us and we both havent had sex since then but i had a dream about it a few times, do you think he did too?
I dont wanna ask him, im just wondering what you think.
Thanx! (link)
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Well, a little information about your relationship with this guy would have helped.
If you are going out, then yah, totally talk to him about it.
Chances are he's been wanting more/thinking about it too.
If you aren't going out, then you might casually mention it when you are alone together.
-Katie
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ok well I'm 13 and I had never really french kissed anyone before last night. I was completely honest with my boyfriend and told him that I wanted to so we frenched. he knew I had no idea what I was doing and I still don't! He said that was pretty good for my first time! But I don't know what I am doing! what the heck and I soposed to do with my tongue? please help!!!
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It's different for everyperson, but whenever I makeout with a guy it's a totally different experirence from the last guy. So I just let the guy lead, I imitate whatever he's doing with his tongue.. whether he uses it alot or barely uses it at all. I think slow, light tongue kisses are the best personally ;]
If you really want to wow your guy, when you pull away from a kiss gently pull on his bottom lip with your lips as you pull away.
It feels good, for both the girl and the boy, and it'll amaze him since you're not an expert kisser.
Good luck and happy kissing!
-Katie
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can you do a three-way chat on gtalk? google IM (link)
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Yes, just make yourself a chatroom. Then to go "invite" and type in the person's screenname who you want to be in the chat with you. Keep adding screennames until you have everyone you want in there.
-Katie
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First of all,you give great advice!By the way ,what exactly could you have been through in those 15 years? (link)
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Thank you very much! I'm guessing I've given you advice before, that or you've been doing some reading on my column? Well, thanks its always nice to hear that.
What all have I been through? Well, I've been through alot. Family fighting, it never ends! My sister and I fight horribly, my mother and I hardly get along, and my grandmother doesn't like my mother so they fight. I've had the only grandmother I acutally like die from cancer. I was with her the day before she died, and I'll never forget the last time she held me before she passed. I miss her very much. I've been through fights with friends. I've been through addictions (cigarettes/alcohol.. no drugs!!). But the biggest thing I've been through is sexual molestation. It happened to me and it's a horrible, horrible thing that happens almost everyday. I would never wish it upon anybody. Ever.
I hope I answered your question well enough.
Have a great day, and thanks again for the question. It was a good one!
-Katie
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I just got a new mascara today, L'Oreal Panoramic Curl-- the brush is curved, which seems useful, but it's a pain to use. I'm used to using straight brush mascaras..
Are there any tips for correctly using mascara with curved brush (to curl lashes)? (link)
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It shouldn't be hurting you to use a curved brush.
If you want your lashes to really curl, then get a lash curler. You can get them anywhere where makeup is sold for under five dollars. It works wonders!
-Katie
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This may seem like a stupid question..but when you kiss someone, like a boyfriend, are you supposed to feel something? You know what I mean.. (link)
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Do you mean physically or emotionally?
OKay, physically.. of course you're going to feel something when you're kissing someone! You're mouths are going to be together, and if you're kissing with tongue then you'll feel that.
Mentally, if you are attracted/going out with the person you are kissing I'm sure you're going to feel something. If you don't then you've probably become slowly un-attracted to the person, does that make sense?
-Katie
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My closest female friend is always with me. We spend alot of time together. More recently when we are alone we just talk and look giddly at eachother. When laughing, she tends to lean on me and if a song or somthing comes on and we're not talking, she'll lay her head across on my lap (we're in a car). She may even move my hand so that I am holding her, and she gently takes my hand. When we are talking like this or just looking at eachother we are very close (physically). I dont know if she would want me to kiss her, in fact I think about it all the time! Whenever there is an awkward silence and we just gaze at eachother instead of doing anything we just laugh giddly. I am so unsure of what she wants. I know what I want ;-). I would have no problem hooking up with her at the every impulse or at least whenever I read the situation that asks for it. But I don't know if that is what she wants too. I don't want this to be awkward but the constant punding of my head with this confusing situation is driving me crazy! I can't just say, "hey want me to kiss you" because that would destroy any mood at the moment, and who knows! Maybe she is just expecting me to kiss her, and know what she wanted. what does she want, why won't she just say "kiss me" if she really wanted me to. Does that mean she wants to keep the relationship the way it is currently?! Should I just make the move at her and see what happens (We have hooked up before, but she always initiates). It's not that i'm afraid or anything, I just have no 'friggen clue what she wants!
*please also, don't say talk to her about it. because i've tried this. doesn't turn out properly.
so - do i make the move when i think she wants me to kiss her? even though she really hasnt made any suggestion that she wants it
any help at all is much appreciated (link)
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It sounds like she's into you.
Go for it =]
-Katie
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Hey I want to get a hair cut but I don't know what to tell me hair cutter.
My hair is very poofy and goes even poofier as it goes down (even straightened it is and the more you brush it the more bigger it gets). My hair is long like 10cm below my back. I got no layers because the last time I got one, all my hair didn't go straight down anymore but it went like diagonally in. My hair is seperated right at the middle (yes lame place to part but i was too scared to take chances).
I think that's about it..the hair I want is like this http://img244.imageshack.us/img244/2076/hyoleeh168giordano7xg.jpg
Please help me. I don't take chances with my hair because it's so ugly and dead, i always have it tied in a poney tail, and I'm 13 and already half my hair is white hair (in the inside) so I can't afford to take any risk really.
Thank you so much! Sorry it's long (link)
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Unfortunately your hair will keep resisting the straightening since it is so poofy. I'm guessing since it's poofy you've got curly hair, if not that then at least a little wave in it?
Well I've got the same exact hair, the only reason it's straight in my picture is because my friend took about four hours of her time to help me with it.
Instead of getting your hair styled, as for prodcuts that can help tame your hair. You'll see it can be beautiful curly and not poofy.
I use four products, Nexus Versastyler is the best!! Then I use some purple gel from the store as gel. And Sunsilk's blue bottle, Anti-Poof products (Shampoo, Conditioner and Creame). Go to gethairapy.com for a free sample of those.
Good luck with your hair problem.
-Katie
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okay, if me and my boyfriend started going out on march 17, 2007, then when is our 1 month anniversery? is it april 17th, or is it before? can you count the days, because everytime i try i get a different number. (link)
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One month will be on April 17.
Whenever you're doing month anniversaries don't count the numbers because every month has a different number of days. Just take the number day, in your case 17, and go to the next month.
Your month anniversaries will always be on the 17th of whatever month.
-Katie
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months, but we've been great friends for over a couple of years. We're very close, and he is very close to my family. However, he won't introduce me to his family. He's had girlfriends before and a few of them met his parents, but he just tells his dad he's "out with friends" when we're together. Its hard sometimes, because my family loves him and its embarressing to tell them he won't introduce me to his family. I'm not sure what to do, he says not to worry about it. I've tried talking to him about it so many times, but nothing works. He usually makes up some sort of excuse.
What should I do? (link)
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Tell him it's really important to you to meet his family. That since you two are a serious couple you want to get to know his parents and/or siblings. Obviously this guy means something to you, so his family should be in your life I think.
Try to find out if there is a reason(s) why he won't introduce you. It's kind of wierd that he won't since you've been dating for a few months.
Good luck.
-Katie
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what does it mean .. to D.P.??? (link)
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Double Penetration" i.e., the act of sexually accomodating two penises at once, in any of the three primary copulatory orfices (vagina, mouth, anus.
Definition came from urbandictionary.com.
-Katie
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did the band KISS retire yet? or are they still around? (link)
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I think they are still around. I went to one of their concernts with Aerosmith not too long ago.. only three or four years ago.
I don't know if they are making new songs still or not, but they might be doing tours and stuff like that.
Gene Simmons has a new reality show coming on TV as well.
-Katie
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13/f
ok well I really really really like this guy. I'm not going to see him (on a regular basis, like i mgiht run into him once or twice) until july. Also, he's a few years older than me and it probably won't turn into anything.
I also like this other guy. He's my age and we're pretty good friends, but he's like IN LOVE with this other girl, and i'm really not his type anyway.
Which one should i go after?
How should i go after them?
Thanks! (link)
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Okay, realistically, nothing is going to happen between either of two from the way it sounds. The first guy you aren't going to see much of and he's older than you so probably the only thing he would want from you is sex or anything sexual. You probably think differently and have some romantic fantasy going on in your head, but realistically nothing will happen.
If you were going to go after one of them, then make it the second guy. He may not be your type, but most relationships are like that. Ever heard the phrase "opposites attract"? But if he's IN LOVE with another girl, then I don't know what to say.
If you think you've got a shot then go for it!! Flirt, hug, do whatever you've got to do but be yourself. But if you think you'd be just wasting your time then move onto another guy.
-Katie
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Okay, so basically I lost my favorite pair of jeans! I'm dying, because they fit me perfectly! So I looked all of the obvious places (my dresser, my car, my gym locker, my regular locker, lost and found.. etc.)
so my question is, what are some horribly ridiculous places I might have put them? (and no, I'm not wearing them either. :P) (link)
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Check the laundry room, washer, dryer all the baskets, behind the washer and dryer. That's where my lost stuff usually is.
Look in all the baskets in the house. Garage, trash cans, under the bed, closet, in the bed, behind big things (tv, dresser etc).
I hope you find them!!
-Katie
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