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I am a 19 year old student. I have experienced a decent amount in life from relationships to family. I am a very understanding and empathetic person. I am not a judgemental person so feel free to ask me any question and get an honest, helpful, and kind answer.

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I fell in love with one my of my best friends and he fell for me, or at least that's what he told me, but he's in book camp and i hardly ever talk to him anymore. the night he left me and him hung out and we had sex, and it was the last time he or i had sex since he'd left...but when i talked to him today he said i was the only girl he wanted to be with intimately, i am worried he is lying, because he used to be some what of a player...i was wondering,...should i believe him? or just...let him go...??

If you feel that you can't trust him, slow down your relationship. Explain to him that you are not comfortable being intimate right now and would like to slow down the relationship. Wait until you build that trust before trying sex again. If he is in it for more than sex, he won't mind developing your relationship more.

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what does this mean...if she looks like a duck, talks like a duck, walks like a duck, then she must be a duck. someone in my family said that about my gf and i have no idea what it means.

It's a figure of speech saying if someone acts like something, they probably are. So rhetorically, if someones acts stupid, they must be, etc.

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16/f. me and my sister used to play "games" in the shower when we were little (I was like 10 or 11) but people told us it was what all the little girls do. I don't want to get in to detail just because it makes me sick to my stomach but we used to touch down there vvv and stuff like that. Is that considered being sexually abused? If so, is it my fault since I'm the older one out of the two of us? I barely realized it was wrong last year when I learned all about sex. I started doing drugs to try to forget about it but i feel like I'm going insane and I just need help. Anything else that you might think will be useful will be highly appreciated.

That's not sexual abuse. You were not doing it intentionally as a form of sexual release,etc. Your sister was not either. Small children are often curious about their bodies and the bodies of other and that is perfectly normal. Talking to your sister about it would probably be helpful in calming your mind.

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that gum makes your breath smell worse when making out with a guy?!

In my experience it doesn't make your breath smell worse-it makes it better or has not effect. Brush your tongue with toothpaste if you want really fresh breath since that's where most bacteria is and that is what causes bad breath.

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I know all girls are different. But for some
Reason I think I Am Really hard on myself about this
But I wanna be open and comfortable with my boyfriend..what ia the best advice or way for doing this? Do men ever judge girls, or is it just most women feel shy?

The colors and sizes of the labia differ from person to person. It depends on how close and how much trust you have with your boyfriend. If you too are in a very committed relationship, he won't care. Plus most men don't get a good look at it during sex. If he judges you (which I highly doubt he will), he isn't worth your time.

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I've been with this guy for three years. If his heart stopped beating right now I would give him mine. When he asked me to marry him all I could think of was yes. We're both young, but I love him so much and I just couldn't picture myself with anyone else. I started college a couple months ago and I met this other guy. I've noticed signs that he likes me. He's said that he wishes I was single. He helps me with my homework. He walks me to my car when it's dark. I appreciate this especially because my fiance isn't there to do these things. He goes to a different college. There are so many days that I wonder what it would be like to be with this other guy. I know that I can't because (1) I'm engaged! (2)This other guy is a temporary research student and next week he will go back to his college... which is across the country! Still so many nights I have bad dreams and fantasies. I can't get good sleep. My fiance used to be the first man I thought of when I woke up and I feel horrible because he isn't now. I've talked with him about this and he is trying to do everything he can to make me happy and it does help. But, these wandering thoughts are still inside my head. And, I don't wanna marry someone if I'm not 100 percent sure anymore. What should I do???

It's totally normal to fantasize about other people when you're with someone-it actually can make a relationship healthier. You may be attracted to this guy because it's someone new. I would advise you not to do anything with him and mess up the relationship you have now, especially if you're in love with your fiance-just think how horrible it would be to lose him. Talk to your fiance on the phone more, visit more, etc. It's okay to think about the other guy as long as you don't put your thoughts into actions. Wait until this "other guy" leaves and if you still doubt if you want to marry your fiance, reevaluate your feelings and needs. Don't do something you'll regret in the future. Sometimes we just get too used to that person we love being there for us so think how you would feel if you lost him-it may make you appreciate what you have more.

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Can anyone please tell me the signs of getting your first period? I have not got mine yet and im 13.... I just concerned about it.

When I got mine I had really bad pains in my lower abdomen and bled only slightly. It differs for all girls. I got mine at 11, but I know people who didn't get it until they were 15. It often runs in genetics too, so if the women in your family got theirs around 14 you most likely will too. If you are really athletic, you will also get it at a later age (usually).

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Hello


I have firefox installed into my laptop but lately for the past week or so the browser hasn't been working. (I'm currently using another computer) So basically I can't use the internet at all I also can't go onto the internet to download a different browser. I have wireless connection however when I bought the laptop to my parents house whom have their own connection the browser still didn't work. I've already tried restoring the computer and I have virus protection on it and after 3 scans it said no viruses found.

Any suggestions?

Push ctrl alt and delete then go to processes. If firefox is open on there, end it and then try it again. Also make sure Internet Explorer isn't running. I often had that problem. I use firefox, but IE was also on my computer and it would interfere with firefox.

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