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Q: I really like this guy. He is nice to me most of the time, but sometimes he's mean to me and makes fun of me. I want to move on from him, but I can't. I want to love someone who treats me great and doesn't be mean to me.
How do I move on?

P.S. I know it's not technically "moving on" because we never dated, but just take my word for it.

P.P.S. I also really like this other guy.

My daughter took 2 years to finally dump a guy who treated her much the same way, and while she knows it was the right thing to do (shes 17, hes 20), she still misses him. So to get through it, she is not dating anyone. Otherwise, she will keep hopping from guy to guy, to fill the void, so to speak that the first guy created. If you have a dad who is around and a good guy, spend some time with him. Hes the best guy at your age to make you feel whole, and to give you self worth. Boyfriends come and go but your dad is your dad.

Q: I am 17, female. My best friend is 17 and male. I have known him for nine years, we met in third grade. We were each other's pretty much best friend. I can go to him with anything, I have no problem telling him what I feel I can't say to other's because he will never judge me. He tells me a lot of his problems, too. When I text him upset, he can tell and he asks immediately what is wrong, and vice versa. He struggles with very low confidence because he has a brother who, in his eyes, is perfect and he can't measure up. So, I have to pretty much tell him everyday how great he really is or else he would get upset. He sings and plays guitar, he knows I love his singing voice, so when I ask, he sings for me. We are going to Europe for a music trip in three weeks together and my science teacher is being the biggest douschebag, while my friend is in AP Physics and I am in Chemistry, I had asked him if he could help me get ahead in Chem so I wouldn't be behind when we get back, he said he can try and we stayed after for 2 hours going over Chemistry work, after everything was finished he asked if I understood and I replied that I was so, so. He went over more things with me to help me better understand and he promised we won't leave until I am pro at Chemistry, even though his dad was home from the UK after being away for 2 weeks, he still stayed with me and drove me home after. My friends all say he loves me, his friends say I love him. I think we are both just great friends. A random person came up to me in the hallway after my friend put a cat sticker on my locker and gave me my favorite flavor jolly rancher and said "God, just date already, oh wait, everybody knows you two love each other except you two." Again, we think we are great friends. I reinforced that idea to everybody today when about 12 people felt the need to tell me he was with another girl at a music festival. When I asked my friend about it, jokingly, he didn't give me a straight forward answer which gave everybody reason to again, believe that he is "trying to make me jealous" or he realized he "cant be with me so he's 'settling'"

From an outsider, what do you think? Are we just friends? Thanks! Sorry if it's unorganized and the ideas are everywhere, I just typed what I thought. Thanks again!

Clear the air. Have a DTR (Define The Relationship) with him. Ask: Do we have feelings for each other?
Look each other in the eyes when you ask it. If you both well up inside, it was meant to be. If neither of you well up inside, the answer is NO. If one of you wells up inside and the other does not, there is some work to do on the friendship, because one of you is going to end up hurt someday.

Q: ... could that ever happen????? i mean, i know i'm fat, im 230 pounds. i've come to terms with it but... is it possible for a hot guy to like a chuby girl? i think i have a good personality. i have a great sense of humor, im girly, and i have brown cruly hair, and my friends all coo at me because i'm "cute' sometimes... i mean, is it possible? the guy i like is muscular and hot. i don't expect anything, but i'm just wondering if in general such a thing is plausible... i've never been dated, or even kissed before, sois it because im fat? thanks. ~^3^~

I married a large girl because she loved me. If you are truly comfortable with your size, it should show in how you carry yourself. What I mean is, like the song says "Im sexy and I know it", if you KNOW you are cool with your weight, others will see the confidence and some, not all, but some will see you as sexy and be attracted to your personality first.

PLUS: Lots of guys like a woman with more meat on her! I was having sex once with a super thin, model like girl once and there was nothing to her, i thought i was gonna break her! It was bad sex... But a few nights later, with a bigger gal, the sex was amazing because she had some heft to her and seemed sturdier to me.

Be yourself but be confident! the number two adult websites men look at are bbw sites!

Q: I have this huge problem:
There is this guy who I am not really going out with but I am. There is also another guy who is my bestest guy friend for life. His name is nick. Nick and my Korean friend just broke up? Nick is Vietnamese, Mexican and sexy. We used to be really cloar last year but then we moved to 6th grade and we started transitioning to classes. Nick wasn't allowed to date past year. Any way, my "boyfriend" and I are ok but we are kInd of scared to tlk to each other. He says he loves me alot. I like my boyfriend but I like my best friend as well. Also my female bfflud likes nick too and thinks I should stick with boyfriend. I am bff with about all the black ( not to b racist, I am black) girls on my 6 th grade white team ( we have a white team and blue team for eah grade6-8) All my closest bffs ( simoan, guamian, and nick lking girl) want me with boyfriend. I mean boy friend and I love each other even though we aren't going out but wat about bestie? He woodnt go out with me anyway cause I could never amount up to his sexiness( I'm so close though) and we r totally different races but i still feel for him. Any opinions?

Race should NEVER be a factor if two people love or are attracted to each other.

At your age, boys just want sex. Stick with your girlfriends and make a pact, BFFs stick together and no one dates a guy any of the others have ever broke up with.

And try to stay out of competition with your BFFs for the same guy - it only puffs up the guy into thinkin its rainin bitches and es some love god, (which hes not), AND ruins your friendships. Look beyond the boys of today, look at the friendships for a lifetime.

Q: Ok so 15 year okd from Cali and I'm on my period and I was masturbating in the shower with and inanimate, metal pointy thing. When I reached the point of satisfaction I stopped and stood up strait to rinse off. noticed some blood on it, and then a handful of blood just fell out of my vagina!. I know it wasn't period blood because the period blood freezes when in water. I touched my vagina and there was blood around my hole. I smelled it to see if it was period blood or regular, it was regular. Also I usually stop period bleeding on my 3rd day of my period, but I start bleeding again on the 4th day. I'm guessing I did pop it but I'm scared I did some serious internal damage!. I don't know what to do HELP PLEASE!

If you punctured yourself and have a septic infection, you need medical attention but the vagina has 4 layers of skin to stretch and accept any penis, and indeed a babys full body before tearing usually. Unless the inanimate object had an edge like a knife, you probably didnt puncture. if it was a dildo, or sexual device, it is much less likely you punctured. You may well have popped your own cherry, but women horse riders do the same too, from a rough ride. It can happen by more ways than just playing wit urself.

Point is, if ur in doubling over, wors cramps than menstrual pain, you have a problem. otherwise unless you are still bleeding, ur fine most likely. Red blood is fresh blood, dark blood is old, or "dead" blood.

Q: How far is a womans anis from the vagina

One inch from openng of vag to sphincter of anus.

Q: My husband and I just got married in October and he looked really young he said he was 22 but I looked on his profile and it said he was 42. I'm 19 so he's old enough to be my dad almost. He's been married before and he has 4 kids but his wife and kids left him and never came back to him. I know he's too old for me but I love him and I don't wanna leave him even if he lied to me. I asked him if his profile was right he said yes. Since he lied to me what do I do about it ? Should I keep him or devorce him ? But I hate to leave him he's so sweet and caring.

Well I didnt lie, but maybe he wanted u so much he elt he wouldnt have a chance otherwise..

I'm 44 my wife is 30. If hes not lieing to you about other stuff and ur both in love, then stay!

Q: So my mom is significant for my car she has been paying a car note of her own for 6 years and now she's deciding since hers would be payed off in a month she will sign for me a car but i can't put any money down but by now she should have good credit . What's thee best car dealership to go to? I live in Chicago area if that helps

Stay away from lots that sell oler used cars or "We finance Anyone" or "Buy here pay here" lots. They mostly resell the cars that new car dealers take in trade, and wont keep.

Your best bet is to buy a used rig from a new car lot. You will pay a lil bit more, but get better quality of used car.

I work at a car dealer, and we put to auction anything we wouldnt be proud to sell. Used car lots buy our rejects. Think about that.

Used car lots that have NEWER cars are also a good bet. And, rental car lots generally are good. The cars WERE rentals, but that usually means they were manintained too.

Good luck!

Q: Hey so for the past 3 days I have been having itching and burning sensations in my vaginal. I'm usually a safe person, always use condoms except for Monday of last week. I don't think the guy I was with would have anything but I would rather be safe then sorry. I have an appointment today with the gyno but I would like to be prepared for what the doctor might tell me. I don't know if anything would show up that fast. Please help me

Probably a yeast infection.

Q: i was just wondering what the difference between an LS and an SS Chevy Monte Carlo is. I have been looking at a bunch of different kinds of cars, and to be totally honest im just not sure what the difference is. thankyou!

Ls is a v6, SS is a big burley V8, basically a cop car engine but without the extra heavy duty stuff the cop cars get. You get the motor. And leather!

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