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Heyy, I'm here for anyone who has a question about absolutely anything. My life is pretty dramatic so i have a lot of experience with different things (sadly) So definitely feel free to ask me anything. I love to help others, and am kind, caring, and compassionate. I am kick ass in fashion. I understand family and friend issues. And all that funky other stuff i can help with as well. well thank you very much!I am really into music a lot. I love rock like breaking Benjamin, nonpoint, and many many more. I also love popish songs but not as much. I know a ton about music. I play many sports, my favorites is volleyball, tennis, soccer, and horseback riding.
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I was a new student this year. And this wednesday, my friends talkeed to me in private saying that i had over-sarcasm, but then again, i got the sarcasm influence from them, especially from clara, who became my best friend in school. since then, they stopped hanging with me and i didn't mind them much. i talked to them sometimes, but only sometimes. i got really miserable because i felt like i was losing my friends whom i'm really close to. last week, we were just so close as besties. then thursay, it was the day before our fieldtrip, i asked her if we could sit together in the bus, which i thought she would say yes to because she asked me months ago if we could sit together in the fieldtrip. but sad to say, she said she was already sitting with isabelle and i got so hurt. i got really mad at her, but i didn't show it on the next day, the fieldtrip. me and clara were so close, like peas in a pod. when there are events in school and i bring my camera, both of us are always together. and during the fieldtrip, everybody else had a partner, except me. and it was a sad situation for me. i hung out with other people in the fieldtrip and i talked to clara sometimes. i saw all my pics, and clara wasn't in any of them, not even one. but then my problem is, after they told me about my over-sarcasm, i wanted to change and be friends with her again. but after her just leaving me aside, i dont know what to think anymore. she was one of the best friends i ever had. but she was one of the people who hurt me in my life, and its like i'm losing her. but is she worth it? because i'm not sure anymore. i'd appreciate good advice. thanks in advanced.

-samantha

Dear Samantha,

I almost understand completely because i was in a similar situation over the summer. My best friend for 15 years and i realized she was going to a different school. She and I didnt think much of it and it didnt seem to effect us at all, until she invited me to go with her on a 2 day trip to an island about 30 minutes away.I say yes and we went, now before this she had always gotten new bff's every year but still kept me in that group, i never really cared, until she found this new girl who seemed like she was completely trying to take over. Anyway i went with her and we met a girl name "Vanessa" and they hit it off so did i but i wasnt as obbssesed as she was, anyway long story made short when she started her new school she didnt want anything to do with me, at all, and she blamed it on us being in different schools, yet she somehow had found time to spend every day of every weekend with Vannessa, it hurt me and she was forgetting me after all of our years, i tried changing for her and she didnt seem to notice me at all, then we got into a huge blowout fight that wen on forever. Now we are just out of each others lives, we see each other now and then and its just a hi and bye. it doesnt hurt me anymore because i realize how many other true friends i had and how i was the one she would come too when others let her down and whenever i needed her she didnt really seem to care. Just realize that you need to find other friends and leave her beacuse if she was truly your friend she would be coming after you when she realizes you can move on.


I really hoped i Helped!...Bye!

xoxox

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I'm a 21 year old woman and I live alone. My next-door neighbor is a middle-aged man, and I feel that he gives me excess attention. Since I moved here last year, he's left several gifts on my doorstep, including t-shirts, candies, home-grown vegetables, and long letters about how people come into your life for a reason. He often offers to fix up my car or cook for me. Last year, I contacted my property managment and, without naming names, let them know that a neighbor was being too friendly. What scares me is that they knew it was him, and he laid low for a bit. Eventually he confronted me, jokingly asking if I really thought he meant me harm. At one point, a policeman knocked and asked me if I knew my "older, African-American neighbor" but wouldn't tell me why. I feel somewhat guilty of racism and snobbery, but, more importantly, I don't feel entirely secure. He might be spying on me. He knows if I've been napping or on my computer. Tonight I was dozing off on the couch, having a little alone time, when he knocked. I have blinds, but I noticed they were a bit tilted. When I opened, he asked if I were "daydreaming" and then asked my boyfriend's name, claiming he might have received a package for him. I've had all kinds of weid encounters with him in the past--he told me I was hot once, and once my boyfriend and I forgot the window was open, and I when we left my apartment, we saw he had hung a bag of candy from my doorknob. Truth be told, he gives me the creeps. Am I a racist or a snob, or do I really have something to worry about? Contacting the management didn't work, so what should I do?

It doesn's seem like you are racist to me, unless you are. I think you have the right to be a little insecure about your surroundings. I would suggest contacting the authorities or moving.

xoxox

hope i helped.

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I am only 14 and i live in Metairie,LA. i was hit by hurricane Katrina and was sent to lafayette to live with my Aunt with my mom and sister all last year. we have just moved back and am now liveing with my dad again. Since the school year started i have been in a state of depression. It wasnt as bad at first. My sister and i are only 15 months apart. we were very close. Since we now go to the same school i get treated like i am her bitch. but then at home its like we are sisters again. i am to tired to eat, i dont do homework i sleep in all of my classes, and ttruthfuly dont care anymore. i have tried to kill my slef but my friend steped in and got me help. i went and saw a concerlur and that did nothing. i do not fit in with my family. my mother and i used to be so close and she was very involved in my life. i used to be able to tell her eveyrthing but im so scared to talk to her and tell her what is really going on in my life. i dont get along with my dad. my sister is a saint in my parents eyes. to my dad i do nothing right even when he is in the wrong im still not right. i get in these moods where nothing feels better then to cut myslef or just the thought of pulling that triger makes me feel more calm. i dont like it when i am like this but i cant help it. I am in fear of what i might do tomyslef when no one is there to stop me. I want to move back in with my Aunt. There in lafyette i feel safe. i dont get into those moods. I am currently spending a weekend with my Aunt and i want to bring up the topic of moving in with her to My aunt and my mother. I dont know how to tell them what i am going through, im afraid my mom will get mad and eveyrhting will just get worse. i have no idea how to tell her whats going on. i sugar coat everyhting with a smile but lately i just dont feel like lieing anymore and i hate kepping this from my mom but i just dont know how to start the conversation.. please any ideas are welcome!

heyy,

Honestly i know what you mean, i live in Florida and get hit by many hurricanes every year, even though none can compare to what happened there. I think you need to keep one main thought in mind, The hurricane may have damaged your City, but it didnt take away your precious memories. You cant let a tradegy take over your life, my aunt was in the hospital in new orleans when it hit and she ended up passing on, it hurt and then i realized i wasnt going to let the storm win (if that makes sense to you) you cant let it take over your life and take away things that were so precious to you at one point. Try to slowly get back to your oldself.

i hope i helped!

xoxox

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i really like the hollister, abercrombie, and ae styles but they are too expensive for my budget. do you know if these stores ever have any big sales? if they do when?

thanks!

Heyy,

well like most of these people already said the websites usually have great sale deals. You can also try going to American Eagle, Wet Seal, Forever 21, and H&M, there are many great deals there for cute clothes. I also recomment target, they are coming out with adorabel british brands, and britain's style is always extremely chic and in. So i hope you liked it!

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are uggs still in style and if they are do you wear them with your pants tucked into them or kept out?

Hey,

Honestly i dont adore uggs but they are coming back into style, especially in colder cities. The tans and nuetral colors are best to stick to, no pinks or purples that is like fashion suicide! If you would wear them skinny jeans and tucked into would be tre cute!

hope i helped!

xoxox

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My hair is long and straight (light brown kinda thick). If I leave it down all day, it gets staticy. I can put it in a ponytail but i look with a geek kinda. not that ponytails ARE geeky they LOOK geeky on me. i dont hav that gorgeous thin hair that has the perfectly cool bump in a ponytail or the kind that looks good in a bun either.
anyway, i want to get sidebangs or layers but i play a lot of sports so i need to be able to put my hair up.
i kno this isnt much of a question, but any advice at all?


Heyy,

I understand what you mean, it doesnt necessarily happen to me but it used to. I have very thick, yet beautiful hair and i wear it in a ponytail very often, it tends to look good on me even with the bumps but i am not so fortunate all the time, sometimes my hair is out of control and frizzy so i use a leave in conditioner (the kind from spray bottles) and mix it with a little spray gel,it works well for me. I also play many sports such as volleyball, soccer, tennis, and horseback riding, its hard to keep good hair while working out and playing hard, so just pack some hairspray and a brush in your after school bag and redo your hair before you go out to practice.


Good luck! xoxo

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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.



Hey,

I honestly think that maybe you should wait a while, if you feel you arnt ready then you should never go through with it. you should also make sure this is the right guy for you, if he isnt then you may make a giant mistake. Of course there are always the risks of std's, pregnacy, and more. if you feel you must then use protection. And remeber if he turns 18 and your still 14 or 15 it will be considered rape. Well i hope you trust your heart and dont get rushed into anything. Anal may be pleasurable for him but in most cases us women cant stand it.

xoxox love you !

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ok os i have a bff! like we are such good friends and we have known each other since pre school. she is a really good friend and all. and she got a boyfriend. i am friends with him too becuase of church. he doesnt live in our town but he goes to our church em and my friend live in the same town. they went out for like 5 or 6 months and he broke up with ehr for another girl. she was in tears forever. he realized what he did and he is sorry liek i know he means it. now they are going back out agian it hass been two moths. i think its cute too. she loves him alot. like alot alot. but i think she can do alot better. and i honestly dont think he loves her as much as she thinks he does. and she thinks its just becasue im around. but i have noticed hes no different when im there. but i think he loves her considering he took a needle and carved her name and his skin to a point where he has a scaar of her name. well. the only thing im really worried about is that i feel liek im losing a friend. i mean i know we will never not be friends. we've known each otehr for 11 years and had not one fight. but like shes too obsessed with her boyfriend. liek we were talking i dont know what it was about but i wanted to go bak early to lunch to hang out with the kid i like. with her. she had no problem with it she thought it was cute and this is the first time i asked her to do something liek this and it was the last i wont do it often because i will feel bad. but like shes like oh its ok because i would choose my boyfriend over you. and she constantly says that. liek that she would rather be with him than any other friend. but liek it really hurts me. liek alot. and it happened the last time wen they broke up its like i knew she was gonna get her heart broken. and its liek since she had no boyfriend she needed her friends to hang out with her. but we had other stuff to do liek we couldnt be there for her but we were jsut not 24/7. now there going out again and im afraid she gonna get hurt again and come crying back for like a month. because i know they wont last long. its her first and only "real" boyfriend and hes not one that will stay with only one girl. and most high school sweet hearts get married. i mean they could. but its like shouldnt friends come first because most likely they will be there forever and thats a promise. and like my friends would get mad at me if i chose my boyfriend over them and at the mall i was talking to my friends about this kind of stuff and liek we were asking questions saying like ooh its a rule. you cant choose a boyfriend over us. and i mean many people say this. and all. but basically what do ido? because i dont want to confront my best friend for like ever about this because i know this would get her mad. but her boyfriend i think is realizing this and is including me in there stuff so i mean i am greatful for this. btu liek she will come up to me and say we need time by our selves. but im like i try to leave but he feels bad i guess so he wont let me go for long. and i dont know. i mean i love her boyfriend hes liek a brother to me. like hes really nice. and he realizes what is happening but my friend thinks its cool and its okay. i mean it is okay but its sort of rude. i mean when i had my boyfriend thats one of the reasos he like me becuase i wasnt obsessed with him and i loved my friends (more than him) i know wierd. but she is OBSESSED with her boyfriend. i just dont know what to do and i basically have to do everything for her most of the time. but i mean i understand what is happening but i dont know. liek she wants me to be there with her becasue we made a promise that we would be there for our "firsts" like first time getting asked out..first kiss... so forth. and i was there for both of that with her. but she wasnt there for my first kiss because she had to leave because she needed to call kenny. and i mean she realized she missed it and she was upset but i feel like her having a boyfriend is controlling her life. but i dont know. i am one confused person. so what do ido?

sorry this is so long


--Criss

Hey, I understand almost averything your going through, my bff is boy crazy, she has had like a ton of boyfriends and had been ubbsesed when she can honestly do much better. I know that the guys she dates are good people but i constantly remind her that its not that serious and she shoulndt let him control her life, she gets angry when i do this but she gets over it. i think the best thing you can do is maybe while having a girl talk with her one night you could say something like, idk i think you could do a little better with another guy because your soo ah-mazing he might not be good enough for you. I hope i helped.

xoxox remember ask me anything! love you BYE!

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