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am i losing my bff? sorry its so long
ok os i have a bff! like we are such good friends and we have known each other since pre school. she is a really good friend and all. and she got a boyfriend. i am friends with him too becuase of church. he doesnt live in our town but he goes to our church em and my friend live in the same town. they went out for like 5 or 6 months and he broke up with ehr for another girl. she was in tears forever. he realized what he did and he is sorry liek i know he means it. now they are going back out agian it hass been two moths. i think its cute too. she loves him alot. like alot alot. but i think she can do alot better. and i honestly dont think he loves her as much as she thinks he does. and she thinks its just becasue im around. but i have noticed hes no different when im there. but i think he loves her considering he took a needle and carved her name and his skin to a point where he has a scaar of her name. well. the only thing im really worried about is that i feel liek im losing a friend. i mean i know we will never not be friends. we've known each otehr for 11 years and had not one fight. but like shes too obsessed with her boyfriend. liek we were talking i dont know what it was about but i wanted to go bak early to lunch to hang out with the kid i like. with her. she had no problem with it she thought it was cute and this is the first time i asked her to do something liek this and it was the last i wont do it often because i will feel bad. but like shes like oh its ok because i would choose my boyfriend over you. and she constantly says that. liek that she would rather be with him than any other friend. but liek it really hurts me. liek alot. and it happened the last time wen they broke up its like i knew she was gonna get her heart broken. and its liek since she had no boyfriend she needed her friends to hang out with her. but we had other stuff to do liek we couldnt be there for her but we were jsut not 24/7. now there going out again and im afraid she gonna get hurt again and come crying back for like a month. because i know they wont last long. its her first and only "real" boyfriend and hes not one that will stay with only one girl. and most high school sweet hearts get married. i mean they could. but its like shouldnt friends come first because most likely they will be there forever and thats a promise. and like my friends would get mad at me if i chose my boyfriend over them and at the mall i was talking to my friends about this kind of stuff and liek we were asking questions saying like ooh its a rule. you cant choose a boyfriend over us. and i mean many people say this. and all. but basically what do ido? because i dont want to confront my best friend for like ever about this because i know this would get her mad. but her boyfriend i think is realizing this and is including me in there stuff so i mean i am greatful for this. btu liek she will come up to me and say we need time by our selves. but im like i try to leave but he feels bad i guess so he wont let me go for long. and i dont know. i mean i love her boyfriend hes liek a brother to me. like hes really nice. and he realizes what is happening but my friend thinks its cool and its okay. i mean it is okay but its sort of rude. i mean when i had my boyfriend thats one of the reasos he like me becuase i wasnt obsessed with him and i loved my friends (more than him) i know wierd. but she is OBSESSED with her boyfriend. i just dont know what to do and i basically have to do everything for her most of the time. but i mean i understand what is happening but i dont know. liek she wants me to be there with her becasue we made a promise that we would be there for our "firsts" like first time getting asked out..first kiss... so forth. and i was there for both of that with her. but she wasnt there for my first kiss because she had to leave because she needed to call kenny. and i mean she realized she missed it and she was upset but i feel like her having a boyfriend is controlling her life. but i dont know. i am one confused person. so what do ido?
sorry this is so long
--Criss
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Hey, I understand almost averything your going through, my bff is boy crazy, she has had like a ton of boyfriends and had been ubbsesed when she can honestly do much better. I know that the guys she dates are good people but i constantly remind her that its not that serious and she shoulndt let him control her life, she gets angry when i do this but she gets over it. i think the best thing you can do is maybe while having a girl talk with her one night you could say something like, idk i think you could do a little better with another guy because your soo ah-mazing he might not be good enough for you. I hope i helped.
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