Hey yall! My names Madison, and I'm 17 years old. I'm a Senior in Highschool, and have gone through ALOT of events. I would love to take on your problems, or advice. I love helping others!
I am open to all most ANY type of question, so keep throwing them at me!
Gender: Female
Location: Eden Prairie
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Age: 17
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hey babe... well you know me but and we are really good friends so you might be able to guess who this is. k, so i started going out with this new guy who i met through a bunch of my guy friends. we have a lot in common and he treats me very well! like a million times better than all my exs combined! he calls me every night and every morning, we talk on the phone for hours. sounds good right? well heres my dilemma, its only been about 2 weeks into our relationship and we've really only known each other for about 3 weeks (i know not long lol) but he already tells me how much hes in love with me and he could never leave me and he expects for me to say it back but i really want when i say "i love you" for it to mean it! not like how people throw the term around these days! i hate that! i dont know what to say to him and im getting close to saying it just to shut him up! also i feel attracted to him, or else i wouldnt be dating him, but not very strongly. i am an extremely open and sexual person but i dont feel like i want to be with him, which is really weird for me! usually im like having hookups in a weekend with 2 different guys (okay that was only once, and i was SINGLE)... i just dont know what to do about lacking the sexual attration where i just dont want to take my hands off him and i want to rape him! thats what i want and with him its just not there, but he cares a lot about me, hes a great guy, and he loves me! i just dont know what to do! thank you for your advice ahead of time! (link)
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Guys are just tough ey? Lol.
I think you did the right thing by not saying "I love you too," if you didnt mean it. I agree, that term is abused way to often by people who don't know one thing about love.
From what I'm reading, he seems more into you, then you are into him. This situation is clearly normal unfortantly, I don't think I can recall a couple who loved eachother equaly.
Sometimes you meet a guy who is the complete package, and you find yourself not needing to reach out and indulge in your wantings. ( sexualy).
If you think you are lacking the sexual tention in the relationship, theres only two things you can do: 1) Make the first move yourself, nothing wrong with that. 2) leave him for someone who is willing to satify you. ( wow i sound like a sex theripest! lol.) You said yourself that hes a great guys, and treats you well, I wouldn't leave him, But I would let him know that your not quiet ready to say " I love you" back. If hes a great guy like you said, I think he would understand.
I hope that I made any sense at all!
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Hey Mad! yea i'm 15 a GIRL! haha You've known me since you were born. ERIN yea baby! O well! i do have a mucho problemo! My best friend from mound broke up with her boyfriend a few days after school let out. well, i've liked her Ex since the fricken 5th grade!! i can never stop thinking about him. he's one of the greatest guys i've ever met. ok well my problem is...right now he and i are VERY good friends, we talk on the phone all the time and hang out a lot. many people think that we are dating! Well my best friend doesn't have a clue, and i have a feeling that we are going to start dating soon. everyone (who knows...only a selected few) think we will date soon! but actually the 2nd problem is that i THINK he knows i have a thing for him....but i really dont want to ruin our perfectly good friendship. Alright to summarize... how should i break the news to my best friend, and how do i get HIM to see how much i care about him without ruining our friendship? Help mad! I'm in a pickle! (link)
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ERIN!
If I were you, I would have a chat with your friend, and tell her how you feel about this guy.
If shes a good friend, she will understand in due time.
I think that after you have the go ahead from your friend, I would try being more flirty, even you said you think that you two will be going out soon. Just keep up what you are doing.
Whenever you go out with one of your good friends, you are taking that chance of ruining your friendship. Friends can become more, but seldom does more become friends... But hey i could be wrong.
I would just show him how you feel with the little stuff you do or say.
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Hey, I know you're only 15 and years away from this topic, but I thought I'd ask anyway.
I'm a senior girl in college (23yrs) and my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 years now. We talked about marriage years ago and discussed our ideal time to get married. We both wanted to wait until we graduated from college.
I'm graduating in a few months and well... his college career has not been as successful. He has at least 3 years left.
Recently a lot of our friends have been getting married, engaged or have begun looking at rings. I'm totally jealous! These are couples that haven't been together nearly as long as we have and I feel like... I feel like it's my turn, not theirs. I'm te one who's put the time and effort into a long term relationship, it's not fair.
I've talked to my boyfriend about it, but he doesn't want to rush things. When I graduate I don't plan on staying in this farm town, but he wants to finish out his degree at our school... what do I do?
I want forever right now. It's my turn. (link)
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Getting married is a life long commitment, and surely not something you want to rush into.
Do you want to get married just becuase everyone else is? I could understand the jelously, but more then likely the couple that rushes into marraige has the more problems.
Marriage is all about sacrafices ( sp?). Everyone has to sacrfice things, either you scacrficing 3 years of your life, by staying in your home town. Or him scacrficing finishing college.
I would sit down with him and have a long talk about both of your futures. You might feel ready for marraige, but you could be wrong. Figure out if this is the man you wish to spend the rest of your life with.
Marraige is not something you should rush into.
I wish you the best of luck
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ok well im 15 and female and i really like this guy and he told me he likes me to....but whenever i ask him to hang out he says hes busy...and its really obvious that he is lying becuase it is all the time!! and i have caught him a couple times lying...and he always asks me for pictures..like not sick ones just like pics of me..and I don't know i feel like he is just pretending to like me to get action from me? sometimes it seems like he really likes me like he will say "i love you" before he leaves but other times its like he has better things to do to even say hey to me? im sooo lost idk i really like him..all my friends say i can do better but they dont understand theres just something about him that makes it so i cant be mad at him? got any advice for me? (link)
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Well you said it yourself, He's not a loyal person. If he's lying to you now, do you think he's going to change in the future.
Loyality, trust, and communication are key in any relationship, if its a love one, or a friendship. If any of those are lacking, then at one point the relationship will take a bad turn.
I agree that guys are very confusing at times, if I were you I wouldnt go a throw my heart out at this guy, but insted play it low. See how it all works out, maybe he can be a nice guy, but only time can see.
I hope I helped.
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ok this may sound really stupid but whenever it's that time of the month i get SOO depressed .. i have no clue why either. and sometimes it just gets to the point to where i feel like just comitting suicide. i stay up night after night thinking of a lot of things and i barely get any sleep. i just really need some help on what to do because i don't want to go through with this the rest of my life and being really depressed every month. pllz if you have any advice HELP ME! (link)
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I'm sorry about your troublesome situation. I must say that I go through the same thing when I'm having my "time of the month." Your not alone. When I get really down, I talk to my friends, or listen to music. It helps me cope, maybe it would help you also.
I think everyone has thought of suicide at one point in their lifetime, but if you are constantly thinking about it, you might want to talk to your local doctor.
You could also be a very emotional person during her period. Some that PMS more or less emotionaly.
I hope my advice helped, and please get checked if it comes to that exstent.
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i liked this guy for awhile for awhile and i thought if i wen tout with him id be like "happy" u could say casue i was like REALLY sad about breaking up with this other guy cause i don't know how to put it i REALLY REALLY like him! like when we broke up i cried my self to sleep and when he started to go out with this girl i cried that night cause they don't even know eache other and she didn't know ONE FRICKING thing about him! and it bugged hte crap outta me but now there over so i really don't care..anywho i thought i would be happy when i went out with this other guy cause when i go out with the other guy im like SUPER happy! like soo happy its not even funny!and then when we started goin gout i wasn't really happr i still missed the other guy and i still liked him and then i kinda got over him and then now im starting to like him again and i really don't know what to do cause i can't talk to my mom about and my brother doesn't get it at all..........................................................................................so now im really confussed what should i do? (link)
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Well sadly, theres not alot you can do. These are emotions you are deeling with. I can tell you really liked this guy, and it takes time to get over a guy, if ever. Going out with another guy covers up the feelings you had before, but as allways, those feelings will come back unfortantly.
A Breakup is like a new scar, it was slowly fade away, but the mark will allways remain.
I dont think that anyone truely gets over a person, I think they learn to live with out them.
To try and keep your mind of the guy, do activitys that involve thinking, like sports. Or hang out with your friends, they are allways there to confert you in your times of need.
I hope you feel better, and that i made any sense at all..
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Well theres this guy who is about a lot older than me and he has been a really good person to me no matter the situation. I love him to death as a friend but now I think that I genuinely love him. Trouble is he doesnt know, he has a gf, and it would completely destroy my friendship with him if he knew! I want to tell him sometime... but it would mess everything up. Plz help me! (link)
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The last thing you want to do is destroy your friendship. Try letting him know that you like him more by doing little things. I wouldnt come out and say "I love you," but try doing things that represent love. Your also dont want to break up his relationship, becuase thats not something friends would do.
I would just play it cool for a while, but show him you care in other ways. And then, I guess you have to let fate play its part.
Best of luck.
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hey I'm jr. in highschool and i play baseball. recently i have been finding about myself that I am attracted to the same sex. I'm not a hornball, but its strong enough attraction that I know that I am gay. I am so afraid to come out to anyone or do anything about it. But it makes me unhappy to not beable to express how I feel to anyone. I've tryed telling my mom, but she said it was just probably a stage I'm going through and she doesnt think I'm seriouse. also I play baseball right? And I dont know if its the same at your school but baseball players or anyone that plays varsity sports, cannot be gay, because of the reputation that they have. There the strong cocky jocks, and if any of my good friends found out I was gay... they would freak out and look at me differently, and i dont think i could live with that. I'm very much NOT attracted to anyone on my team or anyone that i know is straight but I dont think I could get that point across to the guys. (link)
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Well I'm sorry you are feeling unhappy and afraid, those are the worst emotions.
You could very much be going through a stage at the moment. I think alot of teenager go through a "Bi-curious" stage. It could also mean you are gay. If you truely think you are gay, it takes a alot of courage to come out and announce it. It takes some people years to come forward, but they eventually do becuase they dont want to be ashamed of who they are. I think when you are ready, sit your mom down, and tell her how you are feeling, with out her intrupting. Then let her speak on what she thinks. With the friend situation, I think that would be the hardest, because teenagers can be so mean. If or when you come out to your friends, let them know you dont have feelings for them, but you wish that they still value your friendship, and hope things are not going to become werid in the future. Knowing most guys, they would get scared or weired out by this situation, which is tough. But you find your true friends in times like these.
I dont completly understand the baseball situation, I think your sexuality should have NO SAY what-so-ever in what sports you play. And if they kick you off the team or whatever, you could easyesly sue for harassment.
I hope you find what answers you are seeking, and that I helped you out somewhat.
Keep me up-dated with your choices
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OK well my sister is like my best friend in teh whole world! i luv her so much but it seems like she ahs gone thro way to much for someone her age my parents r idiots to her all teh time and i admire her so much be cause she has had to fight for everything she has i feel so abd for her and i dont kno how to help her and let her kno i am here for her because she just wont talka bout it with anyone. thats like how she deals with it all like she doesnt need anyones help and she will be fine on her own but i kno she rele does need me! or need someone. u wouls never kno when u look at her how much she is hurting and no one knos but me and some of her rele close friends! how do i help her?? (link)
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Have you told her that your there for her? If I were you, I would sit her down, and let her know what you think of her. Tell her that you admire her for her bravery, but also its ok to let her emotions show, its ok to cry a little, it doesnt make her any weaker.Tell her that being your sister, that no matter what, you will be there for her allways.
It truely does help knowing that you have friends and family to fall back on when times get hard.
Let her know you care about her, sometimes things can get out of control, and you could never get to say what you wanted.
I hope I have helped you.
Please let her know you are there and care.
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Hey. I'm a tenth grader at Eden Prairie, ( well since seniors are pretty much gone I consider myself a soph ), and got this site from one of your good friends. I've seen you alot in the halls but never been formally introduced. Anyways, I've always thought about girls and fantasized 24/7 about sex. But last weekend I was drunk and this 16 yr old hollister model, his names Ryan from Edina, ended up taking advantage of me because I was drunk and gave me head. This was at a party I went to with my cousin in Lakeville. The thing is, I wasn't drunk to the point where I didn't remember it. I just kinda layed back and didn't stop him. I knew what was happening but I was just too drunk to really care. I've never really been curious about guys and when I was presented with this option, I didn't pass it by which scares me. Does this mean I'm gay, bi or straight? I'm real confused and told a gay guy my situation and he told me he thinks I'm straight, but if I wasn't worried about it, I wouldn't have the balls to ask you this. Please give me the best advice you can. I know your a sophmore too, but I heard girls minds develop faster and you seem pretty good with helping people. Please give me the best help you can and don't leave anything out because I can't handle this without a second opinion, Thanx Mad (link)
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Well I understand your confused, I think anyone in your situation would be. Actually I think alot of teenagers have come across a situation similur to yours at one time in their lives.
You said you find women attracted, and have never pondered on the topic of men right? Well I think that might answer your question. Keep in mind that you said that you were drunk that night. Even though you knew what was going on, I still think that the drinking could have impared your judgement.
If you ask anyone in this school, I bet more then half had said they have kissed or some something with the same sex, either as a dare, or they were going through a Bi-curious stage.
From what you are telling me, I would consider yourself straight, becuase you said you find women attracted. Maybe the reason you let it happen was becuase your judgement was impared, maybe it was becuase it was something new to you. Either way, I think only you can truely answer the question you are seeking, sure you can get imput with others, but I think you know the answer.
I hope I helped somewhat
p.s( I'm actually a freshman this year, will be a soph next year, actually in.. 6 something days! wooo hooo)
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ok this guy asked me out yesterday and i said yes...my friend will be fricken pissed at me when she finds out im datin ghim casue she hates him..how do i break the news? (link)
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Hmmm thats a tough one..
I think i would mention it to her for sure, and ask how she feels about the situation. Tell her you really like this kid, and your happy. Ask her if she could put her feelings aside, and be supportive.
If she takes it the wrong way, give her time. She will come to her senses soon enough.
Best of luck
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Ok so me and this guy were fooling around and he wanted to have sex and i said no but he put it in anyways and i just let it happen. Was i raped or not? I told him no, but then i didnt really stop him after it happened...and now i might be pregnant?! what do i do?! im only 14! (link)
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It is rape if you said NO. Once he is going agiasnt your will, it is considered rape. Its rape if you said NO 1 time, or 1000 times, its still rape.
The whole pregent issue.. have you missed a period yet? Or are you talking about being worried in the future. Well i would advice you to go and get tested, but if it happened recently, i dont know how quick you can get accurate info.
But most of all, dont go through this by yourself. Its one of the hardest things you can do. Tell a family member, a teacher, or even the police. Those people are out there to help you. Ask for help, its the smartest and safest thing you can do. I wish you the best luck, and please keep on posting with more questions!
I'm here for you if you need me!
I hope for the best
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ok so i really like this guy and hes like my best friend but the thing is he already has a girlfriend! he knows i like him and he said that he likes me too but he likes his girlfriend more! we flirt all the time and talk and stuff but he always ends up saying something about how he and his girlfriend are perfect together and how he hopes they will last a long time that breaks my heart and makes me feel like ####! i dont understand why he does this...should i say something to him or just let it be?? what should i do?? (link)
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Hm thats a hard question.. Well clearly if he has feelings for his girlfriend and you, means hes not to dovoted to just one. Which might end up leading to problems if you do go out down the road. He's your best friend you say, well then i wouldnt urge him to leave his GF, becuase hey friends dont just go and do that. If he thinks that you 2 should go out, he would leave his gf and go to you. Now when you are togehter and he brings up how hes loves his girlfriend so much.. say something about it, be like.. "If you love your girlfriend so much, then why do you say you have feelings for me?" let him be the one to explain his feelings, and dont you try and analize them yourself. I wish you the best of luck tho!
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how do you know when its over? (link)
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What exactly do you mean by its over? Over as in a relationship wise? I dont think its ever truely over, i think you just learn to live without it in your life... which takes alot of time... time and acceptence...
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i hat e school i never go...well my question is...i am to sick days away from having to repeat the grade for the 2 tine...plzzzzz help me decide what to do!!1
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hmm thats a tough situation..
Have you thought about your future much? Do you plan on college? Its going to be hard repeating the same grade agian, colleges froun upon such.
For me I go to school for: 1) i'm forced to,2)All my really good friends are there, and its fun socializing,3)I plan on doing something with the education i have erned.
I would recomend getting a good education, and you can only do that by going to school, if you truely hate it, think of it like this. You are only in school for 5 hours maybe more or less... theres 24 hours in a day..you can have alot of time to do stuff in the other 19 hours of the day, and thank the lord for weekends.
I say give it one more try, you might be able to find something you are good at and life! Dont give up on your education now, becuase later it might be to late
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