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I'm 16 years old and I'm a Christian. I love to give advice and help people. I'm definitely not perfect and sometimes i need advice as well. I'm a Cheerleader at my high school and my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He recently graduated and moved to Florida :-(. Well, that's a little bit of info about me! Feel free to ask me any questions!

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One of my teachers is always making fun of the students. I know it is just in good fun but 2 girls started crying over this. Should i tell someone or just let him go on making fun of everyone?
Please i need help!

TELL SOMEONE! tell the department head or go with a group of friend and report him to your guidance counselor. No teacher should EVER make a student feel bad and he should be fired. Some action should be taken so this situation doesnt get worse.

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What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
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That happened to one of my friends in 7th grade. She, fortunatelly, had another school to fall back on. No matter what school you go to, private or public, there will always be the same social groups. You might want to discuss this swith your teachers privately or your guidance counselor. If things done improve consider transfering schools.

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Ok, I am not fat but actually pretty skinny but I have a little bit of extra fat that I'd like to get rid of. I usually eat right and excersize just about everyday. Does anybody know some pilates/yoga/cardio workout just so some of the excess chub will go away? thanks

TAEBO! it works GREAT! and its so much fun once you get past the whole "feel stupid doing it" but it really works!

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Hey.. i got this thing with my parents, my moms ok.. i guess were all not so close.. but we still talk you know. well see my parents useally just argue.. alot.. but its becoming more violent. my dad hit me once before.. then slammed me into the tv shelf thingy. and sometimes into the walls. everytime i tell them to stop up my dad would tell.. you keep your mouth shut or i`ll shut it for you.. i dunno whats gunna happen after like.. 1 day thats over.. then they argue over somehting else thats really stupid. my problem is.. i have a hard time telling my friends. I got this one friend.. cause she knows how it feels and all.. and im bi i have a girl friend.. (ima girl to) and i have a hard time talking to her bout it.. whats a good way to open up.. sorry this is long...
i`ll rate.. please help.
thanks everyone!

Okay, first off. You NEED to talk to an ADULT that you trust! Maybe your history teacher or civil rights leader. A guidance counselor or call up an aunt or older cousin. ANYONE! Don't worry about the threats that come from your dad. If you tell someone you trust what is going on and say that you don't want to be in your home for a while then I'm sure they will do something about it ASAP! jsut tell someone everything! don't worry about feeling ashamed or like it's your fault just get yourself out of the situation! you dont deserve to be treated like that! no one does!

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heyy...
well i like hanging out wit these boys and wen my best friend is with them they all ignore me! most of the guyz no it bothers me but they say that they cant help it but my friend ignores me if shes hanging out with ANYONE thats not me..wat do i do??

This can sometimes be a touch situation. By advice to you is to just let it go. If you find that they are ignoring you go find something else to do or other firneds to talk to. By doing this you're not ditching them (If they think or say that just tell them the truth and you dont appreciate being ignored so you found some other friends to hang out with for a while). Also keep in mind that if they really are your friends and care about you they will respond to you if you talk to them and tell them how you feel. If you and your friend both agree that by being friends with these boys are tearing you two apart, then maybe you need to have a girly night for just the both of you. Just to get back to the basis of your friendship. No boys are worth losing a friend over! always remember that! so talk to her and find out how she really feels and tell her how you feel. Try not to get upset with her just talk rationally and I'm sure you'll see an improvement in your friendship.

-Stefiny

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I really need some advice.
I am a 15/F ....I have gone out with this one guy about 5 or 6 times (we arent datiing just hooking up). We were introduced by a friend (he's 16) and is (or seems) like a really good guy. My parents are away for the whole weekend and my sister is going to be out tomorrow night and I think this guy is coming over. We have hooked up.. but nothing more then that. I am kind of concerned that something is going to happen that I don't want to happen (i am a virgin). I don't know If i'm just overly worried or what. do u think its a bad idea for him to come over considering the circumstances? Is it suggesting that I want something more then just hooking up? Please give me your advice. Especially the boys here. Thanks.

I do think it might be a bad idea if he comes over. He might get the wrong idea about you having the house to yourself and inviting him over. boys are very horny... I think that because you are a virgin you need to be comfident in that. If you still want him to come over to hang out I think thats fine (just don't get caught!lol) but if he tries something with you sexually that you dont think is a good idea then say no. make sure he DOES NOT PRESSURE YOU. If you feel like things might get a little awkward then plan ahead and think of an action movie or comedy movie that you can watch together, or have other friends come over as well so you're not alone together. If i were you I would wait a while longer before considering sex with anyone and make sure it's someone very special that you've gone out with more than 5 or 6 times. This could also be a great opportunity to find out who this guy really is and if hes someone you really want to start dating.
16/f -stefiny
g-luck!

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hi i'm 13 and a Christian but i have a bad habit of lying...i know that its really bad like i dont lie big time just like little white lies but they r still bad so do any of u know any bible verses on lying, not lying,how lying is bad and stuff like that? plz help!! ~i rate high~

I'm 16 and am a Christian, too. I've been born again and believe in the power or prayer. My suggestions to you are to try and read your Bible EVERY DAY. It is very dificult to understand, but keep at it! It will become easier after a while, I promise. Maybe get a little devotion book and follow that every morning or might. Make a special time in the dsay (EVERY DAY) to pray and read your Bible. PRAY! PRAY! PRAY! Pray and ask God to help you with your bad habits. No matter how small or big your problem is, God is bigger! He loves to hear his children come to him for help! Stay strong in your faith and keep praying! I'll pray for you! -Stefiny

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i have liked this guy 4 a year now and the other day he told me how he truely feels about me and then i did the same. and today i asked him if he would every consider havin a realtionship with me and he said ya for shu every body deseves a chance as long as you mean tha lovin part, and am just lookin for a girl tha i can stay with for a long time. and i dont know what to say more to get him to ask me out! he gave me a kiss today and i did the same back but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me and tell me what to tell him more? plz and thank you.

I think what you should do is just wait things out and see how they go. keep hanging out with him and get to him the 'real him'. be yourself around him and show him the 'real you'. if you are ment to be together you will just know. don't worry so much about him asking you out because I think that's so overreated. My boyfriend and I never really did that whole asking out thing. We liked each other and that was enough. We acted like we were dating and hung out all the time and kissed and did all the boyfriend/girlfriend things. I think that the name or title of a boyfriend/girlfriend it just pressure, thats all it is. It's just a name and a relationship shouldn't be based on that, it should be based on how you truly feel about each other. JUST BE PATIENT AND ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH HIM!
-stefiny

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