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I'm 15/female.

I am not an experienced kisser.
I am dating someone who is.
Is kissing/making out something that just comes naturally and I'll get used to it right away?
Or is there a lot more to it? (link)
You just have to learn to kiss by yourself... Nobody can really "teach you". Just rub eachother's lips up and down (open and close your lips slowly)... Then if he uses tongue use yours also, just like your licking ice cream, lick his tongue slowly. Move your tongue up and down slowly and also your lips up and down slowly. Also, put one of your hands on the back of his head and very slowly play with the back of his hair while kissing him. That might do the trick heh. Hope this really helped you out.


my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship? (link)
First of all, if he really IS your best friend, he wouldn't be trying to "get with you". I think he's been lying to you. If a guy really wants to be "best freinds" with a girl, he wouldn't be trying to SLEEP WITH HER... Be careful because he might just want to do you before high school because he thinks he might not get the chance to if he never sees you after high school. If he was a true best friend, he wouldn't try to do it with you... Be smart and ditch the fake. All he wanted from you was sex and now he thinks he can get it... I hope you think about it carefully because if a guy and girl are best friends, they wouldn't be trying to do it. hehe I hope this helps.



16 f. chicago, il
if i have sex with a 24 yr old male.. and im not unwilling either (i know. i'm horrible.)
what would the police do to him if neone found out?
thanks (link)
Well you ARE considered a minor but i believe that you should just "keep it quiet" between you and your special one at least until your old enough... Then who cares. When you're old enough to do it nobody can stop you. But you should first find out if this man really loves you because usually guys that much older are just looking for a girl that will give it to them and then they will leave when they have had enough... So make sure he isn't one of those guys. Hope this helped.


hiii, guys.
okay, so this weekend i'm going to hang out with this guy that i'm dating, and we're going to go far, but not all the way to sex.
i haven't had my cherry popped yet, and i was talking to his best friend and he said guys hate it when they accidentally do it
is there any way that i can maybe do it? without hurting myself?
because i really don't want to have him do it by accident, you know?
thanks so muchhh :) (link)
When the hymen in your vagina breaks, that is considered "popping the cherry". It's really the hymen tearing and it might hurt for a while and it will also bleed but that's because the hymen has broken. It has been the first time you have really had something stuck inside there so that is why it has to bleed. You should try fingering yourself till you see blood... That way you know you popped your cherry. Then you and your special one can have a good time without him being surprised because your cherry will already be popped. I hope this helped.


i was just wondering if when a guy fingers you is it supposed to hurt??? because my b/f has done it to me a couple times and it hurt. is it supposed to or was i not doing something rite like not spreading my legs out far enough or something? (link)
I finger my girlfriend too and she told me it hurts when i go too fast so maybe you should keep this in mind... Make sure he starts off slow and keeps going at a slow pace. If you can handle that then tell him to go faster. Also, I believe it hurts less and feels better if your legs are spread more because the closer together your legs are, the more it hurts... I have experience from my girlfriend, she likes it better when her legs are more spread... I hope this helps you.


Hey well i have been dating my boyfrind for 1 year and 2 mounths now and i have never had a proplme with him hanging out with his friends, but his friends smoke and stuff like that. A cuple of weeks ago me and this girl got into a HUGE argument and she is going around saying she wants to beat my ass and stuff like that and this girl has been calling my boyfriend and telling him stuff like that. This girl unfourtunally is my boyfriends bestfriend's girlfriend so i sorta told my boyfriend its me or his bestfriend only caue of his girlfriend but i really do want to hang out with his friends agin without telling him not to and with out that bitch of a girlfrind marc has... what should i doo


sorry if this doesnt make ne sence im still pissed about the whole thing (link)
Well first of all, making your boyfriend CHOOSE between his gf and his best friend is not a good thing to do... That makes him think "if she makes me choose between this, who KNOWS if she'll keep making me choose in the future about everything." You should apologize about making him choose and just talk to him and tell him WHY you told him that harsh remark. Tell him how you feel about that girl and maybe he can talk to his best friend... That would be much easier than making him "choose". I hope this helps you.


i really neeed your advice:

who do you pick? the person who first loved you? or the person you first loved? (link)
It's no use being with somebody you don't love, even if THEY love YOU... you should pick who YOU love... who do YOU find yourself being happier with? having a better time with? who do you think about more and want to be with more? Who treats you better? Hope this helped


ok so just about an hour ago
i just got this really bad headache
so i took advil
it helped
and while my head hurt my heart started to like hurt
its when i breathe in it like hurts
and you know when its cold out and your breathe in and its all liek cold.
it feels like that
and idk what to do
and its hurts and feels weird!
im 14 if that helps!
but someone help me! (link)
I am 17 and i have had that for a few years now... I don't think its life-threatening... Sometimes it comes, sometimes it doesn't... Usually my heart hurts when i inhale but then it goes away after a few seconds... Don't worry about it. It comes and goes every month or maybe longer than that... I hope this helped...


Ok, 13/F. All my friends have had a minumum of 3 boyfriends before and I havent had any. Now, I really like this one guy and some of my friends says he likes me but I cant tell. Like Ill say simple things and theyll be like thats a good sign and Id be confused. Like, everytime I wait outside his class (cause we are in practically the same classes and all my classes are right after his so im always standing there outside the doors) hed spot me and give me this huge smile and playfully stick out his toungue and id act all shocked and he'd laugh a little. Whenever hes around us during recess we always talk and stuff privatley also we always like joke around. Hes put his arm around me a few times and defends me whenever someone calls me a flirt or a looser. We email eachother and stuff. I think were good friends but my friends say its something more is it? Im very confused! (link)
Im a guy that used to be exactly like that so i know that this guy likes you... If he likes being alone with you at recess, that's the number one sign he likes you. If he defends you, that shows that he cares about you and won't let people hurt your feelings. And you also email eachother, definitely good flirting there... hehe
I believe he likes you but is too shy to tell you that because maybe he also thinks you don't like him as more than a friend... My opinion is that you should tell him you like him and then ask him what he thinks about that... He'll tell you how he feels then... If he says he likes you too, thats great for you guys... If he doesn't, you can still stay friends and meet other guys so it is a win-win situation... Might as well give it a shot ;) But from what i read, he really likes you... good luck and i hope this helped


Well I recently started maturbating and for a couple of days iI've been getting these things that I call "pleasure spells". I call them that because I have no idea if it's an orgasm or not. This is what happens: I masterbate and all, then my clitoris gets really hot, then I feel this sort of tightening and tingling down there. Then, this is the wierd part, it feels like I have to do kegels (sp?). I do a couple of those and the feeling drifts away. Orgasm? Not an Orgasm? If not what is it? (link)
I'm not a pro since im a guy but i have learned that when a girl orgasms, she usually starts shaking or shivering and you might also see some white liquid coming out... I hope this helped...




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