Q: i am not really a social person.
and these holidays i haven't planned or want to plan any thing with friends.

My parents continue to pressure me too but i don't want to. i am going through a phase when i'm not sure who my real friends are.

I don't want to tell them and if i don't organize i have to clean up our house.

Can you give me some advice on how to tell who my real friends are and how to want to be socialable with my friends.

:)

Q: 15/F
I'm only a quarter Italian. I know that for sure. I'm also a bit Irish, Dutch, German, etc.
But Italians have that oily, olive colored skin, right? That's what I've heard.
My skin doesn't look olive, to ME anyways. And I hardly ever breakout. If I do, it's not TOO noticeable, but I do have occassional problems.
But when I start off my day, my skin doesn't feel oily. It usually looks almost chapped in some places. But throughout the day, that changes. I've actually had a few guys say that my skin looks oily-- once today.
But when I use a blotting sheet, it's not like the whole thing is soaked.
I just don't know what to do and I'm pretty annoyed. Pleae help! :[

Q: All are vegetarian
Reincarnation & rebirth are the same.
Buddha beat himself.
Buddhists worship Buddha.
all Buddhists are monks

what are the truths to these myths?

Q: ever since me and two girls who i used to be close with got in a fight, ive been feeling very down about myself, very ugly and unwanted and almost like ive lost so much of myself. these two girls are part of a group of friends I once was part of, but once we werent friends anymore, I am no longer friends with that same group of friends. I have recently been sticking with another group of friends, even though I only like 3 or 4 people in it..I do have a few other friends in my school, but not a lot. I had a lot more last year, but now I never see those people anymore because I have new classes. The begining of the year I had at least 1 person to talk to in every class. now ever since I lost those two friends, I dont have any friends in two of my classes. and I feel like the biggest loser and social outkast. I absolutely cannot stand it. and no, i cant do anything about it. No matter how many times people tell me I can just make new friends in those classes, I really cant. and I know it doesnt seem like a huge deal, being 2 classes and all, but to me, it is a big deal. one of the classes being gym. I hate my gym class. And on top of that, i SUCK at sports. except swimming, which of course we dont do. and like ugh i just hate it. i litterally have nobody to talk to in there. im waiting for 3rd marking period, because 3 of my friends are switching into my period, but not in my class. but i guess thats better than nothing..and on top of all of this, over the weekend i had guy problems with this kid i met like a month ago, and we hung out at my friends house because he wantedme to come but hes an immature freshman and barely talked to me he flirted a little but then acted like he didnt like me and kept doing that. it was just hard. and then i went back to school and had a bad day..feeling like a loser..i know im not a loser. i know im not. but sometimes..i think i am..i have a decent amount of friends i guess..but i just cant deal with this anymore, im so overhwlmed. i also havent been doing my homework in weeks. i have Fs in two of my classes and probobly a D in another. i have 3 essays i never did and a lot of homework i have to makeup, by TOMORROW. i, am in so much stress. its tearing me apart. with school, and feeling like a friendless loser, with this guy who doesnt like me anymore but told me he did and wanted to do stuff with me on saturday but it never happened, with my grades going down the drain. i just want to sit and cry. ive been running away from everything. ive missed 3 days of that gym class, pretending to be sick, just do i could avoid going and feeling lonely and embaressed. i hate this. i almost want to say i hate my life right now. i dont even know what im doing for the summer. i have no clue. all of my friends are already doing things. my mom says i cant sign up for driving school until i get my grades up. i. want. to. go. cry.

i also hate the fact. that i have ZERO self confidence. i have so many insecurities with myself, i dont know what to do anymore. i walk through the halls feeling like a complete ugly loser. but i know im not ugly..and i know im not weird..because im not. but the people around me make me feel so intimidated. i told my friend about that guy thing over the weekend and she said she was going to the mall to meet up with her boyfriend and his friend and she invited me to come to meet that guy thats gonna be there and i just didnt know what to say. i said id come but honestly, im the worst at meeting people and knowing what to say. especially with guys i feel like..i hate this. i honestly can say i hate myself. i dont like ANYTHING about myself. some people think im funny, i dont think i am most of the time. im not that pretty. i mean im not ugly, but people around me make me feel that way. i think im nice but i dont know. i just hate this. i hate this so much. i hate myself. i used to be normal when i had so many friends the begining of the year. now i only have a few friends and a broken heart from this immature freshman and terrible grades and i honestly just want out. i dont want this anymore. but im too upset and broken down to do my homework. or fix anything. i cant pretend anymore. ive finally cracked. i just wish i could like myself and feel confident. i hate myself and everything about me ive never really liked my self, i remember that. at my sleepaway camp last summer our bunk went around in a circle and we had to say one thing we liked about ourself and one thing we didnt like about ourself. when it got to me i said i hated the fact that i got upset by a lot of things, but i said i didnt like anything about me. everyone else said there had to be something i liked and i said nope. nothin. and then this past summer we did the same thing, when it got to my turn, i said the same things. because its true. how can i just stop this. i think i need professional help

Q: I will be a senior at a private 4-yr school and will graduate with a BA in astronomy-physics and possibly a math minor. My problem is that I feel burned out and don't like academics anymore. I was going to go to Grad. school but now I don't know if it would be best for me. I'm a mediocre student (B's, C's, sometimes A's) which is due partly to me being unable to handle all the math and partly due to personal problems. I had 4 major knee surgeries my first two years of college, which didn't affect me academically, because my first three semester classes weren't hard for me, and plus being on crutches really cuts down on social time, so I did homework a lot but still had plenty of time to relax. I got most of my A's during this period. My mom also has Bipolar disorder which is stressful for me and causes my family financial difficulties. My fourth semester, my mom sliced her stomach open with a razor while I was eating breakfast. She cuts herself when ever she has an episode, and this was the first time she did anything since she had a psychotic episode my Junior year in high school and tried to kill her self twice. My parents also told me they were afraid of bankruptcy (though this never happened). As a result, I failed the mid-term I took after coming back to school and got my first C in physics. I had major panic attacks afterward and nightmares about my mom killing herself. I also had somatic symptoms like not feeling my arms and legs are part of my body. I made it through by talking to a school therapist. My mom hasn't hurt herself since then due to a medication change. Unfortunately, I had more problems. My Junior year, I decided to live of campus which was a disaster. The house I lived in had mold in the basement, a leaking foundation (we had 55 gal of water) and electrical problems as well as several other problems that are too long to go into. After that was handled, I thought I could finally concentrate on school, but then all my housemates got into huge arguments and I ended up losing a large number of friends over the ordeal. The main cause of this was one girl who got off anti-depressant mediation, but still..I also overloaded on credits that semester and struggled with academics as well as having my panic attacks return after not having them over the summer due to all the stress. Then, this spring one of my friends committed suicide. I again had nightmares and panic attacks and went through a very intense grieving period. I went to college expecting to make a better life for myself and have only become very unhappy. In high school, I told myself if I work hard now, I can relax later, but later never comes. I also feel like a screw up because now I probably can't get into grad school even if I wanted to, because I have too many B's and C's in upper level classes. I'm constantly stressed during the school year because I rarely have free time any more, and while I still have some friends, I did lose many last year and my current friendships are shaky. And when I do try and relax, I feel guilty that I'm not doing something productive. I also feel very unmotivated and don't feel satisfaction and fulfilled from academics any more. It's had to feel satisfaction when I can only do mediocre. I can spend hours working on a problem, only to be told how to do it better, then I do it better, and am told how to do it even better than that. The problem is never done. It feels futile. My friend killed himself because of the stress from college and not getting into Columbia and I have two friends who took semesters off due to stress. The stress just doesn't seem worth it to me anymore. I can't help but think Grad. school would be worse than this. I got a job working as a hostess/buser at a restaurant and I feel much happier than I have in years working at this job than I have doing anything else. It's because I get many things out of this job that I don't get in the rest of my life. I get to serve people at the restaurant and please others and possibly make someone's day better, which never happens in school. I also get praise for doing well and instant criticism when I do something wrong which is better than the stress of waiting a week or more for a grade. I get paid instead of struggling to pay for school through financial aid, scholarships, and working. I feel much more productive and like I'm doing some good at my restaurant job. School currently just feels futile. There's no satisfaction, and I don't think changing majors would help. Although being a hostess/buser makes me happy, I can't do that with my life because of my knee problems. I can do it now, but I already have arthritis, so it's unlikely I can continue to do it for the long term. I've thought about being a writer instead, but it has no financial security. What should I do to be happy? I don't want to take pills because they screwed my mom up pretty bad and they make it so she can't concentrate or focus on anything. It just keeps her alive. I don't want to end up like my mom. What should I do? I think I just need a change in direction in my life, but what would be a good change in direction?

Q: If Krishna is black, (black/the dark one, usually painted with dark blue or black skin, made from a black hair) why then does he support the mistreatment and opression of the sudras (blacks in india)? I know the rig veda is supposed to be one of the oldest books of hinduism, but there are many verses that support the killing of black/dark skinned people...i understand that this may have been a part of their culture at the time...but if krishna came out of this...and he is black, why would he hate or think low of his own kind? There are scriptures in some books that say killing on of the sudras is nothing more than killing a little bird or a frog...How can a religion that promotes enlightenment and peace with people, promote the opression and disrespect of another race? Would someone with some real facts and experience please explain this to me. I came accross this info in my studies of buddhism and the history of india and things like that...Thank you.

Q: Iam a 19 year old female and around thanksgiving of 2008 I weighed about 168 pounds and now I weigh about 158 pounds so i've lost about 10 pounds. How can I lose 30 more pounds?

Q: I am learning from buddhism to not allow circumstances to alter my emotions. Because happiness comes from within and not from external things. I am having some trouble though. Sometimes I am able to allow things to happen and they would normally make me scared to feel hurt and I don't feel that way anymore. The trouble I am having is, if someone close to me says something that hurts me, i take it to heart and i get sad and then i feel really depressed, the other thing that happens, is if i am feeling like i don't have enough money to take care of things i start to get really depressed. Now I am working with the law of attraction, and it works really well for me, but I would like to improve it by not allowing money stuff to get to me. Does anyone who is practicing these methods have any advice for me or a good book that I could read? Thank you

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