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Q: So i'm African-American and I relax me hair every 8-10 weeks. I was my hair once a week. After I wash and condition I roll it and sit under thoes big hair dryers and then when its dry I flat iron it.I No matter what I do, I ALWAYS have split ends. I know I have to trim my hair but
1.) How can I prevent them from coming back? And I'm not going to stop using my flat iron.
2.)does anyone know any good flat irons and where to get them from?
3.) What kinds of foods should I eat and what other things can I do to grow my hair faster and to keep it healthy?

Well First if yur going to Rowl AND flat iron yur hair that there is why its becoming so dead.

1) I used to own a chi and its a verrrrry good flat iron but pretty pricey. it lasts a very long time tho and i never had isues with it..

2)ive heard that if yu take avocado smoosh it up and put it in yur hair for about 15 minitues it makes yur hair vary soft, shiney, and helps reduce split ends..

i suggest googling - how to maintain african american hair - google is always my bestfriend

Q: like at what kindof stores
i live in california
huntington beach if it helps

well In my town we have clairs and icing. They have tons of bestfriend necklaces. also possibly walmart or target.

Q: okay
so i had unprotected sex...kind of. it didnt go in all the way but there could've been precum. this was beginning of february. well i was supposed to get my period on the 27th ish but nothing happened. this past sunday i let my boyfriend finger me. he usually used two fingers but he went up to three. he noticed after i was bleeding. so i assumed i got my period. but when i went pee later i noticed that it wasnt bleeding anymore. so i guessed he popped my cherry? but over the next few days i still bled. but it was only like, the size of my thumbnail. thinking it was over, i let him finger me again. and once again discovered blood after. but its not bleeding now.
what the hells going on? period or not?

It could be what the Person bellow me has suggested. The other option im thinking is he could be scrathing the inside of your vagina causing eritation and bleeding. I suggest also getting a pregnency test if not wait awhile done let yur boyfriend finger you and then if he does so and yu again bleed then tell him to make sure his nails are trimmed and clean. THough even if they are trimmed theres still a slight chance he can still scratch inside of you. Hope i helped and good luck =]

Q: is it true that like when you give a hand job, his penis goes from like small to big to bigger?

Yes. it is called getting an erection

Q:
my friend the other day was saying that her and her boyfriend were having sex in the butt...and the he cummed in her butt. now shes scared she could get pregnant from that. i told her it wasn't true but she keeps worrying and saying that it probably is true.

sooo...heres my question

can you get pregnant if a guy cums when hes inside your butt?

Yes she can get pregnant. If any of the seman(cum) gets down around her vaginal area the seman can get into her vagina and get her pregnant. Tell your friend to go get tested.

Q: okay.
now..
Does everyone moan when they have sex? i don't really get it. What if i don't automatically moan, should i fake it? how load.
idk
someone please help.

No dont worry about it. not everyone moans and if you do it should be natural. Guys can sometimes tell if you are faking it so you wouldnt want to do that. Just relax and enjoy it.

Q: Ok so you know on Google when you type in one letter a bunch of words you already used that start with that letter pop up. Well I want to know if there is anyway to get ride of those words? So if anyone knows that would be great!

You can usualy highlete the word and then press the delete button on your keyboard

Q: Ok well i never had this problem before i am 15 years old i lost my virgenty like a week ago.. and now i have like one pimple down where next to the vaginal area.. im wondering is that because of wwhat i did or is it there because my period is coming up.. i put vagisel cream on it i hope it works.. so what can i do to make it go away and what could be the reason it is there?

well hun i hate to say it but it could be herpes. you should go to the doctors riiight away!

Q: okay so this morning i woke up with my right eye crusted shut. then it was draining a clear liquid and was red. later i took a hot shower and put in eye drops. now my eye is white like the other eye but it wont open as wide as the other one.
is it pink eye or just and allergy problem?

and if it is pink eye, i have school tomorrow and i hate my glasses so i wear contacts. would it be okay to wear them? if i do what would happen?

also on tuesday i have softball tryouts and i cannot play with glasses and i cant see with without them. what do i do?

please answer asapp.
i will provide feedback!

Well im pretty sure you have pink eye. And you have to go to the doctors you can not go to school. pink eye is very contageous. and I have contacts also and no you can not wear them cause then they will be infected and youll just keep getting pink eye.

Q: so when i was in 6th grade going into 7th i did something really stupid.

it resulted in me loosing all my friends.

EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE found out about it...

i am now 16 and it still hounts me.

like people sitll bring it up

what i did was not murder or naything against the law. just really emabrresing. when anyone says it to me like "u the girl who..." i cry ont he spot.

what can i do? its been like 4 years already and no one forgets it!!! like i cant go anywehre without someone knowing about me.

im scraed to go for a guy bc they wont want me bc of that..

If you want to write to my inbox and tell me a little more vividly of whats happend I will try my best to help your out hun.

Q: When my bf fingers me I always bleed! whats going on? he's not that rough either.

He might have long nails. Next time ask him to trim his nails.!

Q: hi I'm 15/f and I have never had an orgasm I need help though I use an electric toothbrush and put it on my clit and I push it hard down hard it feels really good but its a little too intense so I always stop before I can orgasm so I guess I can be kind of scared to have one but can someone help me and I'm in the bath when I try so could someone find me an Internet site or something to help me do something that won't be as intense. Thank you

Try Wearing underwear and doing it out of the water. Ive heard it works. dont be scared its a normal thing! good luck =]

Q: How safe is it to:

1) Be on birth control for 2 months, have sex without a condom + he ejaculates in you. However, doing it right before or right after you start your period. my boyfriend wanted to see how it felt not wearing a condom and ejaculating inside me. thanks

Sweetie Coming from someones point of view that knows it is never safe to NOT wear a condom. I got pregnant the day after my period ended and i was on birth control. You also could contract an STD if you dont wear a condom. If i was you I would tell your boyfriend you just arent comfterble with not wearing a condom

Q: ok so i was messing around with my boyfriend and he fingered me. when he pulled his hand out there wasnt any blood. but like a little later that night, my stomach started to hurt. almost like cramps for my period but im not on it, or starting soon. im pretty sure it didnt pop but ive heard that when you pop ur cherry your stomach hurts. so is it popped or a little bit popped? thanks.

no hun. if it was popped there would most likely be alot of blood.

Q: ok this summer i lost my virginity but he wasnt
hard..... we tried everything: blowjobs, masterbating....etc.
so we said screw it and tried to do it while he was soft after what seemed like for ever his dick finally went in, then we heard a pop and we thought it was my pussy, but i didnt feel anything so he pulled it out and the condom exploded, and i was bleedin........ so did i pop even though it was only in for like a few seconds? did i lose my virginity or not????

If you were bleeding then yes your chery did pop and you lost your virginity.

Q: So here's the thing.

i'm always stuck at home cleaning. I can never go out ause m cleaning.! my 3 older bros can do watever they want. I';m a girl and the youngest and the only girtl in the family! people think im spoiled but thats the farthest thing i am! im always cleaning!

i dnt get whY!!

sometimes i get sooooooooooooo mad i just wanna slap someone and kill my self! i no a lil frekay!

but i cant stand it!

my bros are always having fun and im stuck at home!

and i cant even see guys not even have them as friend or ewls im grounded!

I HATE MY LIFE!@

i need advice wit this!

sit down &&` talk to your mom (or dad) and tell yur mom how yu feel. That yu would like to go out more often and get to hang out with friends but yu will still help out around the house but yu think yur brothers should to. If yur mom doesnt listen go to school and talk to your school counceler about it ( she chould do something about it) if yu ever need to talk my contact information is on my page.. my email / hotmail is - maddie_4ever_4lyfe@hotmail.com

hope i helped
xomaddie

Q: so i know this guy through my brother, (i never met him, but i spoken to him online a couple of times) he gave me his number and i wnat to text him and be like we should hang out but i dont no how to say it...help please

well if he gave yu his number he obviously wants to here from yu ;) just send him a text me like "wuts up its ___(yur name). we should hangout sometime! hehe

Q: Everytime and Every guy I meet... ends up liking me. It's really annoying. I'm serious like whenever I want to be friends with a guy I just met he starts liking me when I found out the next day my friend just told me that. So how can I have guy friends without them liking me more?

iits the same way with me and sometimes yu just have to ignore that they like yu &&` eventualy they will get the picture and just start acting cool around yu and yu will be able to hang out with them as just friends.

Q: okay my problem is. . i take everything WAYYY TOO SERIOUSLY. like i need to relax i know and just not think about little things that botehr me but sometimes i just feel like i need anger mangment my mom makes me GO CRAZY! she yells all the time and its hard to control myself and i just stress over stupid thinngs, making little stuff a big deal and im just really frustreated and mad

tell yur mom yud like to get a counceler &&` if she doesnt get yu one go talk to yur school counceler about getting a counceler outside of school. ii`m sure one of htem will set something up for yu. ii have been doing counceling sense i was very young its all about finding the counceler that clicks, that yu can get along with

Q: well i'm a teenage girl who is dating this amazing guy again (2nd date this weekend) and well, it's just that i've never really had a real relationship like this before and I'm not sure what i'm doing. After this weekend when I kiss him for the first time on our date, do I wait and see if he calls me? Or should I call him? (he says he'd call me about this weekend but he hasn't yet- even though i was the one who first asked him)

helppp me

Theres nothing wrong with calling a guy instead of him calling yu. so if he hasnt called yet then call him =] just dont call like 987124987124 times cause ive done that before and it tends to make them nervous hehehe. good luck on yur date sweetie =] iif i didnt give good enough advice just hit up my inbox and i will try harder

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I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.