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Hi I'm Lily; 15 year-old Amercian girl. My friends have called me a fortune cookie...I don't know why ;) . I love to help, inbox me, if you like to. I specialize in Relationship & Friendship. I love my best friend Seth, I couldn't ask for a better friend (and hopefully one day boyfriend). He's quite the inspiration for me, I couldn't thank him enough for everything he's done for me. So I decided to help other likes he's helped me.
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I'm 16 years old & I totally suck at befriending guys. All my friends are girls & i dont have one guy friend at all, its that bad. I go to a all-girls school but i do outside school things like church & going out with my girlfriends (sometimes my girlfriends bring guy friends along, but i never end up talking/being friends with the guys). Firstly, I'm too shy to strike up a conversation and secondly I'm quite an awkward person at times so I wouldn't know what to say if we did have a conversation. Also, is there anything else that's preventing me from befriending guys? Thankyou!

well, I see I'm not the only one having trouble

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i am really confused. i met this guy through my friend when we were at the cinema and he kept talking to me when i was there. he was asking loads of questions about me and stuff and once i got home and i noticed he had added me on msn. for days we were talking and i really got along with him well. and i was under the impression that he liked me. (without him actually saying it) he has said i am good looking, i am funny etc and that he wants a girlfriend. so we were talking every day for about a week and now he just does not message me. its weird. i would message him but i dont want to if he has just decided he doesnt like me? i do like him and would like to keep talking to him. if he has met someone else does that mean he isnt interested in me? (that sounds a really stupid question) but i am just confused. and if he has met someone else should i not speak to him anymore?

I don't know what he's like ,but guys don't normally talk that much. He might just like. I've made the first move before VERY hard! Then again I had no flirting exsperince. Odds are that he just got in trouble which led to grounding. Boys are born trouble makers! The HIGHEST possiblity to what I read is that he might like boys. If he seemed to friendly, yep. Hope I helped, Good luck you need it. -lily

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I'm 17 n a guy..well its been well over a year since me and my ex broke up, I still can't get over her! I find it really depressing, I can't seem to get the courage to find another girl to get with after my ex. I'm not sure if I can ever get back with my ex, but I want to try, without seeming desperate or anything. If I can't do that, can you help me find a way to gain courage and talk to and meet new girls?
Thanks, helps appreciated!

Well, If you really can't get over her talk to her and let her know that you can't get over her. Sounds like you might have fallen for her

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A week and a half ago I admitted to my guy friend that I liked him and I pretty much scared the hell out of him. We didn't talk over that weekend or the monday after, and by then I'd already realized that the way I told him (long story) was way too forward, and in addition to the fact that it's not everyday a girl justs blurts that out to him. Then on tuesday, which was last week I apologized for freaking him out and he said it was ok and he pretty much admitted that I freaked him out but that was the last time we discussed it. I'm completely relieved that we're still friends but he never said whether he feels te same way or not, so I'm thinking that either he's been thinking about it and is not sure how to respond or not sure how he feels or he's just trying to forget about it. Last Wednesday though I could clearly tell he was nervous whenever I looked at him or spoke to him, not in the way he spoke but just by his body language and facial expression. and in one of our classes he still seemed nervous but he was still talking to me and we would still laugh about some stuff so I was relieved that he wasn't avoiding me or anything. But during that period, and we weren't doing anything that period we were just hanging out while other people in our class were taking a test, he kept looking over at me, which he never usually does, so i don't know what to think of that. After tat day vacation started and tomorrow it'll be a week since we last talked and he hasn't texted me or anything, which I guess is not too surprising because he never really did that much in the past. I can't help to wonder if he's still thinking about it&is still unsure or if he's been trying to forget about it. But either way I would assume that once we're back in school on Monday no matter what the case is he's still going to have the fact that I like him in mind whenever he talks to me. But I'm scared after this week and a half the thought will have blown over too much. And I've decided that if he decides he likes me back, then the ball is in his court, and I won't push him about it or bring it up unless he does, because if anything I'm really lucky that he's still my friend, that usually wouldn't happen to me (but with guys ive like in the past, they always found out from other people, not me, telling this particular guy directly that I liked him was one of the hardest things I've ever done). Even though I'm completely willing to remain friends if that's what ends up happening, I still want to be kindof flirty with him and sortof make sure he doesn't forget how I feel and still considers ever giving me a chance. How do I act around him without being too pushy and being too obvious?

I have had the SAME issue, it's a sad thing....The friend Kyle did the same thing I'm sorry to say that he's just not sure how to act around you anymore. Give him a little more space, he'll come around. With me he did the same thing...after a few weeks though my friend was sick of hear'in/see'in this go'in on so she went up to him brought over to me and he told me ''______ I don't like you that way, I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I just wanna be friends. Sorry.''....I Hope you have WAY better luck then I did, hope I was to some help.

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i am having a little trouble with my friends. it seems like they don't like me anymore. i don't know what happened but all of a sudden they didn't want to hang out and has kinda been ignoring me.
help! what should i do?

I say go up to your friend(s) ask what there problem is. If there just gonna ignore you then they aren't any friend of you! Simple!...I think. Point is friends come and go, some last awhile an then some might even last a day! Do what you think is right!

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okaayyy i dont think that youll be able to understand this casue its i think you have to know me and my friends to understand the situation. but i need to try cause i dont know what to do and i cant talk to anyone about this.
okay, Theres this kid karac, my bestfriend paige, and my boyfriend matt. Me and matt have been talking for over five months(dated before too) It took him three months to ask me out, he still wont kiss me in school, and he JUST told me he loved me on my birthday wednesday. hes really really not public about our whole relationship just casue hes shy, but hes defently a good guy. But while i was talking to matt i was also talking to this kid karac. and he wanted to be with me, but i kinda just blew him off for matt, even though i liked him and he acts so much better than matt. so we stopped talking talking and just were friends. and finally matt asked me out. now karac is talking to my bestfriend paige, but she is shy, unbelivable. like she like three other guys always blows him off and alll this stuff, he just wants to get in a realtionship but she is runing from him but still claims she really likes him. matt only comes to see me once a week, and doesnt talk to me much in school, but karac his does. i see him and talk to him so much more than matt. he offers to drives me home all the time when im stuck places and matt just walks away to his car when i tell him i have no way home. so yeah i like karac alooooot! problem is he likes my bestttttfriend and i have a boyfriend who just finally feel in love with me. what do i do!! like i kidna love my boyfriend. i do. but im young. karac always talks to me about paige and wants me to help him with her but sometimes i find myself hurting the situation between them. which is horrible. i just kinda like him and he use to really like me. )= do i ignore my feelings for him? he usually seems like he still likes me to but i know he wouldnt do anything casue matts his good friend. i cant really decide who i would be happier with? like im always sooooo upset cause matt never ever acts like he likes me and so much more. sorry this is long i hoope you understand. please what do i do?

Okay, that's a issue sounds like your boyfriend just doesn't care. If you like this other guy I say talk to your boyfriend tell him what your feeling see what he says 1st. 2nd if this boy hhmm well talk to your bff have a chat just make sure if you get crush'd in this triangle/square it's okay, it happens!! And by the way not all first relation-ships work it's a sad fact of life. I know I might not have been much help, but I try. Remember, FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!! It's thE best guidence you might ever have!

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