Hello there, my name is Kayla, my close friends call me Kaylo, but you may call me Kayla Jay. I'm here on Advicenators because I like helping people. I'm always willing give advice on any topic, but my favorite topics are on relationships. So send over any question at all and I'll be happy to help!
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17/female my name is Rachel and my mom is driving me crazy.when my mom has these mood swings she takes it out on me and I can't take it anymore and I feel like moving,but I can't becouse iam to young.I want to move with my cousin michelle i've already asked her about it and she said of course she's 36 and she's getting a room ready for me right now,but I told her not to do it yet becouse I have to ask my mom first and I know my mom would go pysoco if I asked her becouse the last time I did mom trough a stool at me and luckily it missed is that child abuse what should I do and then my mom started pulling my hair what should I do? (link)
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I can relate. While my mom isn't abusive, she does have a tendency to have these crazy mood swings and get really angry with me for things that are totally out of my control. When I was younger it was worse, luckily my Nonie lived right across the street from me, so I always knew I had somewhere to run if things got out of hand. It sounds to me like you need to get away from your mother, she's causing you phusical and psychological harm, and there is never a good excuse for a parent to do that to their child.
Now, I'm not saying you should litterally wait around for another explosion from your mom, but try explaining to her how you feel about the way she treats you. With a little luck, she may see the error of her ways and try to change. If, however, things don't go so well, leave. Try leaveing early in the mroning, before she's awake, and leave a note explaining to her why you left. Let her know where you are, and as was advized before, it doesn't seem to me that the police or child services can touch you, as long as you tell them your side of the story.
So best of luck to you, I hope this was helpful to you.
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im 15/f
okay so i have a boyfriend, lets call him "Mark". We just started going out like couple weeks ago. The thing is that we were BEST friends before we started going out and now that we go out, I cant see him as my boyfriend... just a friend.
So, theres this guy, lets call him "Joe". Well, Joe likes me. He wanted to go out with me before Mark asked me out but I said I wanted to get to know him more. Well, now I've gotten to know Joe more and I really like him too.
I know if I break it off with Mark and go out with Joe, things will definitly not be the same as they were. But I really just cant see myself in a relationship with Mark.
So what should I do? Stick with Mark or go for Joe?
Please Help! Thanks in Advance! (link)
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No matter what you choose to do in the end, you should get out of your relationship with Mark. If you don't have feelings for this boy and can't see yourself as more than just his friend then there's no point in staying in the relationship, it's not fair to him. Just tell him what you wrote here; you think the two of you are much better off as friends. Things will probly change between the two of you, you probly won't ever get to be as cloe as you once were.
If you really like this boy Joe, then you should go for him. Give it a little time after breaking it off with Mark, continue spending time with Joe as you normally would, and then go for it. If the two of you like eachother and you seem compatable, there's no reason why you shouldn't give it a try.
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i just got back from an all state choir camp and one of the guys i go to school w/ was there. ill be a sophmore and hes gonna be a freshman but he turns 15 in 2 months and i wont be 16 til february. we flirted alot at camp, at our meals together in the group of people we were w/, we hung out together at the talent show and danced together at the dance. basically, we flirted ALOT hes cute and taller than me (which is a big deal b/c im 5'9) and ive known him for a while. do you think im being silly about this since hes gonna be a freshman? my friends will think im crazy but he makes me laugh all the time. hes a total sweetheart. what do you think? thanks! (link)
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I really don't think dating a younger guy is a big deal at all. My boyfriend is five months younger than me (and a junior whereas I'm a senior)and we couldn't be happier. If you're worried about your friends not approving, just explain to them that you really like this boy and you really think this relationship could work out. He seems like a really sweet guy, I say go for it.
I also get how it's a plus that he's taller than you. I'm five foot seven and a half, my boyfriend is five foot ten.
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i have this friend and one day ill be hanging out with her and were laughing and talking a lot and having a great time, but then the next day comes and shes all mad at me for no reason. i mean, its not like i even say anything mean to her. is it something she doesnt like about me? or is it just her personality? (link)
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I had this friend for a while. I got to know her in the fifth grade, before she got crazy. After being her friend for a while, I noticed that she took offense very easily to a lot of things. She was very hypocritical, overemotional, and (I'm now positive) a compulsive liar. I always found myself trying extra hard not to say anything to offend her because I wanted to avoid any dumb outbursts, then she would go about like nithing happened the next time saw her. Thankfully, she quit talking to me before my sophomore year in high school (thank god, she just produced too much stress for me to handle) and turned into a person I'd rather not associate myself with. I think your freind has some issues. Do you ask her what you did wrong to make her mad? You should tell her that her freaky mood swings confuse and upset you, and if you did do something to upset her, you certainly didn't mean to. If she's still crazy after all that, you don't need that kind of stress.
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This is going to be long.
My best guy friend, Sam, I don't know what is going on with him! He would always flirt with me and talk to me. I heard him say that I was hot to one of his friends at the beginning of the year if that matters.
I also heard his friends tryings to guess who he was going to ask out and they kept saying my name and he didn't respond. All he did was stare at me and that day in my last class. right before the bell rang, his friend was like, "Do you like Sam?" and I was like, "Ummmm...No. Why?" and hes like, "Oh, just wondering." and he went out the door.
on my birthday I had invited sam to my party, which was that weekend. I took 10 of my best friends to a movie. While we were in line waiting for the popcorn, he asked if i was going to the dance on tuesday and I said, "Oh. Probably." he smiled and looked at his friend and the exchanged some weird look and then his friend said, "sam doesnt have anyone to go with." and they both stared at me expecting me to say something but I just said, "oh." and we went to go sit down.
the week of the dance, he asked my best friend, Sarah, out. She kept saying, "he barely even talks to me!" but he would only talk to her or hug her when I was around.
during the last class of the day, his best friend asked me again, "would you ever go out with sam?" and I said, "uhhhhhhh i dont know! why do you keep asking me that?!" and he was like, "Dunno..HE MIGHT LIKE YOU!" and I gave him a weird look and he said, "IM JOKING! IM JOKING!" but he didnt sound like it.
But, he broke up with sarah and started going out with taylor again and all he did was ignore me and he wasn't nice to me at all unless she wasn't anywhere close to us. I talked to jake and he said that sam answers when he calls but I've tried to call him many times over the summer but he never answers the phone.
So, I don't understand what he's doing! Does he like me or not?! (link)
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Okay, judging by your story, I think this is what happened-
Sam started to have feelings for you one day and consulted his freinds. Sams friends decided to try and help but it looks to me like they may have done more damage than help. You see, teenage boys are incredibly stupid when it comes to girls and have no idea how to express themselves properly, so they rely on their dumb friends to get tthe message across or just hope to God that you will figure it out yourself. Both are bad methods. This isn't the only place Sam screwed up. Sam was trying to make you jealous by asking out Sarah, seeing as he barely knew her and that he dumped her shortly after, probly because he saw that this wouldn't win you over any faster. Now Sam is obviously mad and maybe a little hurt that he couldn't get you, so he is ignoring you. It seems to me that Sam is being immature, I think you should be the bigger person and approach him. If you don't feel that way about him, you should let him know. It's not your fault, you can't help how you feel about guys. If you think you may like him, give him a chance. Go on a date and see how things go, but just let him know that no mtter how things turn out, your friendship is valuable to you and you don't want to jeopardize it. Trust me, a guy friend fell for me, I wasn't sure if I liked him, so I gave him a chance, and now he's my boyfriend. We've been happily together for almost five months.
I hope this was helpful to you.
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When I had my last boyfriend everything would always go so great and after about 6 months we were both inlove and I really loved this guy! But then about 3 months later we were laying in his backyard in the hammock his arm was around me and we were just relaxing then i decided to put my hand on his chest and give him a kiss so i did and he pushed me out of the hammock smacked me and told me don't touch me so i ran away crying...i didn't talk to him for a couple weeks but he kept calling so i answered
~Convo~
me-what do you want?
him-im sorry i love you
me-too bad
and i hung up
then when my dog passed away he came over with flowers my mom didn't want him to come up to my room because i was really upset but she finally let him, then he started kissing me and telling me he was truley sorry so i forgave him and for about 3 more month it was all good and back to normal then again one night we were watching a movie in his basement (his parents weren't home only his bro and his gf) and we were all watching a movie and he kissed me and we started kissing then i put my hand on his cheek a little bit and he pushed away and was like dont ever do that again and threw the movie case at me and his brother tried to stop him but he just went mad at started punching me and his brother while his girlfriend tried to do somethin --im not really sure what--
So my question is I still love him, I know I shouldn't but I really love him I mean we have been together for about 2 years but stuff like this keeps randomly happening! I thought this guy was really right for me and sometimes he treats me really nice but others he hurts me phsically and mentally...I just want a guy to treat me right thats why Im trying to forgive him again but I can't just forgive and forget I'm scared something like this will happen again PLEASE help! (link)
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I can totally understand if you still love this boy. You have a history with him and he must love you too. But the hard truth is that a guy should never EVER hit a girl, ever, not for any reason at all, especially not if a guy loves a girl. Your boyfriend seems very unstable and it sounds to me like me may need psychiatric help for these outbursts. I was getting a little scared just reading this post. You said this keeps randomly happening? That is definately not good. I would advise you confront him, not by yourself, he may attack you if you confront him by yourself. Maybe with his brother and someone else close to him, possibly his parents. Let him know that you love him and you're only scared and worried about him, that you're not cornering him or anything. You should tell him that if he really loves you, he would never, ever hurt you like he did. After you do this, if things still don't work out, get out of that relationship.
No boy is worth tall that.
I'm really big on the whole "guys don't EVER hit girls" thing. I really just think that's wrong. Best of luck to you, I hope everything works out oka for you and your guy.
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