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Q: Hey. I have a big problem. I had a crush on this guy who is like 2 years older then me {i'm 14, so he is 16}, just a tiny one. But, my older sister who is 20 LIKES him. But, it sucks because all the guys I like I can't because of friends, and now it's come down to my sisters. I liked a guy that was my other sisters age but then she started likin him so i had to back off, since he was so much older... but there not dating ne ways. But, my 20 year old sister is going out on a date with him... What if they become boyfriend and girlfriend.... maybe i just think that he's cute... But i dunno... If they do become bf and gf, it would be weird if i like, see them kissing or something.. well maybe it wont. I'm really confused...

First thing you should do is have a chat wit your sis. Second is if you think you only might have an attraction then wait it out a couple of days. See if you think about him a lot, or if you jus can't get him outta your head. If that happens then you prolly like him.

Q: Ok theres this kid i know, and we met at camp. were always making eye contact and at the dance he waited til the last song to ask me to dance.. i kno i like him, but im not sure if he likes me.. i wanna talk to him more but when i talk to him i get all shy and stop talkin. Wat are some good topics to talk to him about and do u think he could possibly like me?
please anything!
i rate 5's!!

Well first off...I'm gonna guess he does have some sort of feeling for you, cause he asked you to the LAST dance. Second, you should try to find some common interests, then you can get some current events on those interests and talk about them. Also, ask him about how his day has been or what he has been up to. Hope that is some sorta help.

Q: okay me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 months. i knew her a good while before, and fell in love with her before we started going out. she says she is so in love with me, and sometimes yeah, it seems like it i mean she brings me random gifts and calls me back right after we hang up. dont get me wrong she does many other good things too. but what im wondering is we broke up 3 times. i did it once, she did it once, and 1 time was a misunderstanding. each time i had to fight my little but off to get her back, shes so stubborn she wont even put forth an effort. she kinda seems like she just watches me try. well either way im in love with her so im forced to deal with it. whenever i try to get us back together, she just ignores me. its not fair, i just spin my wheels and she doesnt notice how upset i am, or she does and doesnt care. im in love with her and want her back but it hurts. she promised shes never leave but she did and now its really hard to get her back. i promised i wouldnt let her leave but she just doesnt care what i say. what do i do? she broke up with me this time... i mean how do i deal with this? dont say to stop talking to her cse its impossible and dont say try to get over her cse everything reminds me of her and it would be impossible nonetheless. please help me

thanks
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dawg, we are one in the same. My best advice is to talk to her in person. Ask her to dinner or something and have a serious conversation wit her, or jus go to her house or somethin, but TALK to her IN person. She might really be seein if you love her the way you tell her, but doesn't understand that she is hurting you. You always gotta think about things both ways. So, sit her down, talk to her, and jus let your feelings out for her. Hope that helps.

Q: hi pplz. i think i like this boy but i'm scared to tell him. what can i say to give him hints that i like him. he's supposed to come down tomarrow. to talk to me and stuff and watch a movie. but i still wanna tell him b4 hand that i like him..please help me

You prolly should talk to him in person about it, because everything in person is better than online or on the phone. Yes, it is harder, but it's the best way. Also, get close to him and compliment him. Main thought is to jus sit wit him and tell him. Or if you won't see him when you wanna tell him then say it on the phone...the internet will be easier, but it's jus an easy way out that doesn't make it seem as important or serious.

Q: Well i have a friend lets call him peter well he has been my friend since like 2nd grade and me and him are really good friends and i think that im starting to like him as more than just a friend and i think he might like me too... but im not so sure.. how can i tell if he likes me?
please help fastt...
i rate high..

Most likely if you two are hangin out a lot, then he has some sort of feeling for you. Best thing to do is jus be straight up and tell him how you feel.

Q: This is prolly gonna sound dumb but im not into all those sterotype things. So like what does prep/goth/punk/emo/posers and all those things mean. Add them if i forgot some. Those are the basics that i know.
Like if you were pink and say "omg" and "like" every 5th word...your a prep?

that doesnt make sense to me...

Signed-
Outdated-nonsterotypical-gurl

Here's a couple more...

Jocks- The sports players that everyone "wants" to be like.

Ballers- The people that play basketball, get the girls...somewhat similar to the jocks, but a lil different

Q: I'm 17 and female, and I've known my best friend Thomas for nearly a year. We hang out all the time, even stay the night at one another's houses every now and then.
Well, right now I'm house-sitting for him while he's on a trip. I stayed the night here the other night so I wouldn't have to have my mom drive me over at 7:00 in the morning. So we're up at three in the morning talking about everything, like we always do when we sleep over. And then he kissed me... and told me that he loves me.
I have a boyfriend who I love very much, and I just don't care about Thomas in the way that he cares about me. But I somewhat returned the kiss. As a matter of fact... we kind of kissed a lot. Mostly the sweet, peck type, but a little (and I do mean a little) tongue every now and then. When it was all over and we both regained our senses, I cried. When he said he loved me, I said, "Don't say that." We talked about it a little, but then decided that we'll really have a long talk when he gets back from his vacation.
So I have a few questions. First of all, did I cheat on my boyfriend? I've never done anything like this... I don't know if it's cheating. I don't ever want to tell my boyfriend that it happened -- he'll break up with me and it was all just a huge mistake and I regret that it happened (even though it brought a lot of stuff to the surface -- I didn't even know Thomas liked me). When I talk to Thomas, what should I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't want to ruin our awesome friendship. But I want him to know that I don't care about him the way he does about me, and I don't want him to hate me for this. Please help me.

Aight, I've kinda been in the position of your boyfriend and I'd have to say that you should tell him, because honesty is the best way and trust is a big thing in relationships. For the second question, it sounds like you do have some sort of feelings for Thomas, but if you don't think you feel that way about him then again, you have to be honest. You can't lie just to make other people feel better...you have to do what's right. Whatever you do, don't lead Thomas on...that's like the worse thing to do.

Q: i have this problem where i cant stay in a realashion ship for a long time or else i get sick of the guy how do i change that

There is nothing to do that will fix that. You will finally find a guy that you won't wanna break up wit. It might take a while, but that time will come.

Q: Ok well I just moved to a new town and well that means i'm gonna be a new girl. I mean i'm not ugly.I'm 5'2", have blonde kinda short hair, gray eyes, i'm pretty skinny but i've got a butt and a pretty big bust and I'm gonna be a freshman. But my question is would u still ask me on a date even thou i'm a new girl and a fish?(if you were a single guy at my new highschool)

hope you can help me.
I'll rate 5's to any one who answers!!!!!!!

I'm sure many guys will ask you out. You just gotta find a guy wit some common interests as you. Strike up a conversation wit them, and then from there you could get a date.

Q: I have a question for guys out there, are you attracted to a slim girls with large hips? haha I was just wondering cause not that i'm getting older I notice I'm starting to get larger hips and all my girlfriends are jealous of me..and i'm like y, i would do anything to get ride of them. Thank-you

Yeah, most guys are...I guess it's jus instinct or somethin, haha. But, they are nothin for you to wanna get rid of. I mean, you got what you got, and should be proud of that.

Q: im 15, blonde, athletic, skinny and about 5'11 and i don't think im ugly..but idk if guys are like intimidated by my height or what..i have alot of friends..but not that guy friends that i hang out with..so any suggestions on how to be more outgoing around guys w/ out being self concious about my height..or just any general advice would be great!

Ya know, I'm gonna be honest...the height might be a lil intimidating to guys, cause they usually wanna be taller, but don't jus think about your height cause you might be a really cool person. So, start up some conversations wit guys and show them the person you are, and you could end up wit a good guy.

Q: I don't know how to beatbox, but it looks/sounds really cool! What are some good ideas, websites, or onomatopeoias (is that how you spell it) for beatboxing? All I know how to do is "ntka".

Beatboxing is kinda one of those things you can do or can't do. If you have it in you then you can flow, but it isn't exactly something you can read directions on or anything.

Q: ok my boyfriend who lives in the same town as me went to florida for a month and i really miss him. the day before he left, he slept over and my house and we had so much fun and i didnt want him to go. but i really miss him. i cant call him because of long distance. what should i do? help.. i'll rate 5's for sure!!

I'm kinda in the same position as you. What I think you should do is try hangin wit some of your friends. Ya know, go out wit ya girls and chill wit them. That should help you out some.

Q: I've been going out with this guy for a month. I've never kissed or been kissed by a guy. I wanna kiss him and he wants to kiss me. But I guess i'm kinda nervous. He thinks I don't like him, But I really do! We've said I love you to eachother a few times and Idk. I really wanna kiss him but i'm scared i might mess up or something. Can anyone give me tips? I know it sounds stupid lol i'm 14.. and yeah i'm going out with a 12 year old. He's made out with a ton of people and I feel really stupid. Please help!

Coming from a guy perspective, I think that if he wants to kiss you then you should let him know how you really feel. Like, don't jus say somethin like I love you, but sit down and tell him that you really do care for him and about him. The kiss should come naturally, and I'm sure you mess up or anything, it's jus natural.

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Hey, I can help people wit jus about anything they need help wit, so jus hit me up, and you can hit my screen name if you wanna talk direct...I'm on a good amount of time, and if not you can leave a message cause an away message will be up.