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okay my boyfriend broke up iwth me about a month ago. He broke up with me for someone else. I gave him an ultimatum because he still wanted me to stay but it was either me or her and he chose her so i left. I had been talkin to his friend while we were dating just as friends and my ex didnt seem to have a problem with it...just bothered me about what we talked about alot. well when we broke up thats when he started getting mad for me talking to him. i was like whats the big deal? His friend told me a few days after i broke up with mye ex that he had been messing around with other people when he was with me...and that he does that with everyone he dates. I was upset and pissed as you can imagine. His friend of course took the opportunity to hit on me...kind of bad timing but not so horrible. when my ex found out he was hitting on me he flipped out on his friend and told him not to talk to me and told me not to talk to him. WE still did of course because the whole thing is rediculous...why would it matter he broke up with me and cheated on me? My ex is very mellowdramatic and overexagurates a lot. he fliiped out in his friend and said alot of things about me and about him that shouldnt have been said. His friend got pissed and now he is gonna beat his ass. I dont want any of this but i seem to be stuck in the middle of thier war now and i want to know how to help fix it seeing its mainly about me, without having to ignore both of them.

Your boyfriend is pissed off because he is losing control of you. Up until this point you have been willing to let him do pretty much whatever he wants and all of a sudden, he can't tell you what to do anymore. His friend isn't any prize, either. Why would you want a guy who lied to you? If he was so great, he would have told you what was going on behind your back while he was smiling in your face. Not only that, but he wasn't very loyal to his friend, either. Why don't you be the sexy chick they fought over, who walked away with another guy on her arm?

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I have this boyfriend and he is AMAZING. He can cheer me up instantly and he's just so...perfect! The thing is, he says the sweetest things ever but I can never think of anything to say back except "aw how sweet!". I feel like he deserves more than that, but when he says those things, it just kindof stuns my brain and I can't think straight... I think he thinks I don't like him as much as he likes me, but I really do! Please help? :)

The best thing that you can do is put on that cute little smile you get when he makes you happy, because that is what he's after. He can tell how you feel, and he likes to make you feel special-so feel special and it will make him feel like a king.

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Is it normal when a guy when having sex like his penis comes out of the vagina? and how often does it happen because i had sex the other night and his penis kept coming out of me and he had to put it in...it happened like 4 or 5 times...is that normal?

Think about it this way. When you are having sex-anything is normal as long as you feel comfortable with it. If there is something really out of the ordinary-you'll know it. He may be just as inexperienced as you. We girls always think that the boy has so much more experience than we do. It sounds like you two beginners make the perfect couple.

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im 18 years old. a girl. and ive had sex with 16 guys. I don't know why I let myself get that bad. It's wayy too many guys and only a few of them have been my boyfreinds...others are just hook ups.
I always tell my self to not let things like that happen, but I just can't help it, I dont know what to do. I like the feeling of being with a guy because it makes me feel wanted and accepted...but it needs to stop. I just don't know how.

It isn't that you have had sex with too many guys, it is the attitude you have toward the sex. You know having sex makes you feel cheap, yet you continue to do so. Maybe you are not looking so much for acceptance from these guys as you are looking to beat yourself up. You can decide to honestly accept yourself as you are. So, you've had sex with 16 guys, and it's a little much, but you have had those experiences and now you're looking for something different. You want to be in the type of relationship where you are accepted and the sex is just a bonus. My guess is if you had sex with 16 guys who you really felt a strong connection to, you wouldn't be feeling this way. Don't give up on the sex--it can be great. Just make a real connection before you have sex.

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My ex is acting really weird to me since i dumped him he wont even talk to me and didnt want to dump him i was presured in to doing it. I still love him but he wont even talk to me or say hello at least once he is taking it really hard and so am i i wont to be friends or more then friends but he wont talk to me so how can i.


wat can i do to get him back?


sighnd confused-mess

Imagine how much of a boost you're giving this guy. You keep trying to talk to him and he keeps ignoring you. You're thinking about him, calling him. All you can do is talk about him to anyone who will listen. He is eating it up right now, why would he stop it? The sexiest thing you could do right now is get on with your life, and be the person he fell in love with. Maybe you will fall in love all over again.

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My boyfriend & I have been dating for almost 6 months now. We are 2 very different people and i think thats what attracted us to each other. But it is also causing problems. He likes to be outside working on his truck or motorcycle & im just not into that stuff. I recently told him that i felt like we needed to spend more time with each other & he agreed. But how can I show him that i do care about him & what he likes to do?

If you really want to compromise, you should leave him to work on the truck or motorcycle unless that is all he does. If he is sitting right in his own driveway you should consider yourself lucky.
Maybe the problem is that you are two really different people, and you might be questioning the relationship because you are missing something.

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i usually shave my vagina but this time there are bumps left after shaving. how do i get rid of them? also how much does brazilian waxing cost? if you wax yourself, would it give good results?
im going to have sex next weekend, so i need my vagina pretty.

Deodorant has ingredients to prevent razor burn, so run it along the outside of your vagina. Waxing does give good results, but if you have never done it before, do you really want to try it right before the big night? Most strippers choose to shave, if that gives you any inclination on which method is the way to go when it comes to vagina care.
Tricks to shaving:
Buy a good razor, and keep it to yourself
Wait until the ending of your shower, so skin is moistened and soft.
Soap is the way to go. Shaving cream stings.

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