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Q: ok im 13 and so is my boyfriend, weve been going out for over 2 months now... hes had sex with other girls b4 but ive nevr had sex b4... he wants to have sex with me really bad but he always says he understands if i dont... i kinda do tho... but then i dont... im really confuzed cuz i really lov him its just i dont wanna get pregnant and i people will find out if i have sex with him and i dont want people calling me names like a slut and stuf, at this same time im in a huge fight with some girls, but i really wanna have sex with my boyfriend but then i dont! i NEED HELP!!

When the time is right you'll know it. There won't be any doubt in your mind. Since you're not sure, that means you're not ready. Sex is big deal, and you should treasure your virginity cause once you lose it, it's gone forever.

Q: Alright guys.. I dont want you to think i'm some kind of hoe.. or pervert.. But.. here goes.. I'm starting to have feelings for this kid... I won't mention a name.. But.. hes 15 I think. He's a friend of my sisters. I know he likes me... and I'm 17.. I dont know what to do! someone! Please help me!!

I know that 15 and 17 seems so far apart, but just think of it this way, when he's 25 you'll be 27, that doesn't seem like much of a difference, now does it? I think you should go for it!

Q: how long should i wait b4 i tell a girl how i feel about her after she breaks up with someone she really loved.the only reason they broke up was because he was moving to another state. thanx
dan

I think you should be patient and wait until you are positive that she is over the other guy, because you don't want to be the rebound guy. Rebound relationships never work out. Just be there for her because she can probably really use a friend right now. If it's meant to be then she will eventually realize that the guy she really wants has been right under her nose the whole time. Good luck!

Q: When me and my boyfriend first got together he asked me how long i wanted to be a virgin and i said until i was atleast 16.. well we have been together so long and i am ready to go that far with him but we made a promise to wait until i was 16.. long story.. I confronted him and he said i wanna see if we can keep our promise.. i really want to loose my virginity to him.. what should I do?

I think you are really lucky to have a boyfriend that respects you so much. He's just trying to make sure that you don't do something that you will regret. If you really love him as much as you say you do, then you should wait, and your love will continue to grow. Then your first time will be truly special.

Q: i have this best friend and i like him alot but he doesnt like me and like everytime he does something and i get mad he says something real sweet and i wanna like him more and like he doesnt wanna go with me cuz he doesnt like me im so love struck what do i do???

Maybe he really values your friendship, so he might be afraid that if ya'll become a couple and it doesn't work out then he'll lose you as a friend. Just be patient and if it's meant to be it will all work out in the end.

Q: I have been in a relationship for a long time. I recently discovered that my girlfriend wants to bring another woman into our sex life...what should i do??? I realy care about my girlfriend i wonder if it would ruin what we have???

If your girlfriend really loves you, she wouldn't ask you to do anything that you aren't comfortable with. On the other hand, if this is something that you might be interested in, give it a shot. There is another issue, is it possible that this is her way of letting you know that she is questioning her own sexuality?

I hope this helps and feel free to ask me anything else.

Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 years and when i entered middle school everyone started making fun of me because my boyfriend is a different race. He means alot to me but i am soo tired of all the laughs and jokes i get from a lot of people. What should i do??

Sincerely,
I really love him.. but just annoyed

If you love him it shouldn't matter what everyone else thinks. It's their problem and not your's. They are probably just jealous of the relationship that you have.

I hope that helps, and if you have any other questions feel free to ask.

Q: Ok..i'm a freshman in high school and i never kissed a girl before, but i have the feeling that this is gonna be the year that i get my first kiss. I'm scared that i'll do it wrong or something and i don't know where to put my hands. Any advice?

Don't over think the situation. When the time is right you'll be suprised to find that you instinctively know what to do. As far as where to put your hands--you can run your fingers through her hair or stroke the small of her back--that's always nice. Just follow your heart and everything else will fall in place.

Q: the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(

He's not worth it. Just be patient and you will find someone that will love and respect you. But this guy definitely isn't it.

Q: i had sex like a few months ago...well ive gotten my period since..and its been on a regular schedual but this month it hasnt come...i havent got it!! im freaking out!! it usually comes at the verrrry end of every month n goes into the begining of the new month but this month is hasnt!! =( could i be pregnant since ive already had my period about 2-3 times since ive had sex?? =\

I don't mean to scare you or anything, but a friend of mine had her period every month while she was pregnant. She didn't even find out that she was pregnant until she was five months pregnant. So the best thing for you to do is take a home pregnancy test,

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.