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Q: ok im confused can someone explain the relation of circa survive and saosin i just startin to listen to both bands
the lead singer of circa survive use to be the lead singer of saosin.

Q: ok so like every other story theres this bot and well i THINK i like him. he is my best guy friend tho and sometimes its hard to see him a more then just a friend but we flirt alot and he does these clusty embarressing things that r really cute and i feel so comferbal around him its like even the embarressing things just feel fine. some of my friends think he likes me but i just dont maybe its because im afarid of losing and amazing friend. so many people thought we were going out and we couldnt figure out why but one of my frieds told me we hang out and act like a couple! im so confused sometimes it feels like we are a couple and sometimes were just friends. im afriad if i tell him and he doesnt feel the same are friendship might be weird and odd please help me should i tell him or wat exactly should i do? please HELP!!!
well, what i`ve learned in life is that you`ve got to take chance, because if you don`t, you won`t get anywhere. if you really do like him, you should tell him.

Q: Hey. I just met two of my good friends from school this year. They're both really nice. Lets just say their names are Jody and Samantha. The problem is that Samantha always likes to make fun of Jody. She's only joking around because I know she really likes Jody a lot but I can tell it bothers Jody. Samantha doesn't really notice it bothers her because she thinks that it's all in good fun. I don't know why she doesn't do it to me too but she doesn't, and they met eachother a few weeks before I met them. At first they both used to make fun of eachother (you know stupid jokes) but now I can tell Jody really doesn't like it. Samantha always includes me in this when she's joking on Jody and she'll always be like "Lori look at Jody" and laugh or she'll pretend to whisper something. It looks like I'm involved whenever she does this. Then, Jody will ask me what she said later and since it's so stupid I just tell her but then say something like "but she was only kidding". Then Jody will go and say to Samantha "Lori told me what you said" and it looks like I'm starting trouble. But if I don't laugh at Samantha it will look like I'm some uptight wierdo even though Jody doesn't like it. And like I said I know that when they are having a normal convo, they're the best of friends so Samantha's not doing it to purposely be cruel. Does anyone have any ideas so that I'm not always stuck in the middle or so that I look like I'm always siding with one of them? I really like them both and I feel bad when this happens. Thanks so much in advance and I know this is soo petty and stupid but I know you guys will give great advice! =) Thanks!
i think you should talk to them. sit them down, and ask jody if it bothers her. if it says yes, just tell samantha that you could tell it did, and you always feel like you`re caught in the middle. ask samantha to try not to make the little joke and stuff anymore.

Q: what does it mean in that song how he says...imma break em off real bad? or when somebody says lemme break you off soon
basically, it means to let them go.

Q: im not an A student or a straight B student or an A and B student. Im like a one B the rest C's and maybe one D here and there on the report card. I want to go to college, and get a good job. How are my chances?? I'm a freshmen and I have really started trying this 3rd marking period to possibly get all B's and maybe 2 C's. My question is really what are my chances of getting into a good college?? Thanks
well, for every class you have a c in, the college you go to will make you make it up, if they accept you. &it will cost YOU money. &this is only if they accept you. most colleges won`t accept students with many c`s. luckily, it`s only freshman year, &some colleges (such as cal state fullerton) don`t really look at freshman year grades, but i suggest you get a tutor.

Q: My dad has a huge anger issue! He always yells at me, even when I have done nothing wrong. He'll tell me I am not smart, wise, or I can never shut up and stop complaining. He is always throwing my school books around, even when it is not in his way, and makes me pick it up. He doesn't do that to anyone elses stuff. He throws shoes at me, hits me, and throws anywhere from pencils to hardbound books to me, whenever I ask him how to do a math problem.

Also when I prove him wrong, he gets mad and denies he even is wrong, and storms out of the room, snapping at everyone he sees. He even gets mad when I get a boyfriend. He thinks I am a total slut and he doesn't trust me because I took my ex (was my boyfriend) to my room once(while my friends were there with me!) thinking I would have sex with him (and I am a virgin!!!) on my bed. This angers me because my friends have gotten laid mass times and their parents trust them to go to their rooms with their boyfriend or girlfriend.

He yells at me when my grades aren't good enough. I am getting As and Bs this year but my dad doesn't think it's good enough. He always discourages me when I want to do something, and he stresses me so much I cry. And when I cry, he gets angry and calls me a big baby. He hurts me so horribly bad I just start thinking of not living, because he makes me feel worthless =[

What can I do???

Sorry that this is long, but thanks for your time.
well, you should talk to him. ask him what his deal is. ask him why the only words that come out of his mouth are when he`s saying something bad to/about you. ask him why the only times he moves is to throw stuff at you or hit you. talk to siblings/your mom/your grandparents about it. just see what`s up. you need to figure this out. &you`re not worthless. "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent." remember that. if i were in you position, i probably would of snapped by now. haha. well, i hope this helped. &i hope you work it out.

Q: where can i get a pair of bermuda shorts that are less then $30.00 and still tight on my rear-end?
you can try old navy. they usually have some nice bermuda`s for cheap.

Q: I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.
when i get really bored, i take pictures of different things and combine them using photoshop. if you don`t have photoshop, just take picture of things. get outside. have fun with it.

Q: ok well this story is kinda long so i apologize. anyways well this guy and i were getting along great together. it started in my art class when i didnt even know he existed but he was aware of me. he would try to talk to me and i would but i wouldnt be crazy about it. but then he started to grow on me. and i started to like him. so i would talk to him he would talk to me, he would tease me, play with me, walk to class with me, actually walk with me alot, stare at me, and he did this thing where he would always ask me to do favors for him and i would smile and kinda soft yell thing and said no and so he kept doing that and it would be like, "can you get my shoes or books?" ect and then one day in the lunch line he asked me for another favor and i thought maybe you should say yes and i said yes and he said nevrmind and im like what tell me and he told me he just wanted to see me mad. so this went on for a while untill one day all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. ignored me and everything. he walked with me to class but as we were walking it was just silence and we would always be talking about something. i would try to talk to him and hed ignore me and i didnt know what was up. so i tried to plan what i was gonna do with him everyday to try to get things back to normal but they didnt work. so i said i give up and gave up on him. and so i wanted to get over him really bad because i was feeling pain becuz i missed everything we would do. so i thougt the best thing to do was to get mad at him. so here and there he talks to me but i ignore him or talk in a mean tone. but today which kinda shocked me he started flirting with me a little bit. he was blocking me from going up the stairs and i was happy but i didnt show any smiling. my emotion was kinda like leave me alone i dont wanna be bothered with anyone right now. ok so here is the whole question. am i doing the right thing or should i start being nice to him letting this being a wake upcall telling me there is still hope? or should i keep being mean to him??? and why do you think he stopped all of this?? that someone heard my best friend and i talking and told him. and then if i should be nice to him how do i talk to him again?? thank you so much and sorry this letter was so wrong. thanks again:)
i think you should slowly, but surely let him in again. be a little nicer, but don`t just all of a sudden go back to like before. talk to him. ask him why he was ignoring you and stuff. figure it out.

Q: http://www.fantasticfiction.co.uk/l/lois-lowry/anastasia-absolutely.htm
what type of dog is in this picture?
thankyou!
it is probably a west highland white terrier.

Q: any advice on how to get a split, fast?
i need one by april.

and a toe touch, i need that by april too.

does any of you know how to make one quickly? stretches for it. PLEASE know what you're saying when you answer, it'd sure help.

by april, you should be able to get the splits with a simple stretch. stand up straight and lift one leg up and rest your foot onto something that`s about waist height. if you aren`t that flexible, start with something a little lower. stretch down for a while, then switch. do this until your nose can touch your knee. then, use something higher to rest your foot on and do the same thing. do this every day until you can do the splits. once you can do the splits, make sure that you can every day, and keep stretching. as for the toe touch, i`m not exactly sure what that is, so yea. haha. but i hope i helped.

Q: Ok my boyfriend is great but i am having trouble leting him in cause i scared and it is all new to me. He has to fight to hold my hand sometimes but my real thing is that he is used to kising his girlfriends and i really realy beyound a doupt want to kiss him like a make out kiss but i wont let him do it cause i dont know how and dont want to tell him. can u explane how to french?
well, if you`ve never done it before, it`s good to just do whatever he does, follow his lead.
here are some websites that might help:
http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/kissing/ht/frenchkissht.htm

Q: ok well i want to look really pretty for school so my school is strict...no nail polish, no dying of hair, no hanging earrings, no lipstick 'lipgloss' or not so noticeable lipstick...you know? my hair has no bands is a dark brown and even, i usually put it to the side or put it behind my ears....i need a good hair style, my lobes are a little weird so its kind of embarrassing to show them too much. i want my hair to grow really long, but i cant cut it..any ideas besides curling? ..also any ways where i can wear make up, to be able to step up the looks without the teachers really noticing anything? please help me!
well you could put it up sometimes, maybe braid it. other than that i don`t really know for the hair. as for the make-up. mascara is probably the least notice-able. maybe some eyeliner as well.

Q: What does it mean to be in heat? Sometimes as I joke i hear people say "oh she's gonan do it i can see she's in heat". whatever that means, can't you have sex without being "in heat"?
"in heat" basically means horny. you can have sex without being in heat, but you won`t really have the urge to have sex.

Q: where can i buy short board shorts for girls? thanks
pacsun, tilly`s, and quicksilver have some pretty nice boardshorts for girls.

Q: was the movie texas chainsaw massacre based on real events? because i've always wanted to know!!
it is based on real events, but it`s not very acurate.

Q: There is NO ONE in my school worth dating. I keep reading guy's questions on here about "what should I get my girlfriend" and stuff, and it's driving me crazy! I want a nice guy... where can I meet someone at? BESIDES MY SCHOOL!

Thanks.
go to other schools` football games/basketball games, etc. that`s where two of my friends met their boyfriends. we went to a different school`s football game.

Q: I heard this song many times on the radio and they never seem to say what it is. I've managed to capture some of the lyrics and search them on google but I still havn't found the song.

What I remember from the lyrics it goes something like this:
"I'f anyone's going to make it...I'm betting on me and you..."

Thanks alot for your help.
i`m pretty sure that would be Keith Urban - Once In A Lifetime

Q: 15/f

I have bright red lips but I would like to have paler pink ones. Is there any product/technique I can use to do this?

I'm also aware that your lips fade over time, is there anyway to speed this up?

Thanks! =)
i would just get a long-lasting lip stick, one that doesn`t smear&stuff. not all lip sticks are bright colors. there are paler ones as well, so using that might help.

Q: when you dont cuss [unless youre seriously pissed] and you come from a family that doesnt cuss [if they do its hardly ever, and only the words damn and hell, honestly], would it be rude to ask your boyfriend if he can ask his family to tone down the cussing. these people seriously say everything in the book, quite rudely, and its WAY WAY WAY often. like every other sentence no lie. my boyfriend tries to keep it down around me, but his mom and step dad are the worst, and it intimidates me to be around them when theyre like that. should i just live with it? my mom would flip if she knew i was being exposed to a family like that, but i go to see him not them, but it makes me rather uncomforatble to hear "older mature civilized adults" use such vulgarity and talk about people the way they do. agh. 16 female.
it`s not rude to ask them to tone it down. don`t just live with it. if you don`t like it, do something about it.

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