Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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me and my f have had sex before so this is nothing new . he usually uses a condom some times we don't but this time we did a lot of things like a lot of fingering and some sex and i think we went longer than usual and now my stomach hurts a lot and like my down below is sore and kinda irritated i guess you could say but my stomach hurts a lot and its been like this since the 7th... is it possible I'm pregnant?Does your stomach hurt when you get pregnant? and do you have any symptoms when you get pregnant like stomach hurting and stuff? (link)
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Well, no your stomach doesn't hurt when you get pregnant, but you might feel nausea.
A tubal pregnancy would certainly be painful, that is when the egg, gets fertilized while it is in the falopian tube, and adhere's itself to the side of the tube, instead of moving down to your uterus where there is plenty of room. The fertilized egg grows in the tube and really hurts and eventually could burst the tube. If that is the problem, you will end up in the hospital. But I think it is a little to early for that.
It could be an STD, a bacterial infection. Because a three day incubation period is enough for you to start feeling the pain of the infection now. Are you running a temperature? Is there any discharge? Does your boyfriend have any discharge? I can tell you this if it is an infection, it won't go away by itself. and it won't get better. It will get worse.
I am hoping, for you that it is just a plain old stomache ache and will go away. But don't ignore it for too long.
Michele
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My best friend and I are nearly 16 and have known each other since the age of 4. We grew up together and are very close, it's difficult to imagine a life without her because she's played such a big part in it.
This year, her family have gone through a very traumatic experience involving sexual abuse (my family were involved too, but on a much smaller scale) and things have been very hard for her. I have been incredibly supportive and as understanding as I can be, always listening to her tell me about her problems and giving her as much advice as I can.
However, recently I have found it increasingly hard to be there for her all the time. She has taken the attitude that no one else's problems are as big as her own and are therefore petty. I feel I can't tell her about my own family issues without her thinking that I'm being selfish. She was recently upset and took it out on me, which really upset me because I've tried so hard to support her. I told her I was hurt by what she said, but she dismissed it and told me that what I was feeling was nowhere near as bad as what she is going through.
I know that what she is going through is hard and I don't mind helping her as much as I can but she acts as if the day I found out about what had happened to her family, I became her and took on all her problems. I'm not her, I still have stupid teenage problems and I'm going through a pretty bad experience of my own at home but all this is irrelevent to her.
I value her so much as a friend and I don't want to end our friendship, but I'm worried that if I tell her how I feel she will be angry and think that I'm being selfish.
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It sounds to me like she is not getting the help she needs to get over this. While we all heal in different ways and in our own time.....things should be starting to get back to normal, at least with you, her best friend. She is not getting on with life and the abuse issue is totally monopolysing her thoughts and time. Is she in therapy? Were her parents supportive of her when the incident happened? Have her parents dealt with the issue or have they just swept it under the rug? I guess most importantly, did the abuser get arrested? This is all part of the healing process.
You haven't done anything wrong, and it is normal for you to want your old friend back. She should understand that. She should want her old life back too. But she is not moving in that direction, and the reason WHY is the key here. I am not saying that you can solve her problem. You shouldn't have to, but maybe you are the only one who is concerned. You didn't give a date when everything came crashing down, you only said this year. So assuming that enough time has passed, maybe you can help her to get her old life back.
Here is what I suggest.
I suggest you back off just a little on spending time with your friend. Just a little, enough for her to notice and ask. And expect that she will be mad or upset. "why haven't I seen you, why haven't you called me, (texted me, IM'd me, whatever) ????" You know I need you, blah, blah blah.
Now you say. "Oh I am sorry, but you are hurting so much and I don't feel like I am helping you...I'm not making any difference at all." continued......"I hate to see you hurting so badly. I feel so helpless, I mean....I can't help you with your problems and you can't help me with my problems." continue....."It used to be so important to me to be able to share my problems with you, you were always so helpful and made me feel better, and now I am just bothering you." "You made the biggest difference in my life and now this issue has come between us. I am at a loss...." (OK something like that)
Now you have put the ball back in her court.
And I am hoping that by telling her how much she was able to help you.....how strong she used to be....how close you two were.....she will realize that she misses that too. You see, she is going to have to fight to ger her old life back. She is going to have to go through the motions even if they don't feel right, right now. They will in the end. I am hoping that you can get through to her by reminding her what a good life the two of you had. A good friendship, that was mutual, not all one sided.
Here is one thing I know to be true. When the vicitm doesn't get on with their life, the abuser wins. Even if he gets arrested and gets life in prison. She may as well be in prison too.
In the end, you can't make this change for her, and I certainly understand that you can't wait forever. It has happened that women have let an incident like this ruin their whole lives. If she chooses that path there is nothing you can do.
But it is not too late yet. I hope that you can find your way to trying this, and see if it helps.
You are a good friend for wanting to help, she is lucky to have you. Good luck to you.
Michele
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I've been waking up feeling panicked and terrified for the last few weeks-every night. The thing is.. I don't remember the majority of my nightmares. I will remember a couple of horrifying pieces, but that's it. I will wake up shaking, sweating, heart pounding, and terrified. I'm not stressed or ANYTHING, I'm perfectly healthy other than the nightmares. So, does anyone know what's going on? Am I having night terrors instead of nightmares?
P.S. This is effecting me when I'm awake. I'm frightened all the time, especially when I'm alone. It's also causing me to lose sleep. (link)
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Nightmares and Night Terrors are two different things. Night Terrors are also known as Sleep Terrors and parasomnia.
Nightmares happen only when you are in deep REM sleep. Night Terrors usually occure during the first 1/3 of the night. Night terrors usually involve sleep walking. Actually getting up out of bed and walking, maybe even running around the room or house. Acting violently even threatening. It is possible to hurt yourself during night terrors. It is very difficult for people to wake you up, even when you are up and walking and eyes wide open, you are still in the middle of the night terror.
I would say that your symptoms do point to nightmares, only. Those can be caused by anxiety, as you mentioned, stress and even food. I found out that when I eat foods with lots of preservatives, I often have dreams that have death or blood, sadness and a sense of loss, in them. Since you say that there is no stess in your life it is time to look at your diet. also any changes in your room, are you burning incense, buring scented candles? ARe you on any medication for say, acne, menstrual cramps. etc?
I like to take a natural approach to health problems, so for both night terrors or night mares, I would recommend some herbal products that would help you to get a better more restful sleep. Like L-theanine, or St. John's Wort, or Valerian Root, or Melatonin. All of these products have evidence that they help with sleep mild sleep disorders.
I hope this helps
Michele
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okay i'm confused about how a hymen tears. i understand how a tampon/sex/masturbation could break your hymen because things all go up in your vagina.
but then i've heard that horseback riding, bikeriding, etc. can break it too.
how is that possible?
i mean, i always thought that something has to go like... up in your vagina to break the hymen.
how does it work then? (link)
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the hyem is a very thin membrane. It may not stand up to heavy work outs, etc. Girls are so active today, playing baseball, soccer, and horseback riding. So who is to say. You and only you know your first time that you have sex. Whether or not you feel any minor pain when your hymen breaks, or whether or not you bleed a little. YOU still know it's your first time and that is all that matters. BOys can't really tell. If you tell your boyfriend that you are a virgin, he may look for tell tale signs like the loss of a small amount of blood, a little pain on your part, and inexperience.
However, in other countries, like in the middle east and some areas in Africa, women are "required" to be virgins when they marry, and many families will insist that a doctor examine the bride before she is married to ensure that her hymen in intact. This is a simple procedure. But in those countries and under those religions, it can make or break an engagement.
Here is something else you may not know.....in England where many women from the middle east travel, some of them go there to have "hymen replacement surgery done" by doctors in England. Only because so much depends on their being virgins when they marry. Sometimes even their lives depend on it.
I hope this answers your questions.
Michele
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okay all of my friends and so many people tell me how gorgeous and beautiful i am. but i cant find myself to believe it. and no guy has ever told me i was pretty. and ive never had a boyfriend. i feel so ugly..... (link)
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WEll it could be that your are so pretty that boys find you intimidating. You shouldn't be surprised to learn that boys, (and girls) many of them think that they are not pretty or good looking either, and the absolutely hate the thought of rejection, so won't ask a girl out no matter how hot they think she is.
What you are feeling is normal for your age. THis will all change when you get older. All of you, the people you know and see around you, your friends....they will all mature as they get older and feel more confident about talking to members of the opposite sex.
It will take some time. Listen in a way, you could look at it as being lucky, because there are a LOT of jerks out there, and you are better off if some of them never talk to you.
Not ever having had a boyfriend does not make you ugly. Jeez, that would make half the girls in the world ugly. And that is not so, looks do not determine how many boyfriends you will have in your life.
If you feel ugly at 13 just because no boy has ever asked you out, what are you going to do when you are 16, and no boy has asked you out, are you going to commit suicide.
Start now to find your self worth inside you, and not based on how many boyfriends you have and you will be a lot happier. I remember feeling the say way when I was young, but now I look back on it, and guess what. I had more boyfriends in my life than any one person deserves. And listen, I could have missed more than half of them, and been a lot happier. So my point is, there will be lots of men in your life....and while now you may look upon that as being a wonderful thing.....it really just presents a whole new set of problems. Don't rush it. Enjoy your simple life while you have it. It won't last for long.
And if you want to know how pretty you are, don't look at the girls in current magazines and on TV, they have special make-up artists and hair dressers and special lighting and special cameras.THey don't look that good in person. Go to the supermaket and take a good look around. You'll see that you are very pretty.
Michele
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(I know this is long, but it's a problem i've dealt with for such a long time and i'm just looking for relief)
For about half my life, about seven years, I've had severe anxiety. Panic attacks, feeling short of breath, paranoia, just feeling very anxious in general and feeling like someone with metal gloves is holding onto my lungs.
I've been on and off zoloft, taken Xanex in emergency situations where I felt like I needed to be taken to the hospital, i've had therapy and go to an alternative school and everything along those lines, but I can't seem to feel better; my anxiety just won't go away.
Now, my Mom's always been pretty 'spiritual' I guess you could say, and she believes in souls, heaven, angels, things like that. Well, i'm a twin, but my mom was supposed to have triplets. She ended up getting a reduction for whatever reason that i've never really been told.
But anyway, my mom always thought that I could tell that the baby was killed, and that I was aware of it, and somehow it's affected me. My Dad's never really been a big believer of that kind of stuff, and he's always just thought I was working myself up too much. Which i'd frankly much rather believe.
But last night when I made the analogy to my Dad of someone grabbing my lungs, he said he thought he knew what was wrong with me.
So today he comes up to me, with my Mom's mindset, and says that he thinks that when the baby was killed, somehow it's soul went into mine, and now it's trying to get out. So he want to take me to some specialist.
I'm not sure what to believe, because i've always thought this stuff was crap. So what i'm asking is:
1) Do you think that could really happen?
2) What else might be done to cure my anxiety?
and 3) Just, what should I do?
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I am sorry that you are suffering this way. I don't know if I can help, because it took many years for you to get this way, and you have been this way for a long time, but here goes.
Often when women get pregnant with multiple fetuses, doctors recommend that one or more of the fetuses be destroyed. Because it increases the chances of the remaining fetuses going full term. It is not uncommon. It happens all the time. HOW they perform the procedure (I believe from my research) is that they inject the fetus that they don't want to come to term with a saline solution and it dies, and is absorbed by the mothers body. This could have freaked out your mom. And she has been freaked out about it all these years. She is harbouring guilt feelings about the fetus that she did not bring to term, but she was given the best medical advice at the time. She could have lost all three of you. This has happened to other couples and instead of carrying around the guilt and memory of the fetuses that they could not bring to term, they obsess about it constantly and fail to enjoy and nuture the babies that they did have.....meaning, you and your twin.
Your parents have some serious problems and they have placed them on you. And now your life is compromised and they have placed their anxiety into you. They raised you with fear instead of confidence, and are letting old memories haunt them. This is not how other couples, who have been in this situation have handled this situation. Sure every mother who looses a fetus to miscarriage or some other method, will occasionaly wonder "what if". But they don't obsess about it.
There method has really complicated their lives and your life. It really is sad.
Honey, you are not possessed by the triplet who didn't survive. That is not possible. That child's spirit is not in you, and it doesn't hate you and is NOT trying to harm you. Your parents have done enough of that.
The feelings that you get inside, of your lungs being grabbed, and stuff like that....is the adrenalin that is pumping through your system because of the tricks that your mind is playing on you causing anxiety. It is the same feeling that any person would feel if they were in a dark alley and suddenly confronted with a sinister character pointing a gun at them. Your freeze, your breath gets stuck in your lungs....your eyes open wide, and the adrenalin starts pumping......this adrenalin rush is preparing your body to "fight" or "flight".
So that confrontation is a REAL threat. That is how your body reacts to REAL threats. Your anxiety is causing your mind to creat threats that are not there, but your body reacts the same way by pumping adrenalin.
Let me be blunt. the sooner you get away from this family the better you will be. It could takes years of therapy to grow out of the feelings of anxiety that your parents have placed on you. Because they have had years to instill it into you. Therapy is a good idea, but you have to be honest and blunt. Your goal should be to get OFF of the medication, once you understand, how your body reacts to anxiety, and how you can learn to UNLEARN the anxious feelings. I know I make it sound simple, and it is not. It will be hard work. But you are young and can have a chance at a normal life. Remeber some day you will be an adult and on your own. You can choose to live a better life Try to work towards that goal. Even if slowly at first.
Good luck to you dear.
Michele
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Ok well her boyfriend came to school high right ? so now she wants to dump him and then she told me and when i saw him he looked totally fine hold on heres the convo lets say her name is Melissa
Me-You serious but when i saw him he was fine.
Melissa-He came at recess.
Me-I dont know but he looked fine to me
Melissa-So your telling me im lying great friend you are.
And i was just telling her what i saw i love her so much as a friend id do anything fr her but she blocked me and wont reply to my messages :( please any advice i need it so bad :(
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Well, you got her mad when you didn't agree with her. Not a good idea when dealing with female friends. However, she should understand that you are entitled to your opinion. After all you saw him with your own eyes. It would have been better to say that you didn't think he was high, but what did he do that made her think that he was. Maybe you didn't have time to do that.
If you are just interested in getting back on her good side, you have to agree with her. When and if you do get through, or get a chance to talk to her later, say something like. OMG, he was sooooo high. I can't believe he fooled me. You were right, but I should have listed to you, you know him better than I do.
Right now I think she is more mad at him for coming to school that way, then she is with you. I think she is just annoyed with you. While she was looking for someone to take her side and maybe help her decide her next step...... (should she break up with him or not????) .....you just didn't agree and that pissed her off even more.
If this all just happened this AM, just give her a few hours and then try her. Or make a point to run into her and let her know you agree with her.
Hey the real truth will come out eventually.... He WAS or WAS NOT high. But that is his problem. And if she dumps him because he can't stay straight, then he deserves it.
I hope this helps. I really think everything will be ok later today.
Michele
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I love my friend but she's moody. I recently went with her on a 4day trip and we had the best time; laughed a lot, picked up men, acted crazy, but the last day in the car she hit my thigh I kinda laughed it 0ff. She kept d0ing it & I looked at her & said a littly jokingly "why are you hitting me?" she said "because I can. Wat are y0u g0in t0 d0 ab0ut it?" I laughed it 0ff. She did it AGAIN & I was PISSED I was ready t0 cuss her out, but I have enough respect 4 her parents in the car to not in front of them. Then when we g0t in the restraunt she tried getting too close 4 comfort & tried to push me off the bench! We are 16 year old people? I was supposed to spend the night but I didn't because I knew she was going to get worse! Wat do I do with her? She all of a sudden gets like that? That's a reason why I can't call her my bestfriend or sister! She used to do it at school in front of our group to me & say things. (That's why I was happy when she moved!) we're perfect and then wow. She has this 'I'm serious but I'm going to pretend I'm joking' attitude! 0h & I d0nt do a THING to her!!
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Your friend is "acting out". She is upset about something and that is how she is dealing with it. And you are right, it is the wrong way to deal with it. It hurts you, and compromises your friendship. From your posting, you state that everything was great for the first three days, then things got bad, it could be that she is upset that you will soon be leaving, and she will be without her best friend. She doesn't like feeling bad about that, so she compensates by getting mad at you and takes it out on you as if you had some control over it. She is acting immature, but bottom line, she doesn't know how to deal with bad feelings.
Next time, if there is a next time, as soon as she starts that stuff, as her what is bothering her. Or ask her right out, why are you mad at me? Or who are you mad at, and why are you taking it out on me. She may deny it at first, but she'll know that you recognized her inner feeling and most likely she will stop, and then start to think about it, and may be able to explain later, why she felt bad.
YOu see, I have seen young kids do this when they are mad about something, but they don't know how to verbalize what is bothering them. It is very common.
The fact that you got real pissed but she wouldn't stop, tells me that she is really emotionally immature. Her parents are probably not helping. They may even be making things worse
IF she does open up to you and tells you that she is really upset cause you are leaving and she can't make you stay. Tell her that best friends understand that they can't spend every minute together, but they always make sure that every minute they spend together is wonderful, so that both of us will want to come back.
I don't think it's hormones, because when girls are having, you know, pms, they cry for no reason. No I do think she is having trouble dealing with bad feelings. She does need to learn. I hope she does and that you and her can continue to be friends, but bottom line it is not your responsibility to see to it that she grows up. It is her parents. I do hope that things work out
Michele
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I am looking for a peice of jewelry for my mom with and emerald in it. I have tried looking online but i just get confused, and where i live doesn't sell emeralds. My budget is 200 dollars.
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BE very careful buying jewelry on=line. And it is hard to find an emerald for $200.00 They are very expensive stones. But you can try his site. it is Ruby Lane, They have lots of reputable dealers on that website who sell jewelry. Much of it is hand crafted and one of a kind. You might find a piece with a small emerald stone in it. But I can tell you that Ruby Lane screens all of it's sellers to be sure that they are reputable. The other option is ebay, but do not buy from someone who has less than 300 positive feedbacks.
Good luck to you
Michele
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is whole foods really good or is there some catch (link)
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DO you mean the company "Whole Foods". Or do you mean food that is eaten in it's natural state....whole and not processed.
If you mean the company, yes they have good products and only sell all natural, unprocessed foods grown organically. They are expensive though. If there is a Trader Joe's near you, try them instead. They have better prices. Many supermarkets now carry organic foods. They are cheaper then Whole foods. Organic is always the best way to go, when you can afford it.
Michele
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Okay, so I'm 15/f
Do NOT worry. I'm not planning to get sexually active any time soon so don't lecture me.
But anyways, I was on this site and I came across and topic posted up by someone saying that birth controls weren't veg/vegan suitable because they use animal stuff in there.
Well, what exactly ARE birth controls made from?? (link)
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Birth control pills are estrogen, which is a female hormone. When you are pregnant your body produces more estrogen, and does not produce any more eggs, so as to prepare for the fertilized egg that is inside you to grow into a healty baby. So, when you are on birth control pills, they put more estrogen into your body, to fool it into thinking that you are pregnant so your body doesn't produce any more eggs.
Now as to why they are not vegan suitable. I am not 100% sure, but I would say that they must use estrogen from animal sources to make the pills. However I am sure that they don't kill the animals to get the estrogen, most likely they extract it from the urine of pregnant mammals, like cows, pigs and/or horses. This is common. I have never heard that vegans boycott birth control pills for that reason, but it does make sense, and it is an animal product. sooooo
I hope this info helps
Michele
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Well, Lateyly I have been having tired issues, I am always tired, All I wan to do is sleep. I go to sleep round 2-3 am and get up at 1 30 ish, and I find it hard to get up at that time even. Throught the day I find it a chore to do simple task that I should not feel tired. My mom thinks I am anmic, meaning I dont have enough iron to keep me going, Does anyone have any other sulutions as to what might be wrong with me? (link)
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There could be a number of reasons why you are tired all the time and anemia may be one of them.
We all need iron in our diets, and I am wondering if you eat enough. Iron comes from red meat, spinach and other green leafy vegetables, and molasses. Do you eat enough of these? If not you can take an iron supplement. They can cause constipation though.
Dehydration could also be a cause of lethargy (lack of energy) do you get enough fluids. If you only drink caffine drinks and diet sodas, they act like 'diuretics', which cause you to urinate more and loose fluids. You need to drink lots of plain old water.
YOu could also have a virus like mono. You would have to be diagnosed by a doctor to determine that.
And finally, you are trying to mess up your body's natural circadian clock by going to bet so late and getting up so late. YOur body is not reaching REM sleep, which is the deep sleep we need to feel rested. For most people getting 7 to 8 hours sleep during the night, when it is dark, is what our bodies need.
You can try any of these things and see if it makes a difference.
Michele
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okay i guess this is urgent! my vagina has skin around the hole wear ur fingured. and that skin looks as if its ripped! so i dont no wat to do and if its not a big problem i dont want to take it to my mother so please let me no! thank yous so much (link)
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I think you are fine. That is just extra skin that stretches and allows your vagina to open wider when it needs to. If you are not in pain, or if you haven't put anything in there that hurt you, or had relations that were uncomfortable, then I don't think you are injured. Please relax. I think it is just your normal vagina. If you google vagina in google images, you will see a medical picture of one, (a colored drawing) and this may help you.
Michele
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do yall think that people have stopped going to real casino's now and are going on the online ones more? also do you think that real casinos will have to shut down in the future because they are being replaced by websites? (link)
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If you have ever been to a casino, you will see that they are crowded. They are open 24 hours, and there are always people there. Some of the people who go to casino's most frequently are seniors, and they mostly do not use computers. there are also some really high rollers, from other countries, who come here just to gamble. They wouldn't go to an on-line casino. I don't think real casino's will be going anywhere soon.
they are here to stay. they take in billions and billions of dollars each year.
Michele
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I have been told that there is a pill woman can take that "turns you on" can I get this at wal mart or a drug store? (link)
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There are pills made from herbs and vitamins that are supposed to bring arousal to a woman. You can get them at Wal_Mart. Look where they have all the vitamins and then look for products that say "sexual enhancement" supplements. Some are for guys too.
I can't tell you whether or not they work, sorry.
Good luck.
Michele
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I've got 2 little white pimple-looking things, side by side on my top lip.
What is it and how do I make them go away ? (link)
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That sounds more like a cold sore. I have never heard of getting zits on your lips. and often cold sores start out as two or three little pimple like or blister like things. Look up cold sores please, on google. YOu'll find lots of information
Michele
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where can i get a student loan real fast? i start school the 20th and i hav to pick my classes this week , my problem is i dont hav any money and i need $1000. is there any place i can get a loan. like now? (link)
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try googling "unsubsidized student loans"
In connecticut, I would check out the CT Student Loan Foundation. But I don't know what state you are in. So maybe. "unsubsidized student loans - then put in your state.
Oh and try, Bank of AMerica they are nationwide and they do give student loans, but you'll have to have really good credit.
Michele
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hey i asked a question earlier about the textbooks...
are they good quality? the site says the books are goin for a dollar... thats somewhat unbelievable and far too good to be true.
have you bought these books yourself? im just worried ill end up ordering these books and they're gonna come all destroyed and what not... (link)
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Look carefully, some of them are for sale ONLY in foreign countries, where $1.00 is a lot of money, you have to look at the "shipping location". You can only purchase the ones that are willing to ship to the USA. And while those will cost you more than a dollar, it won't be as much as the ones that the college book store will want to sell you. Even better prices that the on-line college book store.
Happy Savings
Michele
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when a girl is being felt up, first of all.
how do the guy and girl sit or stand.
what does the girl have to wear.
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Well most likely you and the boy would be kissing at the same time, and facing each other. One arm hand, would be feeling, the other would be embracing the girl. The girl does not have to wear anything special in order to be felt up. It happens despite whatever clothing the girl may have on. For hundreds of years now, no matter what women wear, men always find a way to get through.
Michele
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Is there ever a point where you can't get any darker when you tan? I'm not being racist or anything, but if people tanned about 24/7 whenever its sunny, even in the winter [you can because of the sun rays.. its just cold], wouldn't white people be able to be dark like black people? And wouldn't black people be.. darker than black? Is it even possibal?
Sorry, im just curious. (link)
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No, it is a substance in their skin that makes them dark. It is called melanin. Black people have more of it than white people. Melanin helped their people to survive thousands of years ago, when the migrated to the warmer continents like Afria. Where they were exposed to sun 365 days a year and spent most of their time outdoors.
White people would not tan to the point of having skin like people of the black african race. Their bodies would not produce enough melanin. the melanin that is produced when you make an effot to get a tan, is trying to protect you from the sun and the sun's damaging rays. So your skin takes all the damage to protect your inner organs.
Michele
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