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Q: r&b and hip hop only new music the newest out. i dont want any old shitt thanks xoxoox

Beautiful Girl - Sean Kingston
UGK - Pop My Trunk
Kelly Rowland - Like This
Bartender - TPain
Same Girl - R. Kelly and Usher
Get Me Bodied - Beyonce

Q: how do you give head..weird question but i really don't know!

um wow the last time I answered this question I got in trouble because I was specific. SO ima just say, look it up on the internet. Im pretty sure if you type how to give oral sex in a search engine, you will find alot about it. Their also be ableto give you techniques as well.

Q: I'm really upset right now, because I examined my vagina in the mirror (to see if my hymen broke yet) and I noticed how red it was down there between the outter vagina lips. It's almost like a purplish red and there's a weird ricotta like discharge in those outter lips. My vagina has always been red and I've always had that type of discharge but is it normal? Because I know I've always had that, but I just got really emotional because I don't think thats normal. Also This may sound stupid but how do you know which whole to insert a tampon in? I know its the whole with the inner lips, but I saw a really tiny whole towards the back of the inner lips and then I saw another whole with normal discharge, blocked by a wall. I'm just really confused right now and really upset, but back to my first question is that normal?

If you have always had it then its normal. Your discharge is just heavy. Its natural. Go to a tampon sit and it will tell you how to use it. The best I can tell you though is its the entrance right abouve the rectum. I mean thats the only hole it can actually go in anyways.
If you need me to a little more specfic. email me.

Q: well what abot youtube?

Im confused. What about it?

Q: ok here what it is, my ex-girlfriend wants to get back together with me, and i want to get back together with her, i still love her so much and she said the same thing, but after she went to VA she had some guys hitting on her, she said that me and her were back together and now shes not sure, i don't know what to do, i love her so much and i don't want to lose her.

Calm down and let her make a descision. Dont pressure her or anything. She just dont know what she wants right now. So just give her time.

Q: how do you erase things that are saved in the things you write in like the search things.
like on google, where you type in the search box and you type one letter and other things that start with that letter that youve searched for pops up. how do you delete that?

When you type in the google search box on your toolbar and the list comes down, on the bottom of it, it normally says clear history.

Q: I'm on birth control. I have been for about 4 months.. But I skipped last month's period by taking a new packet. I don't have my new packet yet and I'm starting the peach pills sunday!

I'm supposed to go swimming tomorrow morning to late afternoon. Would I get my period tomorrow?

On my first month, I already had my period before so I didn't get it the peach pills week. The second month I did and when I did, it happened like days later.

Would it happen days later too? I really don't want to put in a tampon especially if I'm not bleeding. [I've never used tampons before either]

Since you skipped your last period, there is a chance that this one comes whenever it wants to. So the best way to have an idea about when it is going to come is. The birth control basically stays in your system 24 hours,(you have to take them the same time everyday)so there is a great chance that it will come the day after you take the first peach pill. But I say dont take any chnces. I would just put the tampon in right before I go swiming And take it out right after. But if you have never used one then I dont know what to tell you.

Q: 15/f

I don't know what's wrong with me. Actually, I don't know if anything is wrong with me at all.

Ever since I was little I have loved sleeping. I can sleep for so long. If I don't have something to wake me up, I can sleep for a good 15 hours. And then when I wake up I still don't feel energized. In the middle of the day I always feel like if I just lay down and close my eyes for a few minutes I would be able to sleep right away (I have fallen asleep on my boyfriend's shoulder several times).

I definitely don't exercise too much. I don't exercise ENOUGH, so I know it's not that.

I have thalassemia minor (genetic anemia, in short) and that is my only health problem at this point. The word anemia makes people think "tired" but I don't think I should be. My hemoglobin is the problem in terms of the thalassemia, but mine is now at a very close to normal level, so it shouldn't be affecting me.

I don't know what to do. I get so annoyed at how tired I feel during the day when I should feel amazing with how much sleep I got.

Is lethargy even a reasonable excuse? What do I do?

Actually sleeping alot makes you tired. It tires out your body. So when you sleep for long periods of rime, it starts to drain you. You should get the amount of sleep you need.
So maybe 7 or 8 hours instead of 15.

I know it sounds weird, but Honestly, I was told this by a doctor.

Q: 14/f

I am wear a size B bra.
Where can I find cute bras?
OTHER THAN Victoria's Secret.
please?

Wlamart has cute bras. I love their bras. I have also seen cute bras at target.

Q: how can i get the 'abortion pill'. and do i need a parent with me and do they have to know. because i wanna keep this a secret. && how do they work ?

You can only get this pills 72 hours after the incident occurs. You can get it from the health department. If you are over 16, its patient-doctor confidentiality.

Q: ok so 2 days ago on July 24th my mom switched me from 250 text messages to 1000 because i keep going over. However i know i won't get the full number because its in the middle of the month and last time she switched me (100 to 250) in the middle of a month i only got 121 messages included. on the 8th of august our minutes and messages will renew themselves so i'll get the full 1000, but now i'm just wondering if anyone could give me a rough number of how many i will get this month so i don't go over.

You probably get 500. or so. Wow. I use at least 3000 a month though.

Q: okay.
im thirteen.
and i want two tattoos.
your jaws are probably dropping.
but.
i want to wait until im seventeen.
:]
now i want:
http://s151.photobucket.com/albums/s134/omgoshxitsxmeg/?action=view¤t=tattoos-2.jpg
that.
w/ a banner saying beautifully unique.
by the end of it.
[it ends to the lower left of my belly button.]
because.
thats what i am.
it should be crazily.
but that doesn't sound too good.
and the second:
http://s151.photobucket.com/albums/s134/omgoshxitsxmeg/?action=view¤t=angel-wings-2.jpg
across my shoulderblades.
:D
now.
i would majorly appreciate.
your views on the matter.
thanks in advance.

The thing about the tattoo on your stomach is when you get pregnant in the future, way, way, in the future it will spread out. And when it shrinks back down, theres a chance it wont look to great. Another thing is, Over the years you have to go get your ink redid on certain tattoos becaus the start to wear with age.

Q: I'd really like to apply for a job at Forever 21, but I've never applied for a job before and I'm kind of unsure of how to do it. On their website, you can download an application and that's totally fine but how would I go about finding out if the Forever 21 near me is accepting new employees?

I mean, I can walk into the store and ask, but who would I ask? Could I just walk up to someone who works there and ask if they're hiring? Do I need to ask for the manager?

Or, could I call the store and speak to someone? Would I need to make sure I was speaking to a manager first before I ask if they're hiring? Or can I just ask whoever picks up the phone?

Is it possible to email a specific store and ask if they're hiring?

Sorry, these seem like dumb questions but they're just things I really need to know. I'm kinda nervous about the whole thing. I'd really love some advice.

Thanks!

You can walk up to anyone that works there and ask. If they dont know, they will ak the manager for you. Also, if you call, whoever answers the phone can tell you. And the same thing applies here, if they dont know, they will ask someone who knows.

Q: Hi!

I need some serious advice! Every morning when i wake up i have HORRIBLE morning breath. I eat a well balanced diet and brush my teeth well three times a day. How do i fix my problem so i won't have bad breath when i wake up!

Thank you so much!

Well this is common. There is really nothing yo can do about it. Just make sure you gargle befor you go to sleep. That might make it slightly better.

Q: Sorry if this sort of long.

So my friend asked me to come to her vaca house but i didn't want to so i said i couldn't my mom said i should have plans with her, so she called me and asked me to come over to her house for most of the day tomorrow, i don't want to hurt hr feelings, or blow her off, but everytime we have plans it's soooo boring, it's fun to be with her when your in a group of people but alone it's awkward and no fun!!! What do i do????????

13 yr/f

Come up with things to do. Im sure she will do whatever you want to do. Keep bringing up things that you think are cool. Your opinion matters too.

Q: so my school has a bowling team and i'm sure others do to so like when are try outs? like what month? becasue i have no idea when a bowling season would start. and anyone with experience is it hard? i really want to like join a team and highschool and i have literally tried everything

14/f/gonna be a freshman :]

Wow I love bowling!! Just got back actually.
I wouldnt exactly say it is hard. Controlling the ball is the key to the game. Your arm has to be study and you have to know where to throw it at on the lanes.

Q: even if i drink like 1/4 a bottle of poland spring water the tall size i still pee like crazy. what is wrong with me

You have an overactive bladder. A doctor can presribe pills for that or you are just going to have to deal with it.

Q: is sleeping in a room with computers turned on bad?

sleeping with a computer on is like sleeping with a tv on. So im guessing no.

Q: I just got a job at McDonalds. I am required to wear slip-resistant shoes. I have a few pairs of Etnies and other various skate shoes, that say they have a slip-resistant sole. Would those work?

Yea as long as they are black. Just run them by your manager to make sure they are fine too.

Q: 14/f
k so school starts and like a month and i'm going to be school shopping soon. i was just wondering how many shirts, jeans, etc. should i buy? i mean ofcourse i've done this before but like i always end up buying stupid things and i don't get more new clothes really until christmas. so what would you suggest? also i might add i am like the sale queen haha i could find one anywhere. but not everythings going to be so yeah :]
i already have like 3 pretty much new jeans i only wore like once last year so those'll be good.

ha more questions sorry for being so long :/

should i just bring a notebook, a folder, and a pen & pencil the first day of highschool?

i know these are kinda dumb but hey doesn't hurt to ask :]

You should get a binder with enough dividers for each class so you wont get anything mixed up.

Now to the clothes. Since you have 3 pairs already, buy about 4 more pairs maybe 5 so it wont look like you are wearing the same five pairs of jeans each week. And shirts. wow. I buy like 10 shirts but thats just me. I like to have at least twoweeks worth of clothes so I can mix it up and everyone wont think im just wearing the same thing over and over.

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.