I'm a 38 year old psychologist living in Nashville, Tennessee. Until shortly over a year ago, I hosted a radio/tv talk show. At the moment, I'm amid plans to start a new one called, " One Man's Opinion". It's a radio show FOR women, ABOUT men, BY a man.
Seeing that alot of issues are age-related, please state your age when posing a question.
E-mail: cmclinphd@hotmail.com
Gender: Male
Location: Nashville, Tennessee
Occupation: Psychologist
Age: 38
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I wanna start a hermit crab activist group in my state, because I, and others, believe that Hermit Crabs (land)are treated inhumanely. In pet stores they're always in tanks with out lights or heat lamps or spoges or the waters too deep and theyve all drowned in the water bowl. I HATE HOW THE POOR DEARS ARE TREATED!!
But i have my ways of getting them better living quaters. By Buying them all. like ....12 at a time from my local pet store....i buy every single one !!! Otherwise i go to the dude at the counter and tell him to clean out the tank once in a while. Or offer to clean it myself. Once i burst into tears cos all the poor little hermies were shell-less and food-less and it was AWFUL!!!
So Damnit, how can i get a group started in my town?? Can i spread the word around to my hermie friends and start an organisation that re homes them and adopts them??? Cos that would be cool.
Remember people- Hermit Crabs can live up to 120 years old in captivity, thses guys are pets for life, not just for christmas.
hell yeah. im gonna put this in random weirdos.....and no one will carea bout it and its go to hell. (link)
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First, I don't think you're a random wierdo. Any person who gives a damn about another living being is defintely not. Those that go through life, caring about nothing but themselves are the weirdos to me. Now, I'm not saying that every single body on the plaent has to take up arms and go save something on the endangered species list, but, at least care. It seems to me you're well on the way of starting that group you spoke of. You've already done a hell of a lot more than most people would. Offering to clean the tanks yourself was ( and IS ) a nice touch. If possible, why don't you put an ad in the local publication and see if anyone thinks the way you do. You'll never know. Or, make the most use of this cyberworld in which we live. Look for a "local" chat room and see if there's an option to create your own. If so, go from there. I commend you on your efforts this far. Keep it up.
Hey, can they REALLY live 120 years in captivity? I didn't know that. But then again, I didn't know much about hermit crabs to begin with. Thanks.
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Okay i NEED 2 no! 4 all you GUYS NOT GIRLS out there. Please answer this! I know sum guys and wenever Im just standing around with someone and they come up out of nowere and there REALLY close! We touch like alot!! And wen they cum from in front they still get close like were gonna kiss. I used to back away, but now Im used to the whole thing. Does this meen they like me? Oh and wen they ask actiosly who I like. Then wen I say no i wont tell and then he comes up with gross peoples names! Like oh you like Fred for instince! Does that meen he like me??
~~~Troublesome~~~ (link)
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I would say someone invading your personal space on a regular basis is a sign that someone likes you, Troublesome. It's even more so with women. Although they're usually a bit more on the sly side with it. That, coupled with the questions about who you're interested in I would think would be a good sign that he does.
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How can I get people to stop overselling my talents? My supervisor's been calling me a borderline genius in public and I'm really not. Someone's going to give me a herculean task that I'm not up to and it's going to be all his fault.
That and I could swear I'm getting dirty looks from my co-workers.
How can I bring his public optimism level down? Screwing up in a big way is not an option. (link)
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Believe it or not, I was once in the same position. I know EXACTLY how you feel. It becomes hard for you to get through the day fearing that "the thing" that's going to destroy that light cast upon by others is just around the corner. Might I suggest that when someone does give you excessive accolades, try and share the spotlight with co-workers who may have helped in what "appears" to be the most minimal way. e.g., " Well thank you, but honestly...I couldn't have done such a job had it not been for ( insert name here)." Cast some of the praise elsewhere. I realized that there is no unknown law that says we have to shoulder all of the accolades ourselves ( and believe me, I've looked ). That will not only cast you as more of a mere mortal in the eyes of those that believe otherwise, but it, will also fend off some of those "leers" from your co-workers and show them that YOU don't believe all of the hype about you, either. My situation worked for me. Please let me know how it works for you.
Post Script:
Oh by the way, lol, I was labeled a genius, by both co-workers AND the shrinks that tested me, so imagine MY pressure, lol. You'll do fine. Or, shall I say...you'll do OK :)
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Sir,
I think you are a really nice guy that gives some really great answers. So, what's bothering you? The last few things you have answered don't have the same sensitivity of the ones given just a few days ago.
I know its really none of my business, and that some of the grammar found here is startling. I am just a fan and hate to think that a really nice guy is feeling down. (link)
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Thank you so very much for your concern. I must admit, however, that there is nothing bothering me. I try to show sensitivity, when I feel that someone is genuinely seeking assistance, and God willing, I will always be able to continue doing so. I'm sure that if you'll read the aforementioned answers that are devoid of the same sensitivity, I think you'll find that they may be questions that may lead one to believe that they were borne of a less than serious nature. I am not above admitting my errors, though, and if in the event, I HAVE misconstrued someone's intent, please know that I apologize profusely. But, thank you so much for you concern, it DOES mean a great deal...really. And please feel free to keep me in line in regards to my sensitivity. As for my grammar...no excuse...that's just laziness. I assure you, I will be more cognizant of that, as well. Happy holidays.
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What should I ask you? (link)
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Why I'm not answering you.
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Okay like who did it???Why did you take my chocolate???? (link)
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If you're asking me why I did it, then I don't have to answer you. Apparently, you already know WHO did it? Sheesh...PLUG IN, will ya'?
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y cant penguins fly cause they have wings and stuff (link)
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The wings "and stuff" aren't sufficient enough to create the necessary "lift" to get the overweight, non-aerodynamically designed carcassess off of the ground. Bottom line, they weight to damned much for their wings. Just like ostriches "and stuff".
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Why is the grass outside my window green? (link)
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Beacause the grass inside your house is blue, dumbass!
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does anyone no where to find a free chat log for aol, not aim, aol? cuz i love looking at old chats from a really long time ago but its a pain to always save them to word. (link)
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I can't answer your first question, but I canb aid in your saving techniques. When you're finished chatting, right click, highlight and save to disk or desktop.
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Hey everyone, i'm so tired of being a prep and since being a punk is popular now, i think i'll go steal a chunk off of someone else's culture!
And can anyone tell me how to make my boobs look like Pamela Anderson's? Thanks so much, everyone! It means a lot to me! (link)
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Sure. 5,000 dollars US and a board-certified plastic surgeon. NEXT!
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How do I make myself look more attractive to potential employers? (link)
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I'm not the one to ask that. you have to find out what it is that the employer to be is in need of, then assure them as much as possible, that you are the one to fill the position.
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I got fired from my job about three years ago. It was really a great job and it was an exempt position too. I was using drugs at that time and it affected my performance and I was missing a lot of days worked. It was kind of like an eye opener for me when I got fired and I've been drug free since then. I had three little kids so I decided that it would be best if I stayed home with the kids during the day and I took a part time job at night. It's been this way for three years. Now that my youngest kid is also in school, I think that I am ready to work full time again. My dilema is I don't know what to say when asked on a job interview why I left my last full time job. I can't say I got fired because they wouldn't hire me. What do you think would the best response be? (link)
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Hmmm so let me get this straight. You want me suggest a good lie. Normally, I wouldn't dare. But you know what? I've had several years of A/D counselling and I know what you're about to go through, so, just this once, I feel inclined to help.
If I was the prospective employer, not only would I hire you, providing you were qualified, but would respect you so much more if you told me that you left your last place of employment to care for your children. Now that they're in school, etc., etc.,
Not going to say much more.
Oh, and congrats on three years of being clean. Don't forget what it was like.
God be with you and best of luck.
Now.....go clock in!
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ok i really like this guy in new york were my mom lives and i live w\ my dad in michagen but if i leave my dad i would feel sooooooooooo guilty and i wouldn't be able to help him. should i live with mom or dad? i know what your gonna say your gonna say that i shouldn't have just that reason for living with her and i don't i have more but this is my main prob. so plez don't say that! (link)
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Nope...what I was going to say ( and think I will, anyway ), is that it seems your biggest problem is "bailing out" on your father. You say you won't be able to help him. What kind of help does he need? Can he make it without you? Do YOU think he needs you there to help him or is it a foregone conclusion? Why don't you talk it over with him. You don't have to tell him WHY you want to go and live with your mom. Maybe that you just need a change. You may be surprised to find that he needs you less than you think he does. Hell, at first I thought you wanted to move because it's easier for you to spell New York.
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How do you know when you are in love? I think I might be...but then again I don't think so, because if I really loved him, I could actually talk to him and not just stare at him until he looks at me, and then (at a perfect opportunity to talk to him.) quickly look away.
>>Toungue Tied & Confused (link)
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Lol, that's just the opposite. Love makes you do things like that. You DO find it hard to speak, you do find it hard to look at them, your stomach quivers and your heart really doews flutter when you see the object of your affection.
Yeah, I think you're in love.
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I'm doing an extreme makeover on myself this holiday break and I need to change my whole style,especially my clothes. I'm in highschool and I've been going there dressed up as though this was elementary school. I'm still suprised no one has ridiculed me for wearing overalls the other day. I'm 6 feet tall and I am not model thin. What styly could help? (link)
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Ok, they HAVE been ridiculing you. But at 6 feet....not to your face. As for the styles that would work. Try dark solids, or if you have to have patterns, try patterns that run up and down the body, that will help with the slimming effect.
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I know if I dry my wool sweaters they're shrink, but I don't have time to lay these things out to dry... can I just blow dry them? Will that shrink them just like a dryer would? (link)
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Let's see....dryer...dries using hot air.
HAir dryer....dries using hot air.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure they'll shrink. Oh....and don't wash coloreds and whites together. Sheesh!
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Can I get sick from licking all the envelopes from my christmas cards to seal them? I know I could use a sponge and all that but that's just not as fun... I feel like licking them gives a more personal touch. Is all that glue going to get into my system and give me some horrible disease? (link)
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No, to both. Licking it will not give you any disease. And no, it doesn't really give it a more personal touch except to the one doing all of the licking. Hell, ask me to tell if it was licked or wet with a sponge and I'm at a complete loss. Not only that, I'd look at you as if to say, " Why the hell would I care?" as I'm sure most others would. Hey, get them out whichever way feels most comfortable and less imposing to you.
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Is it safe to use any old salmon steak from a reputable market in my sushi, or should I stick to the stuff from the Japanese market? (link)
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Your one word description of the market says it all. REPUTABLE. I don't see any reason not to buy from them if you trust them and obviously you do. Try it...if it doesn't satisfy, then go back to what does, but a try wouldn't hurt.
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brown eyed girl has another question!well i the other night i went over and she was there right in front of me she said that they were trying to work things out he went on to say that NO were not! he called me that night and said "how much he likes me and is sorry" i told him that he needs to take care of his crap because i dont need this i need to move on with my life. he understood. it was hard at work yes we work together which makes it even harder. what should i do with that? if you write back i will tell you more about the restaining order. this girl has to much control on him. not only that he knows how much he has hurt me. i really have the worst luck with guys!!!!!! (link)
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The fact that you're even asking what to make of it tells me why you have "the worst luck with guys". Hell, you should have been out a LONG time ago and not looking back! You don't have to be mean. But realize that what you're being asked to endure is extremely unfair. EXTREMELY! Take a deep breath, suck up the hurt, and move on. You'll be a lot better off when you start to consider what it is YOU want.
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I am 14 years of age, me and this boy started dating, we dated for a year and i loved him alot and i still do,he is now 16 and we have been broken up for about 5 months but we still talk and i still enjoy talking 2 him... do you think we will get back together? (link)
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Noone can answer that but you, my dear. What do you two discuss when you're together? Are you discussing the poosibilities of getting back together or are you just talking about the weather and any other thing that happens to fill your mind?
If I had to answer, I'd say that at your age, if he didn't want to get back together, he wouldn't be spending so much time with you. That's only one way to see it, though. If the time you spend together starts to increase, then I'd say it's a good chance you will. Why don;t you just ask the one person who can REALLY answer that for you what he thinks......HIM. He should be able to shed the best light of all. Good luck.
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