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Q: its almost 5 months for me and my bf-were both 15. and i think i love him and i want to tell him.but we both take saying "i love you seriously" so we havent said it yet. i really want to but some things he does are keeping me. like it seems like he likes music more then me sometimes-which he says isnt true (because hes a big musican).and we only get to see each other 1 a week cuz he lives 30 mins away. and i feel if were on the phone he'll sing and i feel like hes not listening-i'll even go "right?" and he'll go "right!" and i didnt even ask him anything...but when im with him i want nothing but to be with him, at school i cant stop thinking of him and i just wanna be in his arms..its just on the phone when were not together things are -off.but when im with him.i get that feeling like i wanna tell him i love him really bad.but i dont wanna tell him i love him and him not feel the same way-because i dont kno if he feels the same way-.i dont kno what to do..what do you think i should do?

Not JUST another dumb teen love story. (because every teen love story is unique)

It seems like you're worried that you don't have his attention being 30 minutes away. Guys have a hard time concentrating on multitasking. Especially if they're 15. A way to maybe take the edge off is to do video chatting if you can.

If you truly feel like you love him, tell him when you think he's not listening. He might just hear you. And he just might say it back but was afraid to say it before.

Anytime you say "I love you" to someone, it's like baring your soul. If it's not returned, usually we feel crushed. So don't rely everything on proclaiming your love but give it hope.

Cheers,
stargirl

Q: Hi, my name is Amy, im 14 years old

well - there is this reallly hot guy, and his name is Derek. He's 15 years old. He's really nice and i really like him. I tried to get to know him, but now he just thinks im a complete wierdo. he won't talk to me when he's at skating (thats where he works) he won't answer my emails he blocked me on msn and won't answer me on face book.i have no idea what to do. if there was one chance he would listen to me... what should i say? somthing meaningful something touching.

Amy,

You have a very long and wonderful life ahead of you. It's very obvious that he's just not into you. I know, it really sounds cliche to say that but it's true.

You should explore other options. Derek's hot, sure. But most 15 year old guys aren't really that...well let's just say emotionally intelligent. You sound like a smart girl. Spend these wonderful teenage years learning who you are and what you like. Opportunities will present themselves to you.

Cheers,
stargirl

Q: ok so there is this guy i am totaly into im 16 by the way and hes a bit older like 2 years and he is amazing i think im in love he is so sweet and cares about me hes not sleezy or anything. the thing is i know he was into me a few weeks ago but now i heard he has a girlfriend but i dont understand he was like perfect and i cnat stop thinking about him i spent a night going out and stuff with him then we werre going to hang out and he has communicated with me since then but thats alll and now i want to see him but do not want to make the first move and seem tooo intrested if he has a girlfriend i will feel like crap what can i do???? my friends boyfriend and him are like great friends so i will prob end up seeing him sooon but it might be uncomfertable what can i do about that too???
totaly confused!!!

RED FLAG!

Ask him straight out if he has a girlfriend.

Because no matter what fantasy you have or how in love with him you are, if he has a girlfriend this entire time, he's never going to leave her for you.

Q: How do you know when you are completely over some one and ready to date again becasue I am in a bit of this sitation..after I broke up with my intense boyfriend..like 2 weeks later I am going out with another guy..is that okay or am i moving too fast and not thinking about what might happen?

ps-I'm just a teenager..

Thanx a bunch!

You should date around! Like the previous columnists have just said, you're a teenager! This is the time to sample the buffet that is boys. Then you get to college and sample the buffet that is...MEN.

Q: I didn't know what category to put this under sorry.
Last year i had an awesome sweet 16.. it was the best party ever.. had like 50 of my friends come to this lake club and dance the night away..
this year i wanted to do something a LOT smaller.. aha but i dont know any themes or what kinda things you could do for like a sweet seventeen.. i kinda wanted the theme to be like "sexy seventeen" but idk .. any ideas would be great!! thanks so much!!

Oh 17...

If you want to do something a lot smaller, try just having an intimate party with a handful (not 50 =P) of your friends.

There are lots of themes for teen parties. Princess Beatrice's 18th birthday party's theme was 1888. So you could do a time theme party. It gives you an excuse to dress up!

Q: ok i am going on a blind date should i ahve sum of my firneds come with me or not incase it goes badly and so i will have sum one to hang out with instead ir what

Bringing your friends along gives you a sense of safety but it makes your date a little uneasy. He (or she) is already nervous enough on this blind date.

My suggestion is: Why not have a day date at some place public? Like lunch at a local cafe or pizzaria. It's public enough so that you'll feel safe but it's private enough so you can get to know your date.