...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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Location: CA
Occupation: student
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Yahoo: SuNkiStDeLonGe
Member Since: December 1, 2003
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It's Here To Help
I was just asking people to email me. That's all, I didn't expect such harsh comments from some of you. And what makes you think I asked you guys for a phone number??? I never asked that. I just asked you guys to email me if you needed any help...and yes I did see that link to make your own advice column but something went screwy with my computer and it didn't work.
You guys need to lighten up okay?
I did not type anywhere that I wanted your phone numbers...because that's not true. (link)
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I think that Ferngully was talking to the first answer. She had given out her # to you so you could call. I dont think it had anything to do with you.
-shay
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By the way, I don't care if I SEEM desperate.I just want to help people if they want help...sorry for spazzing out before but you guys can get really harsh even if you didn't mean to. (link)
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Well if you keep acting this way Im not sure if anyone will want to come to you anymore.
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ok i have a really hot and awsome bf...i get good grades...i have tons of friends...and i am lots of fun clubs..(gifted and talented siging)..my family is awsome...for some reason i feel like i am missing something..like there is a big whole in my body tht is missing..can anyone explain? (link)
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Maybe you're comparing yourself to your family or other people. Or maybe you lost someone that you dearly loved. Maybe talk to a parent or adult to see whats left out.
-shay :-)
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okay here is the problem.
my friend entered in a beauty pageant and she is in the finals and she had them send ME info so i could enter. but my mother won't let me. my mom is 53 years old and im REALLY bummed out that she won't let me. i feel that im very pretty and that i could even beat my friend if i wanted to (not that i want to beat my friend) is my mom afraid that im not pretty enough to be miss teen of the nations? or does she think i will get a big head? im not going to get a bug head because thats not me. my mom use to do all this stuff when she was younger. is it that she WAY old or am i not good enough for her?
anyways im on this site to GIVE advice no ask but i really wanted some advice.
always
~kat~bare~ (link)
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It may be that she doesnt have the time or think of finacial issues. Ask her why, but when you do try not to make it in a big deal. Like not with an attitude.
-shay :-)
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i called the boy like you said but it turns out that he moved.he still goes to my school but i don't want to ask him for his number. anyways, i realized he wasn't the guy for mr. thanks for your help, though. (link)
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Ohh, Thats to bad. Well I hope you find someone new!
-shay :-)
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well if you don't know "LDS" then maybe mormon will ring a bell. thats what i am. a member of "the church of latter day saints" or other names "LdS" "Mormom". were different then other churches. some churhes even have begrading classes against us (link)
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ld means LDS? I also happen to be a member, but Ive never heard that nickname before. I know! Whats with all that stuff about us? They think were liers or something.
-shay :-)
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You don't have to reply to this message. thanks for the advice ill try it tomorrow. you are a real big help (link)
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Well Im replying. Your Welcome, but what question did I answer? Oh well!
-shay :-)
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ummm lets see is any one here lds? because if u r i would like to chat (link)
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Whats that?
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I like this boy. I used to think he liked me because he gave me his phone number 2 years ago. I would call him every other weekend. Then I quit calling because his mom acted like she was getting mad. I haven't called him since September 2002. I like him now(2004) but I am positive that hwe doesn't like me. If I ask him out I'll be making a fool of myself. If I don't I'll end up telling my so called best friend and she'll tell everyone.What do i do? If you answer this question tell me in my inbox. my id is colgirl57. (link)
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I dont feal like going to your inbox so here I am. I think you should call him just to check up on things. Not to ask him out or anything, but just like a friend.
-shay :-)
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well ive been doing this for about two or three weeks now and id like to get some peoples advice who have been doing the whole advice column longer than i....is there anything i should change. should i be alittle less harsh maybe not speak my mind so much i dont kno i would love someone to critique me thank in advance -me (link)
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everyone can give advice in there own way. Iread your column and some are harsh, but other than that your doing okay.
-shay :-)
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I am a senior in highschool and once i graduate i would like to go into fashion designing or interior designing. I have "shadowed" an interior designer before and have helped people in their rooms with designs. I am also curretly designing my prom dress and would hopefully some day like to design my wedding dress. Just one concern.... What if i am totally out of my league and really have no clue with what i am doing. What if i go to college and major in this and then find out that it isnt for me? I guess its just a concern i have been having for awhile now, someone please give me advice. KT
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Lots of people got to college for one thingg and leave with a different idea. Its totally normal. When the time comes go to college for what you want.
-shay :-)
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YANKEES?
or
Red Sox
???
Make the right choice... (link)
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RED SOX!!!!!!!! Definetley!!! Yankees SUCK!!!!!
-shay :-)
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Hey
This is Here To Help
To anybody who wants to ask me a question about anything that's bothering them, or things they have to deal with, and you don't want anybody seeing the question you asked, email me at
truevalue53@yahoo.com
please...I love helping people and I'll try helping you. (link)
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Okay, Im sure someone will ask you a question. You didnt really have to send this.
-shay
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Okay, so I've liked this guy for a while, but he wasn't really into having a girlfriend. It took me a while, I'm still hurting, but I've managed to step away for a bit and let him go. If it's meant to be it'll happen, he's a great guy, but it hurts too much to wait. Well, I started to meet new people, and one of them happens to be 20. He's really nice, but kind of strange. I'm not sure if he really likes me, or just wants to get in my pants. Also, he's really depressed and slightly suicidal. Then there's this other guy. He's 17 (i'm 16), and seems nice. I met him through my best friend (a guy), but from what I've heard he's a player and he's also got like, 3 other girls he's flirting with. My friend told me that he's not a cheater, and is looking for a girlfriend... but I dunno. It's just really frustrating! Where are all the really great guys? The ones who can commit? I'd really like to be w/ the first guy, but he may not wanna get together for a while... if ever. I'm just really pissed, where's my price charming? What should I do? I really need some help. Thanks, and srry for the length. (link)
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Try them both out. See if the 17 year old guy really is a cheater and if the 20 year old really d just wants to get in your pants. It never hurts to just talk to them.
-shay :-)
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my boyfriend and i had sex 3 days after i got off my period, he bust in me. i don't start until the 15th but do you think there's a chance i could be pregnant if he bust right after i got off my period? (link)
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Yes there may be a posibility. You may want to see a doctor about it.
-shay :-)
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ok im 13 8th grade 130lbs and feel weigh to over weight i want to look like a modle and im not doing this for the man of my dreams im doing this to look good. im pretty and got all the right looks but i feel to fat andi want to look good in a bikini aslo i want the man of my dreams to go woah!! when he sees me even thouhg he already thibnks that about me but he likes girlss like paris hilton and i kinda want her figure and everyones gonna say dont change you look for him im not im changing it so i feel good around him cuz right now i feel ot fat when im around even though everyone thinks im beautiful and skinny just help me do u think i could get liposection? or soemthing i have tried dieting but i just crave food to much but im trying to cut dwon on the fatining stuff im in a little bit of good shape i play soccer and lift sometimes but help me someone? (link)
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Eat a lot of healthy foods and try to cut back on sweets. Work out as often as you can to keep in shape too.
-shay :-)
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ok i have had to decide between to guys and i have picked my neighbor not only is he the man of my dreams but is every thing to me i mean im just the girl next door and have the look to but i ran into a problem i cant stop thinking about the other boy can anyone help me find a way to put him in the past as a boyfreind but also be my friend too? (link)
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Wait just a minute! You first are all in love with this guy and now you just want to be friends? Wow your mind changes fast. I guess just be his friend. What am I supposed to tell you?
-shay :-)
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Ok my friend Kyle likes this girl who he used to date, but she's going out with someone else now. He wants my advice, but I really don't know what to say, can someone please help?
Kortni* (link)
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Well there really is nothing that he or you can do about that. He can still like her and maybe be a little closer to her as a friend.
-shay :-)
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my guy friend has always had a crush on me and he would always- i htought. i always kinda took it for granted that he was there for me to be reassured that i was still attractive but i jsut found out that he really likes somebody else. any advice on how to deal? (link)
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Quite taking things for grantide. Really apressiate the things that you have now. Maybe get to know someone else and forget about your old b/friend.
-shay :-)
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I have a friend. She is, well...a drama queen. Everything is a major deal and somthing to get in a massive fight over. She just has a way to totally ruin your whole day. everyday. So i was wondering...what cani do to help her change? i dont really want to break off the friendship but i dont want it to stay as is. please help (link)
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You cant just change someone, but you could try to reduce the conflict you two have. Try talking to her about how you feel.
-shay :-)
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