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Hie,i am a lady aged 25 years of age and I have known this guy for almost two years now he the same age as me, and weve been seriously going out for a 6months, the thing is before I met him he had a girlfriend he has been going out with for three years now and this lady is fifteen years older than him and she has a son the same age as he is. He says he wants to save money for us to be together by june next year and that he does truly love me, He is always telling me to be patient and to be strong until he leaves her coz he says he can't just walk away from her just like that, after all that she did for him since we are in a foreign country. he says that he sees a future and a life with me. and for the past four months i have been so patient and strong, he has done almost everything for me and he takes care of me, financially and emotionally, I gave him my virginity on our third month and i did it because of my love for him and somehow I expected things to change, but he is still with her, the worst part being that when the lady found out about our affair she started calling my parents telling her i was interfering with her relationship and now my dad has lost all his trust in me somehow I feel like he has disowned me in a way and when i told my boyfriend that i could be pregnant he just changed, he says he's not ready for any baby and the worst part is he says he can't handle me and her coz we are weighing him down, so he said that he needed space and the worst part is that he is now seeing her now more than ever, he even kisses her in my presence and now I dont know what to do,its as if he doesnt care anymore, what should i do? (link)
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Hi,
You poor thing, I feel for you. The best and only thing that you can do is to get out of the situation and I mean right now. It's only going to get worse. I know you don't want to hear this but he is just leading you on.
First of all sweetie, he already showed you what type of person he is. He was already with someone else when he entered into a relationship with you.
Some men will do whatever you allow them to do. From the way your letter reads, you are naive when it comes to relationships. He is using you, and it really doesn't matter why.
I'm sure your father hasn't disowned you or lost trust. He loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt. Disappointed is probably a better word. Talk to him again and tell him how you feel.
I pray that you are not pregnant and even if you are, listen to what your so-called boyfriend says. He is not going to be there for you. He does not love or respect you.
Take care of yourself and your baby. Don't be too hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. That's how we learn our most valuable lessons.
Leave him and move on. You will be alright. I promise.
I wish you the best of luck,
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so for the past few months (maybe not wise i know but i'm just emberressed to talk to my doctor about it) ive been having like this whitish yellowish colored stuff coming out of my vagina.. no iching or anything just like alot of it.. like my underwear gets totally soaked in like a few hours.. i mean it dries eventually but yeah its annoying... and it smells kinda weird too... like not my normal smell... i know that you're probably say go to the doctor... and i think i will but also what do you think this could be? (link)
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Hi, the first thing I want to tell you is that any
discharge that is coming from your vagina that you are familiar with should be check out by a doctor, especially if you're sexually active or have unprotected sex.
I know you may be a little nervous, but most likely it some kind of bacterial infection or yeast. I don't proclaim to be a doctor, so get it checked out. It's always better to be safe than sorry.
I wish you the best of luck,
Ediemarie
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Every now and then I get drunk.
A few times if my parents are out for the night, and I mean for a long time, so by the time they get back, I can be in bed I'll open up a bottle of wine.
I'll drink the whole bottle on my own, whilst on my laptop or watching tv. When I finish the bottle, I'll put it in this huge box full of glass bottles and jars we have which we afterwards take to the glass containers.
Since my parents have an endless supply of wine in the house and in the glass box there's always wine bottles, it's really unlikely that they will see the bottle that I drank.
Anyway, does it seem weird if a person is home on their own, and they just drink a bottle of wine, then go to sleep.
Luckily I have never had a hangover from drinking a bottle on my own :D
So yeah, is it weird? If so, why?
Thanks :D (link)
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Hi D,I think you were very smart to ask this question, but I don't think that is the question you're really trying to ask. I think, and I could be wrong, that you are trying to ask is it wrong for you to be drinking as much as you do.
The fact that you're hiding it from your parents is the first red flag. I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't sound like you're of legal age.
I am concerned. A whole bottle in one night could be the beginning signs of binge drinking. Maybe you should talk to your parents or someone else you trust about why you are choosing to drink in this manner.
So, in answer to your question, I don't think wierd is quite the right word. You may have an issue that you need to deal with. Don't let this continue.
I wish you the best of luck,
Ediemarie
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I am with a girl now that had cheated on her previous boyfriend with me and now i work a 3 week on 3 week off rotation which puts me out of state for weeks at a time and its been eating at me that she might be cheating on me while im away. what should i do? im lost. (link)
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Hi,
All I can say is that if she did it with you, she'll do it to you. This type of behavior shows you what type of person she is, but you knew that going in, that's why you're so worried.
The two of you need to sit down one day when you are in town and have a long discussion about trust.
I wish you the best ot luck.
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I'm 16/female.
I have an amazing boyfriend with some serious trust issues! Every time I turn around he's moping around telling me not to ever talk to another guy, even if I don't even talk to them! Last year and now recently I've fallen hard for this one guy from Band. He's a total sweetie, but I have problems talking to him in person.
What do you think I should do?
I really don't know what exactly I need help with...
I just want to know if you were in the position, what would you do?
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Hi,
First of all having a few years on you, I can tell you right now that you are much too young to be in a serious relationship. Of course you are going to be attracted to other guys.
If he has trust issues now and telling you who you can and can't talk to, it's going to continue.
He's not so amazing if he's doing that.
I think you should take some time and focus on who you are and what you want out of yourself and a boyfriend.
Do you like the way you feel when he dictates to you? Nip it in the bud now.
Good Luck.
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16/f.
theres this one kid who likes me like alot, he always calls me and texts me but i just dont feel the same way about him. and whenever he says stuff, i just dont respond back to it.
what should i do.
i dont want to hurt his feelings..
but i also dont want to lead him on.. (link)
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Hi, I have read your question and I understand where you are coming from. We have all been the recipient of an admirer whose affections are not recipricated.
I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but the best thing to do is to tell him the truth.
Simply tell him that the two of you need to talk. Tell him that although you are flattered and you can see that he is a nice person, you don't think that things would work out between you on a romantic level. Tell him that you don't have those kinds of feeling toward him.
Be kind honest, and firm. Make sure he knows that there is no wiggle room. You won't be changing your mind. That way there is no confusion.
Good Luck.
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