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im a freshman in college and the first week i hooked up with this one guy. we really hit it off and even though we had sex within the first couple days of meeting he continued to show interest in me by texting me pretty much everyday and hanging out. we would even hang out sober and were really getting to know eachother. we developed this fun flirty friends with benefits kind of relationship. im not the jealous type and ive told him not too worry about hooking up with other girls. hes a really sweet guy who seemed more into me than i was into him to be honest. he always wanted me to sleep over and watch movies with him and was always telling me that i was gorgeous and really chill and things like that. thats why i was suprised when he stopped texting me so much. now im not the type of girl to chase guys so i havnt been texting him either. but is it wrong of me to assume that hes always going to be the one to text me first? i mean i dont want a serious relationship and neither does he but i still just like hanging out with him and honestly hooking up with him. i dont want to seem clingy by texting him because its college and i know how guys are, but i dont want this fling to die out either. i mean it has only been a week since we last hung out and weve talked once since.
i guess what i want to know is do you think im just overreacting? or do you think hes moved on and lost interest in me? and if so, should i make a move to show him im into him or should i just let it go?
thanks in advance!!
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Neither of you have told the other how you feel, so maybe he's testing the water, checking out whether the relationship is going anywhere by waiting to see your reaction when he doesn't contact you first.
I'd send a casual text saying I wondered if he'd like to go see .... whoever. Judge his feelings if/when he replies. Hope this helps.
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Which way is the best way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick (link)
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I agree with the other answers, no suicide is ever painless, whatever the books, songs, other people say.
I'm not religious, but I beleive we are all here for a reason, whether we know it or not.
If we know why we're here on earth, then it's because somebody loves us, giving us a reason to carry on however bad the shit gets.
You feel like ending it all.
What if the person who will love your very bones is just around the corner, waiting to meet you?
You'd never know that joy, which would be so sad.
Hope this helps. May your god go with you.
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I posted a question about whether or not I should get an abortion and I decided to do it, thinking it was what I definitely wanted. However, now I feel incredibly depressed and emotionally weak. I don't feel suicidal, I get the occasional thought but I'm trying to keep those thoughts away.
Obviously the main reason for this is the abortion itself - since I had it done, besides the day or two after where I felt relief, I haven't been able to stop thinking about my life with a baby. I feel really selfish and guilty that I gave up the life of something that would have made me happy. I'm only nearly 16 but I keep thinking how happier I would be now if I kept the baby. Maybe I'm just blind to it; I'm feeling kind of empty at the moment...
It isn't generally things such as talking about the abortion with anyone that upsets me - it's usually normal, daily things such as watching TV or seeing parents with young children. Sometimes, it can be kids toys or equipment... Call me weird, but if I look at it, it reminds me of it more.
Now that I've explained the main bit of what's going on, I just want to know how I can stop feeling like this. I feel like a complete freak, if I'm honest. I've only got one friend who's had an abortion and no one else I've spoken to seems to fully understand how serious and difficult it is.
I don't want judgement for my choice to abort, I just need help. Thank you xx (link)
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This will take time, lots of it. You had an abortion and now you're grieving for the child you nearly had. People often think you should get over such a death easier than if it was a living child, but humans don't work that way.
I had a termination 25 years ago and still grieve for my lost child quite often.
Give yourself time to find your life again, the image of the child will fade a bit, but will always be with you.
At only 16, life would've been very hard with a child on your own. Possibly you did the best thing, so give yourself a chance.
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So there's this guy is my chemistry class in college. He is kinda cute and I want to get to know him. I've noticed him look at me a couple times, and he always asks me whats up, and never does to anyone else. (in lab) but in lecture, he doesn't sit next to me there either so i only catch him looking at me here and there and i quickly turn away. I want to tell him i like his smile but do not want to come off as a creep and plus i am shy? i also don't know how to strike up a conversation with him, or flirt. it's like i'm in middle school all over again but i have never had a boyfriend. he might think i'm weird if i smile at him too much or even at all. or i might come on too strong and then it pushes him away. this class started 3 weeks ago and we only had oneish convo, and he only asked me whuddd up twicee? pleassse help.
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Next time you catch him looking at you, smile a bit, just to let him know you've noticed him looking. If he doesn't approach you, try the same strategy yourself? Looking over, trying to catch his eye? If/when he does approach you, be friendly as you would to a girlfriend, nothing over the top, just friendly chat. Give him a chance to chat with you, take it from there.
Let me know how it goes?
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I am from India, and 40 yr old male & for the last 15-16 yrs Iam facing this problem. Daily I have to go to toilet about 10 to 12 times. In the morning I have to go to toilet about 7-8 times even after
Going this much times my stomach doesnot clear up as a result I am not able to take breakfast. I feel hungry only after going to toilet about 3 –4 times & Iam able to take my food only say by 2 or 3 PM. In the meantime there is slight inflammation in the stomach & bad taste in the mouth.
If Iam not able to go to toilet in the afternoon, then I don’t feel like taking food till night time.
My weight is ok 86 kgs Ht 5.7, I had colonoscopy done about 13 yrs back & it was normal.
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You could try the doctor and ask him to review your diet. I wonder what happened 15-16 years ago to start off this pattern?
It sounds as if your intake of food is adding to your problems. It might help if you could keep a food diary to show exactly what you're eating and when and what effects food has on your bowel habits.
Perhaps you could also see a dietician to check if you're getting enough daily nutrition, especially fibre.
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For a very long time, my mom has been trying to live through me. But, now that I'm an adult, almost graduating from college, it's just getting out of control. She has gotten better, I cannot discredit that. But, I'm really worried. About a year ago, I got hair extensions (long story). But basically, I lost hair because I wasn't eating very well and I also bleached it which was really bad. It was fine for a while... but it's been almost two years now (about a year and a half or longer) that I've had these extensions. They are expensive and limit me from being able to wash my own hair or dry it. I can't ever leave it wet. They are very annoying. It's fine that I had them for a while. But, I think they've overextended their stay. I told my mom that I really want them off. All she says is your not ready. If that wasn't enough, she recently saw a friend of mine with fake eyelashes on. She said I HAD to go get them. The problem with the eyelashes is that they require refills (expensive refills!) Like, maybe $75 every time, which is every 2 weeks. My mom doesn't work. Her income comes from a house that she rents out, whose taxes were backed up. She always has to put herself on a payment plans for cell phones (which she is using my credit for because she lost hers). I work and I'm getting money from school because of my scholarships. So, I help her out with certain things. By the extensions and the eyelashes are getting ridiculous. Today, I have an appointment at noon, which I really needed that time to study and work out, because I have to go into work/class at night. I explain this to her... but she doesn't get it!!! Please advise me (link)
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I think your Mum is trying to live through you for some reason, perhaps the things she is trying to get you to do were something she wanted when she was your age, believing them to be essential for being seen as being attractive to men, perhaps? Everything she tries to impose on you are about how you are seen by other people, hair extensions, tanning, false eyelashes. But they're all false; is she trying to make you into something you're not while apparently ignoring what you seem to be trying to achieve, a good education. Could she be afraid that once you've graduated from college, you'll be alone, unable to find a 'suitable' partner?
You don't mention other family members. Is there anyone who could discuss this situation with you and your mother, an aunt, sister or friend perhaps? It sounds as if she is closing her eyes to all the expense she's causing to support her idea of how you should be.
Have you made any plans for after your graduation? Could you try making plans with her so that she'll be reassured you'll still be in touch with her regularly?
Let me know what happens with your Mom?
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I just need you to answer some of my questions.
1. What is a nurse?
2. What is nursing?
3. What does a nurse do?
4. How would you describe a "good" Nurse?
And it would help if you could state your age group(not age) (link)
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A nurse can be a lot of things to different people. People have different expectations of what a nurse should be; obviously no-one can meet all of these expectations, so what one person will find helpful, another won't.
Nursing used to be just a vocation, now its a job as well; nurses, like most people, have to work for money to support their lifestyle and family.
A nurse works to provide care for those who need it, using her training and skills for their best interests.
I would describe a 'good' nurse as one who cares, cares for her patients, their families and whoever else comes into that range of caring. She might have to adapt herself to fit a patient's expectations but does so willingly, believing it will benefit that patient's care and health.
Age group: 50-60.
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okay so our school will be celebrating teachers day on the 17th because of the ongoing exams
as it is going to be my last teachers day in school
i want to give something to each of the teachers who have taught me for atleast two years now
i have a maths sir who teaches me and the rest five subjects are taught by women
any sugestions???? i need help.
i don't have a very huge budget. but i can splurge a lil'. (link)
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I always think personal is best so you could buy a pack of blank cards, do your own picture on the front (drawing, stamping, photo or whatever takes your fancy) and address it to each teacher. With a heartfelt 'thankyou' inside it'll get the biggest 'Aaahhhhhh!' possible!
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Im a 14 year old girl, going on 15. I've been struggling with my wieght, a lot lately. I was always tall, and was told not to worry about my weight. Well Im 5foot 6, and about done growing. I get constantly reminded to watch my weight now. Sometimes, I think I can't stop eating. I sneak food all the time. I hide it in my drawers, and backpack. When no ones home I eat a bunch of unhealthy food. I heard this is called a binge eating disorder. I told my mom what I do, and she doesn't believe it. Im going into highshchool, it's a major turning point in my life, and I want to be able to be healthy and in shape. I put myself down all the time. I have tried everything. Starving myslef, puking it back up, dieting, reading columns online. Nothing is working. I am not a big excerciser, so that doesn't really help me out. Im just fed up with it, and no one understands. Im not trying to be super skinny, I would just like to be able to control my eating habits, and loose a couple pounds, and not be addcted to eating food. I seriously have no idea what to do, I beat my self up mentally about this issue all the time. I can't control it. I need help. (link)
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I don't think you've finished growing yet, average age for this is about 21. I know that isn't much help to you but you may have some more growing yet to do.
I can see two big areas that worry me a bit -
I think you live your life around food, almost obsessively; planning your last meal while trying to be rid of the last one, hiding, bingeing, vomiting food. You don't actually mention your weight but at 5'6 inches, your normal weight should be within quite a large range.
The other thing that worries me is your self-esteem - putting yourself down and generally giving yourself hell.
Basically, you seem to be seeking control of something. Do you feel out of control in other areas of your life? Does the prospect of going into high school scare you? Are your current friends going on to the same school or are you on going there on your own? Perhaps the idea of leaving your old school, where teachers, friends and environment are known and they know you, scares you rigid. Understandable but hard to deal with.
Whatever, you can do it. Talk to your mother again, show her your Advicenators question, it might convince her you are serious about this. Other family members might be worrying about you, wondering if you're coping with this impending change in your life; try asking them how they dealt with this period of their lives. Go to your doctor and explain your worries and thoughts about food. If no-one listens, go on-line to find support groups for people with eating disorders, you may find local groups meet in your area. Talk to your friends, some of them are probably feeling the same way.
Try to take control of food, don't let it control you. When you eat, do it for enjoyment, because you like it or to stop feeling hungry.
Let me know how it goes?
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Hey I'm looking to do a paper on one of Karl Marx's theories.. but I;m trying to research them and see which the best one is with the most information for me to go on. Can anybody suggest a few for me.. or give me a list of them that will help me to learn about it/decide? thank you so much. (link)
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I can't guarantee this will be a brilliant answer, but, having just finished a college degree, I do know how it feels to look at a question and wonder what the hell it means, where to go, what do 'they' want?
You could try researching online what Marx thought, possibly use Wikipedia or Sparknotes as a starter. (Depending on your level of study, you might not be able to reference [letting tutors know where you found the information] any information you use from such sites, as some tutors don't consider them reliable.) See which theory interests you most; it might not be the amount of information you can find that is important, rather the amount of thought it inspires in you and learned critics; if you can find two critics who appear to disagree on Marx's theories, so much the better! Choose one and support or disagree.
Further information on Marx's theories might be found on Google books; although you probably won't get the full book, there might be enough available for your needs.
Good luck, let me know how you get on?
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