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Q: I'm a virgin, 15 yrs old & totally in love with my boyfriend. We're both ready to have sex & the only issue I have on it is do you guys like hair 'down there'? I know some guys dont mind or & some guys really do. What do guys my age like? I dont want him to be disgusted when were about to have sex cause of my hair! He's not a virgin.
I personally would shave it. Nobody likes carpet munching!

Q: whenever i use a tampon or take it out theres this extra skin.. its not like u can pull it off its thick.. n i dont kno what it is and im worried.. i dont wanna go see a doctor tho! Help me i rate high!
I'm sure that whatever you have is normal.


http://content.revolutionhealth.com/contentimages/images-image_popup-ans7_vulva.jpg

Q: Wats a camel toe
a wedgie between a girls vagina hahah

Q: What is a GOOD product like nair or that kind of thing that I can use for my bikini line? and is it safe to use everywhere down there or no?
Veet!

Q: Im thirteen and i have really long hair (like down to my butt!)and i've had it that way since forever, i've never had a real hair cut. Now im thinkingabout cutting it to about my shoulders but im not sure if i should
PLEASE CUT IT

chances are its full of split/dead ends and it's all stringy. Please get a hair cut. Ask for all the split and dead ends to be cut off (which will probably be about 5 inches if you never had a hair cut.)


or look at hairstyles on the internet that you want.

Q: ok when do guys like really start getting perverted(sex,makeing out)..like do the start at 12,13,14 b/c i kno some guys that are perverted that are like 12 but i dont kno if others are or if its just those guys!!!
Guys are born perverted.

Q: do you know who sings the song i think it's called "Over and Over" i'm not sure but yeah it goes like "cause it's ill in my head i think about it over and over again" I heard that it was usher and someone else sang it but i don't know if thats' true or not. so who sings it that would help a lot! thanx!
Nelly and Tim Mcgraw

Q: hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on???
If your like sucking up to me I would just roll my eyes but if you are smiling and not taking it seriously but you DO do it, I'd like it

Q: I bought a penis shaped pasta for my boyfriend to cook for him when he comes back from vacation. I told my guy friend about it and he said that my boyfriend wouldn't eat it. Would he eat it or would he freak out?
HAHA I think it would be halrious! Don't get so stressed over this kinda stuff!

Q: Hey I'm 14/m and i still haven't ever kissed a girl outside my family.... I feel kinda out of place here because I'm already in high school and ive never kissed.... is there something wrong with me?
ITS PERFECTLY NORMAL, i promise. Don't worry, please wait for the right girl, it means SO MUCH MORE. I rushed my first kiss when I was 11 years old with an older boy who just wanted me to do dirty things with him! I regret it so much! Please just take your time.

Q: Why does it hurt more to take out a tampon when it hasn't soaked up enough blood??
It's because it's not soft and squooshy, like a sponge filled with water. it's dry and harder, like a dry sponge

Q: How do you get the ladder effect when ripping jeans?
I want to rip my jeans, and I want that ladder effect specifically, like seen in the following pic:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/max_misekow/3327442624/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djr6XUxrHPk

Q: We need to kill approximately one half an acre of grass and weeds, and we don't care if nothing will grow back for years to come in that area really. We don't want to use gasoline or try to burn it, but we just want a cheap way to kill everything without having to spend a lot of money on Roundup, or huge black tarps to smother it. Any ideas or do we need to stick with the Roundup + black tarp method?
I know that salt kills gardens, I'm sure it kills grass too. I imagine it would be cheap?

Q: 14/f

I'm going to be a sophomore this year. Ok this is gonna be alot. I'm just sick and tired of everything. Last year my life was so hard for me. I couldn't handle it. I have been cutting since 8th grade. I haven't cut in a month though. I know its a really bad habit and I want to do it so bad but then I just can't cover it no more since its summer. My life was breaking down and I needed help so bad. I knew it. I blew off guys, like I didn't like any boy. I always have liked a guy but then last year it didn't happen. I kept wondering why. I had one boyfriend last year and he was the only guy I liked. I don't like him anymore. I got over it REALLY quickly...

I don't know but I cried so much. Then at times I didn't know why I cried.

My friends noticed it and my teacher. I always say I'm fine and that's the normal thing to do. I never talk about my problems. I can't. It's too hard.

One of my friends tried to help me. She had depression and thought she could help. I gave up on myself. I didn't want the help. I know I needed it but I didn't want it.

Most of this was that I was never happy. I feel like somethings wrong with me and I don't know what to do. I act like everything's fine and smiled. Then I get home and cry.

Ok so I sound like a stupid 14 year old girl who can't control her emotions complaining. Yeah apparently that's what I do and that's what I'm doing. I don't know why and I don't know who to turn to.

The last time I was cutting. I cut so much. So many all over my legs and arms. No one noticed, except a couple of my friends. I never got help.

I've grown up in church all my life. A really good church too. I ended up liking another guy there. I met him last year as a freshman. He was a junior. Now I'm gonna be a sophomore and he is gonna be a senior. We are pretty good friends. I never started liking him till a couple months ago. He was cool. I didn't tell anyone but one friend. The thing is for these past couple weeks I just didn't talk to him as much. I was pushing him away. Only cause I know he wouldn't like me and I didn't want to like him. I still don't. The most I say is hi and that's it.

So at my church I made some decisions. Since its summer I thought I would be fine and be all happy like I'm supposed to be. It hit me again. I know when I start school again its gonna come back and I'm gonna be cutting and crying. I don't know what to do.

I don't have a clue what's going on with me. How can I just fake this in front of everybody and just...be ok with it until I'm alone. So far I've realized I have a problem but I don't know what and how to deal with it.

This guy was my world. The only thing I felt that was good. Until I just stopped talking to him it felt worse. I know my unhappiness isn't caused by him.

Then I just think the worst of things. Like my friends aren't really good friends even though I know they are the best. But I felt like people talk about me. I don't think they do but I felt like it. They are good people. I just think I'm not good enough for them.

I was so stressed out from school too. I am horrible and math and thought I was gonna fail and take summer school. I actually passed with a D. I was so happy I started crying. That was wonderful for me.

So when I decided to fight myself I wanted to think positive all the time. I tried so hard but then if I just stop for one time. Just one time I feel so hurt and like a big empty spot inside of me.

Why is this happening to me when I'm 14. I'm going to be 15 soon and this isn't how I wanted to be. I feel too young for this.

What should I do. I would talk to someone but I don't know who...and I don't really feel like I want to, need to, or ready to talk to someone. The best person I know is from church but I feel if I say anything that might parents will find out or I will get hurt.

Sorry for wasting your time. I just don't know what to do.
It sounds to me like you just are crying out for attention and have tons of self pity.

Get over it. There guys.... think of all the children who are starving. Think of all the people who are molested and have been through more shit then you have. I don't mean to be mean but seriously, get over it.


"sorry for wasting your time."

Q: 15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..

last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
I have the same problem girrrrrllllll :( I push people away and then want them back. I can't keep a guy or a best friend.


I did the same shit.

I asked Alex for my crap back and he never gave it to me. He totally started a whole new life without me. It's amazing... I mean like how can these guys do this shit to us? Just forgot about us? I wish we could just forget about them.


I went psycho just like you. I ACTUALLY SET HIS CLOTHES ON FIRE. Just to get revenge. All I ended up doing is was making a fool of myself.

The best advice that I can give you is to just try and understand his point of view. Think of if HE wrote a question on here and if we heard HIS side of the story. Everyone would be replying and saying that "once a cheater always a cheater" and making you seem like the bad guy and the terrible one. You may think you are a terrible person now, but your not. Your an amazing person. You deffinatly aren't Bi-polar because this is NORMAL. I hope you understand what I'm trying to explain to you. I hope the best for you and I know you can feel like killing yourself but that's the total wrong answer. That wouldn't accomplish a thing. THINGS WILL GET BETTER. Just remember this will make you stronger in the end.

Q: i'm seventeen/female.
i need closure from a guy that i have been talking to for almost two years now, yes i like im a lot but i just don't see this going anywhere because it hasnt so far. he is holding me back from other guys.
I would talk about it with him. I wouldn't use the word "closure" though. I would just ask him if yalls relationship is going anywhere.



He could be afraid of commitment and honestly, that's normal for a guy. Just be open and be honest

Q: I have purchased the prescription Chantix and am now on my way to a smoke-free life. I have been noticing some things that make me (my body) feel different after not smoking for a few days. For example, I feel like I have A LOT more energy...is this from quitting? Will I notice more things like this as I continue this journey? Or was this just nervous energy and all of this is this just in my head?
I have quit many time before and I always gain weight as the result. Yes, I do gain energy though. Food tastes so much better when you don't smoke so watch out! Don't over eat. For me, it's either keep smoking and not gain weight or stop and gain the weight. It's kinda sad that I care about the weight more than I do about my lungs so I'm NOT RECCOMENDING YOU START SMOKING. You can beat it. I feel like a hiprocrit though.

Q: does jergans natural glow actually work or does it make you look orange?
I find that the people who wear it are kinda gross.

I've tried it and I took a shower later that day and when i exfoliated my legs (got the dead skin off of them) the tan was only stuck to the dead skin and it rolled off with my dead skin

I'm trying to describe it the best that I can but I'm bad at that (sorry)


but to sum it up.... If you rather exfoliate and have smooth and gorgeous skin, don't use it. If you don't exfoliate and prefer to have dead skin rolling off of you, sure....try it. :{

Q: Is there any way to make your feet smaller?

I have big feet and it is hard to find cute shoes that fit right. My feet are probably done growing or whatever so I don't know if I can, like, lose weight in them or do some sort of feet exercises to make them shorter. I know it sounds stupid but I thought maybe... ?

Anyone know or am I just out of luck?

If there isn't a way to actually make them smaller is there a way to make them LOOK smaller? Certain styles of shoes or something..?
Lol, I wear a size 5 and a half shoe, I wish I could make mine bigger! so be glad!

BUT, you're out of luck and so am I.


I agree, do not wear flats, they do make your feet look so much longer than they are, I wouldn't recommend sandels either. Flip flops are good though, as long as your toes aren't yellow and gross lol

but I don't remember the story quite right but I remember hearing or reading somewhere that the chinese find beauty in small feet, so the girls while their feet were growing would tie bricks to their feet

BUT I doubt you want to do that :}

Q: I'm thinking of buying a MacBook real soon. For those of you who have experience with MacBooks, do you like it? Are they easy to use? Are they worth the money? Any general reviews?


Thanks!
I LOVE MY MAC! I reccommend that you buy the extended care, because I took mine in when it crashed and they replaced the whole exterior for me! I pretty much got a brand new mac!

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