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Q: I have a clear/whiteish discharge and it comes out in clumps and like wet...and I can feel it and idk if this is normal or not. I need as much advice on this a s possible...thanks in advance, this a touchy subject for me.

yes its normal
me and my friends talked about it
some have it more then others
its not like abnormal
dont worry about it
buy pantyliners

Q: is there ANY way you can get all the songs on your ipod to your iTunes.

i had to delete everything off of my computer, and ididn't save my music..
and yeah, i have all my songs on my ipod.

so can i get all these on iTunes, or not?
ahh help! & thanks!

do NOT plug your ipod into the computer
it will transfer your empty library to your ipod

i really dont know what you use
because the same thing happened to me
i just had to redownload all my music
use limewire

Q: what are some things (as in flirting) that girls do that guys like? some things that i can do for my boyfriend or do around him..
thanks!

boys like confidence and being acting all cute
my boyfriend loves when i act goofy
and crazy .. it depends on the type of person you are tho if you can do that
another cute thing you can do is sneak up behind him kiss him strongly on the cheek and run away (not like full out run tho)
but what i learned from being with my boyfriend just acting myself is what he loves most and little querks i didnt even thing he'd notice he LOVES

and you know.. guys always love the physical stuff if you know what i mean ;) i dont mean sex or anything but .. yea ahah

Q: 3 of my friends like MY boyfriend and they call him and ask him out all the time. its starting to get on my nerves.
what should i do????

that would drive me INSANE
they aren't very good friends
i would go up to all them individually and be like "alright i've seriously had enough of this you neeed to stop hitting on my boyfriend.. friends don't do this.. maybe your not the good friend i thought you were" i know this may be hard to say especially to a person you think is a good friend .. but this is crappy and you cant allow this to happen any longer

another thing i'd do is talk to my boyfriend and if they call him trying to like ask him out or something have him be like "i'm with *your name* i like her not you i'm sorry but thats the way it is" make sure he isnt like leading them on too cuz if he's really saying NOO. then they probably wouldnt be asking out more times you know..

hope i helped

Q: 15/f

so there's a guy that i like a lot and I've been his friend for a few weeks (maybe a month?) i don't know him THAT well, but I know enough about him to feel comfortable asking him out.

I think about him all the time and I want to ask him to go to a movie with me this weekend, but I don't know if I should ask him... If I wait, what if he doesn't ask me? I just don't know when/how to ask him or if i should even ask him at all.

He knows I'm interested because of this one time... (i won't explain here)

so please just tell me what you think.

what i would do is just go up to him directly and be like oh have you seen "whatever movie" and be like want to see it with me Friday ;; guys dig confidence if he says no be like okay whatever no big deal and just don't make it a big thing

Q: Okay, this is kind of long and probably confusing...but please try to help.
(17/f)
I've been dating my boyfriend for ten months. I really love him and he means more to me than anything.

Last night my best friend was calling her ex from my cell phone and he thought it was MY boyfriends ex girlfriend, Jenny. So my friend played along and he was talking about something that happened with my boyfriend and jenny and he was asking "her" about it (while it was really my friend). He said that my boyfriend had rubbed all over her boobs and put her hand on his stuff and was just messing around with her a lot on the way back from a football game. Well, I guess she said she couldnt do it because he had a g/f (me? and it would be wrong. I dont know what to do, though, because my bf said he didnt do it and it hurt his feelings that i didnt believe him at first. but then again, why would the other guy lie to the person who was involved in it unless he knew it was us? agghhh i'm so confused. I love him and breaking up is a last resort, I just wish if it happened that he would tell me the truth. ANY help would be SO greatly appreciated. Thanks.

i would go to your friends ex and talk to him about it directly then i'd find out who that girl was and talk to her too and maybe her friends and just see whats up.. but dont let your boyfriend hear that your asking around because then he could find out that your doubting him ;; but seriously the last thing you wanna do is stay in a relationship with a cheating boyfriend

i know you love him but its NOT worth it.

just find out ask around and i hope i helped

Q: okay look i like this guy im 13 hese 16 yes, i kno age diffrence,anyway well a couple of weeks ago i printed out a pic of me and him that waws on my compuuter and he saw it rite and then today he was jokin around wit me and gave me a tatoo well it was a gum and inside it a little tatoo he gave it to me rite as a friend im guessing and then after that in the end of the day i was still holding it i didnt throw it away
just holding it
then i see him pas by and from the corner of his eye he was lookin at the tatoo in my hand and i was like.. sh*t then my friend is with him on the bus and she was like talking to him like i love emily so much! shes soo cute and pretty about me and then he just looked at heer and didnt respond.. do u think its obviouse that i like him? do u think he knows?
thanks

yea i'm pretty sure he knows you like him i would try to play hard to get a little and backoff he got so much hints at once .. like if he walks by just give him a head nod and keep walking tell your friends not to push the idea of you and him anymore its not a good idea you don't wanna like get annoying.. play it cool ;)

Q: is there a site that lists quotes and what they mean? i want to know what "i think therefore i am" means

i would think it means that your thoughts make you who you are

your opinions on things and how you think make you who you are right? =]

hope i helped

Q: okay so
i've been seeing this guy Jacob for about 5 months now .
he lives with his best friend robert.robert and his ex Lucy broke up 2 weeks ago
well Robert is a very jealous person.
Jacob promised robert he wouldnt do anything with lucy. but robert made sure all of his friends didnt do anything with lucy. well jacob and i were kinda official but now we're just like not as serious.

well i know jacobs password for myspace but he thinks i forgot it...anyway, i see a message from lucy saying "i hate how we have to hide our friendship"

he replies
"yah i know it sucks but wait til i move out"

so last week jacob calls me and says, "if anyone calls just say im with you." and i said "okay but why"
he then said, "i'm going to hang out with a few friends and lucy is in the group and i told robert i wouldnt talk to her "

so i was like "okay whatever"

then he texts me the next day @ 6AM saying "goodnight baby.if anyone ask i was with you til 6AM"

so he hasnt called since tuesday so i call him blocked and just see if hes alive

so from tuesday -thursday i call blocked and later on thursday at about 11pm i was with my cousin and he calls and says "i know its you thats calling, give up."
so i denied it and my cousin took the blame.

so friday i was with this my friends cuz they were making fun of jacob and how he got in an accident so i sent jacob a text saying "i'm with my friends right now and the story they're telling me about your last accident is pretty funny"

so like 2 minutes later he calls and bitches at me saying

"how is it funny that i got in an accident"
i told him
"i'm not saying its funny, i'm saying the story i'm listening to is funny, cuz its so different from the one you told me"

well saturday i go on his myspace and read a message to lucy saying

"heyy cutie im at my parents and im just misssin you thinkin that you should be in my arms its like 446 i called you and a older guy answered sayin i had the wrong number i think it was your dad well anyways ill c you on sunday

if i were you i would tell his roommate and screw him.. you don't deserve to be hurt like that ;; cheaters are ASSHOLES 5 months is a long time
and his commitment to his best friends promise is a big deal just tell your friend you didn't hear it from you I'm sure that if you told him he'd be greatful and not screw you over. i wouldn't even talk to him about it just STOP talking to him and if he starts calling you don't pick up and if he starts calling on blocked numbers don't pick up then finally do and be like "i know its you thats calling, give up."

if your attached to him and love him
its not worth it dont even try he's a scumbag
and everybody deserves better then a cheating, lieing, promice breaking, ass.

sorry about your situation =[

Q: okay i want everyone to be completely honest.
so me and this guy went out for like little more than half a year and then we broke up. but i found out like a week before we broke up he did stuff with this girl who happens to be related to me. and i understand why he did what he like we had a big fight because something stupid i did i didnt cheat but i made a mistake in listening to someone i barley knew over believing the guy that i loved with all my heart but any ways now this guy like talks to me every night and talks about how he wants to hookup and crap and i would definitely even though he has a new girlfriend(the girl he cheated on me with) and im still in love with him and i know he still loves me its a really hard situation, and most of you will probably think "if he cheated he doesnt love you" but it isnt like that. so i just want to know like would that make me like a slut or whore because of what im doing? like do you think that makes me a bad person?

if he's seeing a new girlfriend (one that he cheated on you with) you should seriously back off
1. weren't you really upset when he cheated on you weren't you upset that your relative let that happen .. be the bigger person
2. if he's trying to hookup with you while he has a new girlfriend he's a scumbag.. he's a scumbag for cheating on you in the first place ;; and he definably is using you

if you do hookup with him you could very likely get that reputation .. i really don't think its a good idea

i know you love him but i think you love how he used to be.. do you really love cheating, lying, hurt "if he cheated he doesn't love you" but it isn't like that." sorry hun but i think it is =/

i don't even know you but you deserve better then that everybody does.. let it go move on
heartbreak happens to everyone
you'll meet a better guy that loves you enough not to cheat on you

if he only wants too hook up screw it BUT if he wants to get back with you have him break it off with his girl and take this extra slow and say i need to gain your trust back but if he backs off quickly you'll know he's using you

good luck and I'm really sorry about your situation

Q: Ok I'm super confused so maybe someone can explain this to me! Let's say a boy is 17 and in your state the law is a 17+ person can't date a minor then can he have a 15 year old girlfriend? Because I was reading that there are laws that when your like 17 and up you can't date minors but what about teens around the same age with only a couple years difference? Thanks so much and I will rate everyone who helps me! :D

i have never heard of that law .. it may be true but i dont think people follow it .. you can date a guy a few years older then you if he's 17 i know plenty of people that do. just make sure if you have sex not to get pregnant (condoms, birth control) because if they are older then 18 and your younger your parents could sue for statutory rape.

Q: how can i get my hair thicker, and longer like miley cyrus'??
someone please help me, i need some advice i want my hair to be longer faster! my hair grows hecka slow..
i rate!!!
please and thanks!!!!

x's and o's
hilary

to make your hair thicker you get can layers and use different hair creams you can buy at sephora ;; also if you keep up getting trims your hair will grow faster .. also try not straightening your hair or using heat styling so much the less you do the better and if you do use heat protections spray i recommend you buy it from your hairdressers they'll have the best kind that wont be like greasy or feel like hairspray.

or! HAHA you get get a miley cyrus wig and you'll be all set ;)

Q: Does anyone know how to find out what the age of legal dating is in your state? I live in pennsylvania and I want to know if the age when
dating a minor is illegal like 17 or 18 or what.I already searched for it but I didn't really know how to phrase it and didn't get anything helpful. Thanks!!!

you can date at whatever age you want
but you cannot have sex with a person under 18 if you are over 18 because its "illegal"

Q: 15/f. I dislike my dad and mom. I have nothing for them, nothing against them. I don't feel anything for them. They're like nobody to me. They don't ignore me or abuse me or anything. But I can't bring myself to say "I love you guys." Because I know I'll be bullshitting everyone. I also dislike my sister. My parents get me stuff I want, and they treat me like other parents treat their daughter. But I strongly dislike them. I love being alone, untouched, in my own room. Or instead, out of the house and away from them. I hate being involved with them. And my other relatives live in another country. I don't talk with my parents, and I don't need their advice. I don't confide in them. What can I do?
Any advice? :/

you need to be greatful for what you have and i think you need therapy

Q: My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a month. We never have anything to talk about. It feels weird. Hes in 6 of my classes plus lunch.I need stuff to talk about.

please help me!!
stuck in a conversation

you should do something fun with him your friends and his friends go bowling or something like that where everybody can talk and have fun then the next day you can talk about that and your friends his friends and convorsation will stur up. another thing you can do that will help you get to know him more and him know you is the "question game" sounds cheezy but it gets fun once you later get into it. you can start with questions like ;; what do you like in a girl? how'd your fiss kiss happen with who? when did you start liking me? then you can get into the fun stuff like whats the farthest you've gone with a girl? have you ever dressed in girl clothes? ever do .. whatever!

that will keep you on the phone for hours!

hope i helped good luck!

Q: Well my guy friend lets name him Tim well i asked Tim if he had any secrets and he said yes and he told me he wanted to tell me face to face on Saturday and i did the whole no tell me now blah he told my friend aswell i'll tell you the convo's with me and him and me and my friend lets call her sara

Me-give me a clue
Tim-Nop cause you'll know right away
Me-Is it funny ?
Tim-I hope not cause then i'll get embarrassed lol
Me-Arghh ! Saturday !

Now me and my other friend
Lily-Hii Tim is so hott YUMM ! he's perfect would you ever go out with him
Me-I duno
Lily-What would you say if he asked you out
Me-Yeh i guess
anyone havea clue on the secret xS

yes deffinatly that he likes you and he's going to tell you on saturday

Q: Alright ......theres this guy who i Really REALLY like and he likes me back but hes still in the stage between immature and mature he plays way to many games and thinks everything is a joke when his friends are around....... When we are alone hes a totally diffrent guy...i really like him but i want him to act the same whether his friends are around or not...What should i do?

you can't really change how he is around his friends
because MANY guys are like that but if you really REALLY like him when your alone then try dating him if its THAT much of a problem bring it up to him when your alone ;; but when your in a relationship with someone things change so i wouldn't be too worried about it

hope i helped

Q: ugh omg i am extremely freaking out. My mom has been stressed out enough and her boyfriend has been proud of me lately but now im pregnant and don't know if i should make my mom more stressed out or what. the only thing that i am worried about after telling my mom is that she is going to go tell her boyfriend and i don't want him to know anything about it and if i tell my mom she is going to think that everytime i go see the oppsite sex that she is going to not be able to trust me even though being in this position i am scared enough and i never want to be in this position again.

please help A.S.A.P.

you didn't include your age or whether your keeping the baby but..you need to tell her as soon as possible i know this situation is totally scary
what i would do is go to your school sycologist or guidance counselor talk to him/her about it and then you can have a meeting so your telling her in a environment where she cant FREAK OUT so much you know? then the 3 (or 4 with boyfriend) of you can think of some ways that this could work ;; tell your mom your REALLY SORRY you made this mistake she probably wont trust you again but if you have the baby you wont have time to hangout with guys and stuff like that but it you get an abortion your pretty much screwed (i don't know your mom or anything but with my mom i would be) your mom and boyfriend will be let down but there's nothing you can really do about it but apologize and.. cry ;; they'll probably feel bad and take it easy on you =/

if you wanna talk about whats going on or anything i can send you my sn if you want it

hope i helped

Q: okay so. i want a really obsurd petname for my boyfriend. but i can't think of any, i'm not creative enough. if it helps, he's about a foot taller than me like 6'4", he's a bit on the chubby side, but nowhere near fat. he's a "wigger" i guess. but not that much. he has a lip ring.
so if you have any ideas for any petnames that are just extremely obsurd and rediculous.
please let me know!

ha these probably dont relate to what he looks like much but they are obserd and rediculous

pooky
shunookums
pumpkin
baby cakes
muffins
shorty (irony)
hot stuff
honey bunny
stud muffin

o0o i just found the perfect site
this has a ton and a nickname generator!
http://www.links2love.com/nicknames.htm

hope i helped

Q: Okay this is a two in one... Ill try to make it short.

Okay. My parents MIGHT be getting a divorce. My Mother didn't tell me this my cousin did. A cousin like not other he's like my best friend so don't be like he might just be trying to worry you because its not that kind of relationship. The thing is my parents don't fight. They argue but only like 2 in 2 weeks... if its abad week. And its mostly about money.
Please dont be like dont worry about it until you know positivly here getting a divorce because its not that easy!

Well when I found out I got sad and whent to a good friend of mine Josh. He's a pal lol and I know he might understand because his parents are also divorce i told him everything and he helped a little but then was like my parents have been split up since i was 10 and im not complaining.. blahh blahh and i got mad and hurt his feelings by saying he was so help and stuff like that and now he wont talk to me.
HELP

i would jut really apologize to josh and be like "i'm soo sorry i'm just really aggrivated about my family issues right now and i just cant picture myself being happy without them together i hope you can forgive me 8[" i think you should go to or mom or dad or whoever your closest too and ask them whats going on and be mature about it and stern

hope i helped a little

bio

i'm renee. i'm nice and fun. i'm new to the site but i usually give great advice; i've been through alot of shit i usually relate to people's problems and love helping people out ;; i'm best at giving advice on love and relationships .. try meee =]