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How do you know when your ready?
33 female
My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 2 months and I want to have sex ,but my boyfriend wants to make sure I am ready and not rushing into anything. My question is How do you know when your ready?
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One part of being ready is being old enough and mature enough to handle things like using birth control, checking to see if either of you has the herpes virus. The only way to know for sure if a person has it, is to request from Dr. to check for it, rather than wait to see if one of you gets an outbreak. I mention this since I ended up with it. It can remain dormant in your body and only shows up when there is stress in your life.
I assume there is a sexual chemistry between you two, and you don't need to have sex to know you feel it. Also, are you okay with sex for sake of the fun of it only, or to find out if he's a considerate lover, or you see it as meaning he is serious about you to the point of possible marriage? There is plenty of sex outside of a committed relationship. Just be sure that what you view it as and what he views it as is the same thing. Some men will date cyclically until they get sex and then once tired of the person move on to someone else. If you feel you can handle the risk of this happening, you're ready.
Ask yourself if you have a want to have sex with him. I mean, really drawn to it, imagining it, rea
lly craving it, then you need to check it out to see if its something you want regularly.
Often, a really good man will wait for the woman to be ready, that means wanting to have sex with j
him. My 2nd husband was like that, waiting for me to make the first move. I could tell in other ways that he was really into me and males are not into women they are not attracted to or want to have sex with. So perhaps, do as I did, and make the first move and touches, rubbing, kissing and if he still holds back, let him know in words that you want sex.
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