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Is this normal?
I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm really attracted to a boy I know who just turned 13. Is it normal to be attracted to someone so much younger? I admit I'm scared that this makes me some kind of pervert or something.
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Age only matters now when you are both still minors. Once considered an adult at 18 and any age after that, age doesn't matter so much. There are plenty of guys who are younger than their wives. My first landlords were a couple where the wife was older for example. In answer to your question 'is it normal' yes it is, however it isn't very common. And that is probably why you feel bad about your feelings. You see the fact that the male is the younger person as being bad or wrong or forbidden. You will find yourself constantly watching a male of any age, young or older and seeing a trait or something in them that you admire. When there are several things you may like about a guy, it is easy to develop feelings of attraction. Why not? Or at least, you feel some kind of attraction to whatever it is he has that has your attention, plainly said, you are attracted to traits in a male. And I remember my teen years as a female, ogling males I admired for something and it wasn't about sexual attraction as the range of men was from my age to grandpa age. I read that this was normal. In fact in the animal kingdom, the females are picky about who they choose to be their mate. They watch to see which males are better at building, providing, protecting, and all of the things any female might want. Yes, Humans do this too. Thing is, most of us are unaware of what we are doing. It wasn't until I read something about teen girl behavior and learned that what I was doing was normal and I could relax now. For now, just be a friend to him. I wouldn't say hang with him exclusively. You both should still nurture your other relationships like friends. It would be like being the kid next door or across the street, being a more relaxed and comfortable instant friendship, but not together really often because of living in close proximity.
Just enjoy a friendship right now. If you are both still friends by time he is older, say 15,16. . . then it wouldn't bad to date unless forbidden to, by parents. So, just know you are normal, not a pervert, or having some odd fantasys. And for now, just be the occasional friend.
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