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Relationships
Hello, I am 32 and I have a hard time meeting guys and trying to find friends. I havent had the best of luck with guys since I am stuck in a vicious cycle of attracting guys I am not attracted to and being attracted to guys who arent attracted to me. I figure other women may have this problem as well. How can I find a guy who doesnt have commitment issues or other excuses? I havent dated since I was 28 and have had the worst of luck with guys. Im not sure where to meet guys since I dont really have many friends. I have had tried dating sites and they are the worst. I have tried to connect with other guys in the past and I get REJECTED a lot. Im currently working on myself and always have been. I dont understand why it is so hard to meet someone in my thirties. I also dont want to date a guy with kids or want kids. I have completely lost faith in guys. I have hobbies but never find guys around me. What can I do to attract guys? Where do you meet guys? I cant be the only person who struggles or has the worst of luck with guys. I do get guys who flirt with me in public but never pursue me, guys never pursue me. But when I pursue people online it never lasts. Help for relationship advice and how can I start dating again?
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I can give you good ways to meet people, but there are patterns here that strongly suggest a significant role in your difficulties is played by you,yourself.
I would therefore suggest and recommmend that you find a therapist who offers group therapy, as well as individual, where you can gain both support and honest feedback, as well as guidance.
Within that context, I would take a strong look at how you come across to others, as well as whom you choose to pursue.
When you are truly ready and emotionally available, you can meet others just about anywhere. Its also a good idea to follow your interests and preferred activities so you can meet others who share them. This said, I would recommend something that appeals either to men or to both sexes, and avoid such activities as, say, knitting or crocheting. Your chances of meeting guys would be far better if you took an organized group trip or took up fly fishing for example.
But again its what you bring with you to any situation and how you come across to others that will be key.'
Its not a matter of having "the worst luck" as you described. Start by taking inventory and trying to give yourself honest feedback. Its not too late at all, but don't delay, time's awasting!
Good luck and good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
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