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Crush on my brother´s best friend
Hi:)
You answered my question about me having crush on my brother´s best friend. I just dont´t think I can text him again to meet up. I texted him 2 weeks ago if he wants to go out with me to one city event. I told him to bring up other of his friends so it wouldn´t be just two of us. He told me he would go. But then I haven´t heard from him. I didn´t want to seem needy so I didn´t reach out to him before the event. Then few days later I "accidentally" texted him to start a conversation but it was a short one.
So I don´t wanna be the one to start conversation again.
I don´t wanna lose him a friend. Maybe it´s just me thinking he probably likes me. It has been two years since we saw each other in person because he studied his Bachelor degree in different country, but now he has come back. I don´t really care what my brother thinks about it. Maybe I´m just missinterpreting the signs. But maybe he doesn´t want to approach me because he knows my brother so well and he feels awkward to say anything like I do. The thing is that this crush of mine knows my older brother as well, so thats also a thing.
If I were to confess him, it would be over a text. I just really dont wanna ruin a friendship with him and then it would be even more awkward then it is. He told me he doesn´t talk to my brother as much anymore, nor do they hang out. I literally don´t know what do to. Do i text him or I just keep my feelings for myself.
Thanks.
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Don't text. That's about the worst possible thing you could do. It never works. As much as you don't want to deal with this in person the conversation needs to happen face-to-face. You don't have to confess anything but tell him that you have mixed signals from him and need to know if a friendship is possible or if he's interested in more. It's your right to know so that you know for sure where things stand. It's a reasonable thing to do.
He hasn't seen you in 2 years so a lot has changed and he may not know where he stands with you or what you are interested in. The fact you are texting him a lot may have rattled him as he's cluing in to the reason why. Girls and guys don't text one another with great frequency or automatically when they receive a text unless they're in to someone. He may not be sure of himself with you.
What I would suggest is that you not text for awhile and see what he does. Send one last text saying you need to talk to him soon face-to-face and that you wish he had come to your event because you wanted to reconnect.
I highly doubt thus would ruin a friendship because guys are usually more mature than that and appreciate knowing these things and vice-versa girls. You may not get a relationship but because you are brutally honest friendship can still evolve.
More or less unless you put yourself out there and take a bold risk you can't expect that he would ever do so. Yes, it makes you vulnerable and uncomfortable but it's better than not knowing and or wasting your time hoping for something that may not be unrequited. Give it some time, text once asking to meet up and see what he does. If he doesn't call you or text you after that drop him and the issue because he's conveying by silence his lack of interest.
He could also be pretty busy but could still respond to you but if he doesn't after many days or a week you'll know that this is a social cue that you need to move on that he's not interested in being a friend or more.
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