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I’m tired of everything...
Hello..
I’m 32 year old Artist, divorced after 2 years of marriage at the age of 24, and after that failed relationship..
Currently in Dubai working in family business and in a relationship for almost 10 months now..
After my family found out about him they disapproved and terminate him from work ( we use to work together) so I resigned, and 1 month we’re unemployed staying at home most of the time, but we started to fight more and it’s too much already, I don’t know why I’m writing this but i want him to stay because he’s amazing in many ways.. something real!!
I’m a past digger and found in his old usb driver photos of his ex naked photos that he use to take of her, screenshots of the messages ( the same way that he flirts with me) that thing made me see I’m not in anything near special to him, and i was devastated and broken I don’t know why,, he came home I didn’t tell him anything but at the same time i wanted..
He felt that I wasn’t ok he asked many times but I didn’t say anything, i started to drink 1 bottle of wine,, ( for me that’s too much ) as I don’t drink that much i started to cry and eventually i told him of course while crying that I don’t feel any special than the others, he said it’s not like that bla bla..and “if you want to be special you have to do something special..” which was the last drop.. i was in the ground hoping something will change some words some action, but he didn’t do anything like nothing, trying to calm me or stop me from drinking or some sweet words.. and later he went to sleep saying that I’m not supportive as he had to do some food trial tomorrow, and he slept , woke up this morning at 6 and left at 7 am.
Sometimes i feel like asking much but I’m not im not materialistic always by his side i took my family against me for him( which they still insisting for me to go back) but I can’t do it, i respect him that will only break him, everyone is saying i should think about me first.. but I didn’t deserve all that he said all that he did those words are still in my throat I can’t swallow them..
Maybe I wasn’t special after all.. maybe this is not meant to be ( which i still believe it is..) i feel lost and sad , I can’t do anything.. maybe staying away a bit will tell him something , something to think .. but I don’t know..
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You are having a tough time in this relationship, both with your boyfriend and with your family as well. This isn't a good forecast for the future.
Your family disapproves, but you didn't say why. If the entire family is against him, perhaps they have good reasons?
Your own track record leaves something to be desired. You married wrong, perhaps too early, and got divorced. Okay, many people do. But then, you said something about another failed relationship.
So ,this too, happens to many people. But what has been going on with you? Not just the other person.
You have used alcohol to help you feel better, and this isn't good. Do not let drinking become a greater problem than you already have.
Your boyfriend seems to blame you, and hasn't taken responsibility for anything on his part. Also not a good thing.
You say you are an "artist"? How are you earning a living? Or, are you being supported by your boyfriend? He was fired, so is he working at all?
Apparently, there isn't financial stability, for whatever reasons. At the age of 32, you should be financially self reliant. And, you should also be more mature about the choices you make in relationships.
All in all, I kept reading about problems in the relationship, but nothing about how to solve them, or the possible good things.
Communication is the key to good problem solving, and as far as I can tell, you two don't have it.
It can be learned, perhaps if the two of you were to spend some time with a marriage counselor, it could help you either iron out your difficulties, or help you determine what roads to take next.
From what you described here, however, I'm sorry to say that I don't see a good future for the two of you. And even if you stay together, you will have to deal with your family's rejection of your boyfriend, and perhaps you will have to choose between them, also not a good thing.
I wish you well, and good luck, ~Dr. Stephanie
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