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Quality time
Is too much quality time bad? I've been dating my bf for 2 months and we've been seeing eachother almost everyday. While I love him, and do enjoy his company I find myself feeling irritated over the small and dumbest thing. And I feel terrible because he's so sweet to me. Is it normal to want alone time with myself and other friends too? How should I bring this up?
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There is definitely something as too much quality time. When you spend so much time with someone, you're obviously going to start seeing their faults, and if you spend too much time together, soon their faults are all you're going to be seeing and getting irritated with every little thing. That happens! It's normal. Props to him for apparently being fine with your faults though. You should definitely spend some time alone or with other friends. It's not healthy for you or your relationship to only be seeing each other for so much of the time. You shouldn't stress about how to bring it up. Just be sensitive. Tell him you love him, but you guys have been spending a TON of time together and of course you still want to spend time with him, but you want to spend time with other people too, or even alone. He'll understand.
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Hell yes! You both need to have your own interests and time to self. That's healthy and extremely necessary. If you spend 24/7 together especially with the COVID-19 situation you'll definetly have anger and frustration toward one another.
A reasonable individual will understand this need and he will likely see that he requires it himself. It doesn't mean either of you love eachother less either. There should be no guilt in telling him you want to see him but can't do it daily because of commitments and needing time you used to have for that.
That's all that need be said. He knows you need a life as does he apart from the relationship. All will be fine. Let him know friends want you to go out and you haven't seen them since quarrantine.
Now, the issue is what will you do with the time you have? It's difficult with COVID. Perhaps you could do an online course and learn a new skill or find something you're passionate about that you can do at home perhaps art or photography or writing. See what is out there for you. It's a healthy thing because you may find something about yourself or a talent you didn't know you had this way or write and create something deep and meaningful.
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