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My family think I need therapy now that I'm into women.
I'm 30/F. A year ago, I was released from prison after spending five years locked up. Before my prison stint, I'd never been into women sexually, but during my time there I entered into a relationship with a fellow inmate. Since my release, I'm still into women and have virtually no interest in being with a guy. My family haven't exactly been supportive. They say my time away has messed with my head and I need therapy. But if I'm okay with this, why shouldn't I continue dating women? So what if I wasn't exactly born this way? What do you all think about this? Am I making a mistake here?
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In prison theres no chance of having hetero sex so you adapted. Your parents can't make you do anything you don't want since you are an adult. Often parents worry when they want grandkids badly and a child of their either doesnt want any or is in a same sex relationship and don't plan to adopt. So you never know whats driving them.
You had to adapt at a young age, I assume in your twenties or even earlier. This is the time most people are learning about what they like sexually and are drawn to but you may not have had a chance to experiment. If you have never been with a man, there may be just one right for you, who is accepting of your attraction to females. This attraction may last your life, it may not and you and I can't know what the future holds. But I want you to know there is another option. I have known through a female neighbor who was bi, many of her bi friends. I am not bi sexual. But after going out to a club once, I sat and talked with all the husbands while the wives were dancing with each other. The husbands were straight and did not have sex with anyone but the wife. However they were okay with her being bi and needing to meet to hook up with females on a regular basis, some of those long term female romantic relationships. They told me that the women were generally not interested in men at all, just him. So it is possible to meet and fall in love with a man and marry and still have a female lover as well. As time goes by, you will either experience attraction for one special man or not. In the meanwhile, enjoy the path you are on and don't let anyone else tell you what is right or not. I suspect any intelligent counselor would never try to tell a client who they should bed attracted to and their sexual choices because we all know that in todays world, it is okay to be of any sexual orientation or not.
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