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How do I move on?
Male 24,my girlfriend broke up with me, I still love her alot.. We see each other every day,we have friends in common, I still think about her, at times I feel like picking my phone and calling her, but I know she does not love me as much as I love her....I'm trying to move on but I can't, she's always on my mind.
It hurts, and I don't know how to make the pain stop.
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You should do what you can to not see her. It only makes things worse for you. One thing that helped me get over someone is this: When you think about her, switch your mind to things you hate about her. Be nitpicky and really critical of her flaws. Basically, learn to dislike her. Focus on the bad things about her. Get annoyed and be like "eff that bitch". Might sound harsh but you're not telling her these things and your brain will learn to associate her with things that annoy you, not fondness. I found it a lot easier to move on after doing this. I even found a song (in spanish, if you speak spanish, its called "chinga tu madre" by molotov. Which roughly translates to "go eff yourself") Which basically hates on a girl the whole song and I would listen to that and sing along and it made me feel better. Not because I hated her, but because my mind didn't go to "I lost something, so I'm gonna feel bad" when I thought of her, Instead it went to "maaan, eff that bitch" and I didn't feel the feelings of loss and longing. I was glad I didn't have to deal with her shit anymore. After a while, when I thought of her it would be neutral. I didn't hate her, but my mind didn't go to that feeling of loss anymore.
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Hello! First off I am so sorry you're going through something like this, its never fair. It may be a painful thing because it is love. Every minute you spent with her is a memory and history that will never leave. I'll be real you thought you were going strong and thought you were holding on. But things come to an end. If it is really meant to be you two will find each other and come back together. Pick up the phone and text or call her. Life is WAY too short to be afraid of something that could end well. Never think negative. It will only get worse before it gets better keep your head up. Don't force to yourself to move on if you're not ready.
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