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My cousin and I have a crush on each other.
I'm a sixteen year old girl and I have a huge crush on one of my male cousins. He's the same age as me and has a crush on me as well. I know this because we recently admitted our feelings to each other. Now we're both really confused because we're not sure if it's right for us to date. Also, we're worried about how our family will react if we do. Any advice?
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From looking at births from closely blood related couples in the past, there was evidence that such close breeding brought out the worst hereditary weaknesses and children born of such a couple could have some kind of medical issue. So at some point the info was passed around that dating, marrying or having relations with someone too close in family, is forbidden. It was not a religious reason where this was wrong. The following article says marriage between first cousins is legal in Australia but as far as the article mentioned is illegal in most countries around the world. This is likk to the article:
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I do understand that in some areas, it is okay for second cousins to marry. A first cousin is the child of your aunts and uncles. A second cousin would be the child of a cousin of yours who may be much much older than you, so the cousins child, your second cousin, is closer to your age.
Since the purpose to dating is usually a romantic attraction two people have and they date to get to know what it is they like and don't like for a future mate, and the stats of how often ones first love in HS ends up the marriage partner, the laws were set for medical reasson as I explained and the articles mentioned in more ddetail the real reason why it is oot a good idea. Even if a child of yours was born normal, they are very likely to be carrying these weakened genes for diseasess so that your grandchildrens health and or survival may be at risk. I would think that it would still be an issue with any blood relative including second cousins. I know how the obvious traits of looks can be passed down several generations, two or three and end up in a blood relative generations down the line. My brother in law looked just like a photo of a great great grandmother on the same wall, look.ed as if she and he were identical twins. One of my daughters as a toddler looked astonishingly the same as her paternal grandmother. If looks can skip several generations before manifesting, then so can the markers for having specific diseases.
There is no reason why you can't just remain close friends. But feelings will be too raw for a long time if not forever to be close and not be able to eventually show each other your love through lovemaking/sex. Even if you didn't plan on having kids for this reason, unless both of you are infertile or snipped, then there is a chance of bringing a child into the world. I would suppose if you wait until you are both in your early twenties and still feel the same, that you both get procedures to make both of you unable to create children, then the main reason for not marrying is gone. And you could adopt.
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