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Boy trouble
To keep a super long story short, I met this boy that hangs out with our friend group a lot lately and I never thought much of him besides that he was pretty nice. Well lately we got closer and I started to like him a little. But my friend seems to like him as well. They have been friends longer and he seems to like her more then me but I still think he kinda likes me too ( he has kissed both of us and other things, I know it’s weird but we are stupid high schoolers). I wouldn’t go for him if I knew she only liked him but she’s not clear about it and says she likes two other boys as well. I don’t know what to do. I think I should lay off but it still hurts a lot and I have no idea what to do. I don’t wanna talk to her about it because I don’t want her to be mad at my for catching feelings. I haven’t liked someone in a year and I feels great but I don’t know what to do at all. I need any help at all. Thanks for reading. Hope to hear back soon.
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Who says you have to reveal feellings at all to your friend. There is no such rule. All you have to do is ask her questions without revealing your feelings. Heres how I would do it, "Hey, I know you've been friends with Tom (whatever his name is but for this I'll use Tom) for quite a while and it seems you are close long time friends. I think he's a pretty nice guy. So I was wondering if you have feelings for him that run deeper than just friendship, cus if not, I might ask him out on a date. At this point if she asks if its because you like him, you can say, "Of course, I like him a friend but from watching him, am curious to see how it might work if I date him. If not him, I am hoping to date someone like him. Or something like that in your own words.
Now just because any people like one person as more than a friend, doesn't mean that person is going to like any of them back. Theres a little thing called chemistry and you either have similar ones or not and can't force or change it. So both people need to feel it for each other because it works. Just because a guy kisses a female does not mean he likes her or loves her or is in love with her. Sometimes young males will subtly try to find ways to get any girl to 'date' him only so he can say and do what he knows she wants to see and hear just so he can eventually experience kisses, touching, sex and this would be called lust. I will share a negget of wisdom that will help you greatly in finding a wonderful guy, if not now, later when ready to marry aand kids.
This wisdom is about the strong foundation to such a relationship. Thats built on two things, one being each others closest friend and treating each other that way without fail, not on and off but all the time. The other is being each others romantic equal and this is the only thing that is different from a friendship, the one extra thing that not all have. Some get so excited about a bew relationship that those feelings of new relationship are much like the awaited christmas toy you got as a kid and were so excited about at first. But as you know, any toy or game not just perfect for you, lost its appeal after some time. So if a guy is hot and paying you attention, wants to put an arm around you, kiss, pet, have sex but is not as interested in all the other stuff, then he is most likely the wrong person for you. Keep this in mind.
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