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Went on a date - explicit
I met this guy on bumble. He is 32 and I’m 27. He is a successful man a ceo of a company and has many employees. I drove to his house to meet him when we got there we small talked and then decided to smoke in his room we both then smoked I laid down on his bed. We are just talking about life about each other. He talked to me about how I was the first girl he met on bumble and he was in a relationship for 6 years but it wasn’t going the way they wanted. They went their separate ways. Then I know we are cuddling talking about which restaurant we should go out for dinner to. After this I made the first move and kissed him and then he kissed me back and then was on top of me then he tried taking my pants off and I told him no “we can’t” and he said okay got off of me and then laid next to me and his pants we’re off so I got up and then sucked his dick for a little while. After he was like wow thank you then goes I know exactly where we should go to dinner. We then decided to go to a tai place near by and he drives. We get to the restaurant basically tells me order whatever you want. We drank water so we were drinking. Talked about family life he has a dog whatever. He pays the bill without looking at the bill then we leave. He tells me he needs to run some errands and he needs to pick up his meal prep and then he had to go to the grocery store. Drives my to my car at his house we kind of half hugged and awkwardly kissed. He told me he’s busy during the week but flexible during the weeeknd. then I went home. I texted him I was home and he said glad you made it home safely I told him I had fun and he agreed with me he did too. I then said goodnight to him and he said goodnight then my name and that was it. This was Sunday it’s Tuesday I know it’s soon but I don’t know if he likes me or not. I can’t tell if he was just being nice and said he had a good time. I didn’t know if he was trying to send me on my way after dinner or what. I enjoyed my time and I think he did too but I don’t know! Do I text him Thursday or Friday asking how his week was? We were also talking about a toy about his dog and I found it on the website and I want to send him the link and he like this is what I’m talking about! Need some advice people ! He is a ceo if a major company so I’m trying to tell myself he has meetings all day he has this all day that I’m not a priority. Thank you so much.
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More then often most guys will say yeah go for it to help a man out but seems like you may not be the one for him he's playing with your account yhe's a boss or CEO what ever in his life one girl or lady's man as for you your looking to hard try something more research beforehand not some guy looking for one night stand.
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There's always an exception to the rule but what your friends said is generally how things go. I am sure some things are different now than when I was your age. I am 60 but ten years ago, I was divorced and had been on dating sites the kind that have more information about the person besides their photo. So I would think some things remain the same and at least ten years ago, it was still true, at least for me. I learned from an abusive first marriage that it doesn't matter how handsome, hot, sexy, wealthy a guy is, what matters is how he treats me and then beyond that, finding a man who can not only be a lover but my best friend, treat me with respect and unconditional love, not only love a few aspects about me as the ex did, but love all of me, not just the me on the outside, beauty fades as you grow older, he has to be in love with the me inside of me. That is what I learned from a first marriage that went wrong.
Reading what you wrote, I know I would not have laid on a guys bed to talk unless I was very attracted to him and wanted sex even if it did not end up in a permanent relationship. He may have been a gentleman. My second husband was, I had to make the first kiss but that was not in bed, but thanking him for fixing a booklet of mine that was falling apart, one I refered to often. He enjoyed the kiss but still did not press for more.
If what he said is true and he was in a relationship for 6 years, it doesnt take that long to figure out if someone is right for you, that can be figured out in the first couple dates or for those slow to pick up on the clues, maybe 6 months, but not 6 years. So perhaps he is one who is willing to really work things out, not quick to leave or look for other women. As successful as he is, he may be wanting to settle down. A man like that will want to marry most likely unless he has some phobias from parents or other marriages gone wrong. For a wife, he'll want someone as an equal partner, a woman who is fun to be with and can be silly and playful in private but around other corporate eyes, she is refined, tasteful, knows her manners and can hostess parties. Back at home, she is the wildcat in bed. Men with good taste will want the woman who is able to present the public image, just as a Presidents wife has to, showing nothing of what she is like with her husband in private.
Men are always ready and willing for sex. I have no idea how much he has been after you, wanting to talk to you on phone, in person, do general things together, go on dates, and so on. Sex is just icing on the cake. As I said, sometimes a woman has to make the first move if the man has been seeing her over a period of several dates, days and hasn't even kissed her. See, once I kissed my now husband, I still had to make the first move again to have sex. But once I started it, there was no holding back, he was a wild one in bed and a great lover and he would initiate as long as he knew I was ready for that. You don't know if your guy was just being a gentleman. If he wasn't, then making the first move may have sent the message that you are not as much into a real relationship, but rather just after a sex partner. And yes, he will oblige you and call when he is horny again, and because he's a nice guy, will do a little of other stuff together with you. But I can't say without knowing him as a person that you sent the wrong message to him. I was 50 when dating my husband but our dating was long conversations on the most part and not really going on dates. He had a teenage daughter living with him so consider that a chaperone at his place where we spent lots of time. I had met him once before, saw each other briefly in passing during work day and spent a week on the phone every night for hours before the day that I had sex with him. For me, it wasn't about proving anything to him, or to scratch a sexual itch, but I simply wanted to get a feel if we were going to be compatible, would he be a considerate lover...and so on. So I am no prude dear. Been there and evaluated each situation and guy differently as there were some I never got to the point of even being curious about sex with them. The only way to know if this can be repaired is to have a good an honest talk. Are you wanting to marry someday, ready to do so? Do you want children some day soon, what are your beliefs religion wise if any, your ethics and morals, how do each of you feel about the environment and mother earth, there are so many things you can spend time talking about. As I said, 4 hours each night for a week of going through all this stuff that has to be said, was enough to get to know what the other claims to be. Then spending time together to see if they are consistantly what they said they are. Inconsistency means, you better look for someone else.
If it were me, I would say I was not normally that forward with a male but when with him, I felt so comfortable as if we'd known each other much longer than we really did. I would then say, I don't mean to scare you but I am dating to find the man I want to marry and want a man who is also looking for a wife. I wasn't young but if I was I would say, I also know I want to have children. At 27, I don't want to wait once I find the man I want to be with the rest of my life. So tell me where you stand on the things I mentioned.
Those two really need to be shared at the start because women have dated men for 10 years with no proposal though they have hinted, all for nothing because the guys stance is to not marry ever. Then there are married women wanting their first child and now, too late they find out that their husband doesn't want children ever. Maybe he came from a big family and doesn't want to repeat that. Maybe he enjoys having the freedom and not being tied down with kids, may be he feels the world is overpopulated, what ever the excuse, he is likely not to change his mind. These are reasons for couples splitting up so this is serious stuff, more serious than sending the wrong message with having sex and appearing to be too easy. If its only the fact that he looks decent but more importantly is a wealthy man that has you interested, sooner or later he will figure that out and dump you if you are not truly in love with him but in love with his money. If a man doesn't care and takes on a gold digger for a wife, you can count on him not remaining true to you either and having other women on the side, others who will take any scraps of attention from a wealthy powerful man. If he is more of a down to earth guy who accidently stumbled onto something that made him rich, he will still be a humble man beneath it all. I'll read that no matter how much the actor Keanu Reeves, has, he is happier driving an older car, even a working junky looking one than spending all his money on fancy ones like a Ferrari. He isn't into the status stuff. If your guy is like this, and you are too, he needs to know this. He may try to spend money on you but if you are happy just being with him and basic needs met, the right man will consider you a jewel. My husband isn't rich, but he listens to me and knows what is important to me, things I like to collect and so on. One day he wanted to drag me to the Hobby store to show me something. He wanted to know if I liked it. Got it wrong that time but most times he gets it right. He even brings home stuff from a grocery store trip that were not necessary but he knows I like, as in today he told me he bought my favorite yogurt and got me a bag of potato chips which I like to indulge in but can't eat as often as I used to. It gave me such a warm fuzzy feeling that he was thinking of me to get items he knew I liked. I would feel the same if it was an emerald ring but we don't have that kind of money, if he did, I still wouldn't allow him to spend money on me left and right, rather encouraging making donations to organizations in need of support. So you need to talk, find out what is most important in life to you both. Good luck.
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