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Do I get back with my ex
Hi there,
So I was seeing this girl for about two years however the final few months were a bit on and off so I just say two years as it’s easier. So we broke up and I still wanted her in my life so I said I’d be Friends with her as I was still madly in love with her as you can guess it was her that did the dumping. She was going through a rough patch and as always I was there on hand to help her through it she went on holiday and met this fella that she was seeing when we were off at one point. One thing led to another and they had sex but the next week she still came to my house and stayed for a week being friends but always that little bit closer than friends if you get me. But nothing sexual happened. Ended up going to a concert with her into about 3/4 hours away during this time and I seen him sending her kissing emojis so I think that’s when I realised I couldn’t do the friends thing you ended up leaving her in the carpark the following day saying that I couldn’t do this anymore and that we can’t be friends and I knew by her that she was devastated. Summer passes by and no contact however as we are both teachers the week before we are due back to school she contacts me asking if I was at home however I wasn’t and she wanted to meet up. Turned out that I was in her home town and she was in mine and we live 3 hours apart so I said that as she was travelling home I would meet her in hers however she got really upset and started saying that she couldn’t so we didn’t meet. Instead while I was driving home she ended up sending me an email stating how she was feeling and all the reasons as to why the relationship didn’t work out on her end. When I received the email it was everything I wanted all summer but I don’t know I felt nothing as a result. So we’ve been in contact since then we met up twice since then and have been texting everyday. However this is where it gets tricky. She is a workaholic and the reason it didn’t work out last time or the main reason was this as there was never no time for the relationship or me and now on top of work she is doing a masters degree too so she doesn’t have time at all. We met there earlier and she asked how I feel and I really do want to get back with her but I know if I get in it I won’t be second best I’ll be third best after her studies and work. Is it wrong for me to want to be number one? And I’m wondering should I even try to get back into this or is there too much things telling me that it’s not right
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You worded this a little different but its the same thing, I looked back at my history of answering questions and My answer to you went out, in great length and detail.
All I can guess is that you couldn't get into your account to see it, or perhaps you didn't go look for answers and just posted again, or you saw my long answer and didn't want to read that much. If that last guess is true, I can make it easy for you. The short version, instead of explaining in detail is that most humans are alike, they don't like change. Also, they feel a great need to see others change, and hope to make others change, but they can't do that. Change comes from within, so the girl has to want to change and no longer be a work o holic. As long as she is, she will not have time for you. But don't trust me, get back together with her. All that will do is show you for sure that it can't work out unless you get used to being low priority on the totem pole. Yeah it hurts to love someone who isn't going to work out for you. I've been there done that but there is no way to sugar coat this. You want more anquish, heart ache and feeling unimportant etc, then be my guest and get back with her. If you think I am exaggerating, sure get back together with her. You will eventually learn something hopefully. I only try to give enough detail to help a person make their decision. I wish people could use good advice and avoid going through things the hard way, by the school of hard knocks...living it. If that is the only way you prefer to learn, then as I said, go for it.
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