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My question is about my love
I dated this girl and then her parents said that she couldn't date yet so we broke up but we went behind there backs and dated again they found out about it and a couple months ago her parents said not to talk to her so should I apologize to her parents or what should I do
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I had 3 daughters and also felt at certain ages they were too young to go out, away from home on dates with a guy. But I had no problem with them coming over just as any girlfriend of theirs would, to hang out, although there was a rule that the bedroom door had to remain open but they were welcome to cuddle and hold hands for example if watching TV. And a male friend could not come over unless we were home. I am not the only one like this, my sister did the same with her teen daughter and I've read stories of others who did the same. So you might want to suggest this to her parents. It is better to start off with learning how to become the best of friends because any really successful future romantic relationship will have the friendship part as its foundation but one thing more than just a friendship, the romance and sexual attraction. When still in school, no matter if you think you feel more than friendship, it is a good place to start. Her parents don't know you any more than they know a stranger. Its a good way to get them to trust you. Just think, if you marry one day long in the future, your wifes family-parents, siblings, as your family too. Might as well get used to how to become friendly with a girls family now. Its good practice for you.
SO if you feel inclined to apologize to them, I would do so in person. Don't call ahead, just go over in the evening when both should be home and say what you have to say. Then let them know that not to make excuses, but you really do enjoy her company as a girl and would like to be able to see her, not as a boyfriend but as a male friend and you would be willing to visit her at home when they are there and follow any rules they might want to enforce. You have to be willing to honor this and not be saying it just to try to get away with something. You can let them know you'll give them time to think about it and then go on your merry way. With luck, you'll be allowed to go visit her. Its better than nothing. Plus they get to know you if you interact with them. A boy coming to my door to even talk to me would earn brownie points. Most the guys were too chicken to go along with this option, afraid to face us I guess. An apology is a good idea no matter how it goes.
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