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I just need advice on this person at school
Hello. I wrote here a few months ago but I had deleted my question because I wanted to see how it would end up going. I'm going to start by resaying everything that happened. I'm a guy and I'm pansexual by the way, I am someone that looks mostly for a connection and I am attracted to both sexes. But anyways, I'm writing about a guy from school. He has a girlfriend and she's in the class too. First off, he knew my name without me ever telling him. He was in my first period. He said hi to me once when he was with his friends walking down the hallway. He has blurted things to me randomly in class. One day I had dozed off and the bell rang and he sat at the front and i sat in the back and we were on opposite sides of the classroom. He came and woke me up. He has touch me gently for a few seconds when he walked by my desk, he touched my arm and he kind of massaged me from the right side of my shoulder to my back to my left shoulder. It was gentle. He has said good morning to me a few times. In class, he sat in front of me and his back was facing me. One day, I saw him trying hard not to look back at me and he looked at me for a few seconds, until I looked at him then he turned back around. One day a few weeks ago he was distracting the class sort of and the teacher told him to move tables and he came and sat next to me and he asked me tons of questions about me, like where I was from, if I was going to college, what were my plans afterwards and a bunch of other stuff. It seemed genuine, he looked me in the eyes, both his legs were under the table and I had my hand on my cheek and my elbow was on the desk and he was in that pose too. I don't know if he was imitating me or not. But he had left for a sec to answer his phone and when he came back he noticed I was looking at car pics on my phone and asked if I like cars and I said yeah and he told me he did too and that he also liked trucks and he showed me a pic of a truck. But the following week which was also last week he was walking with his friend and I didn't know he was behind me and I started hearing him call my name except he was nicknaming me and said it in a goofy voice. He just wanted to ask where I was going. Then the next day after class his friend came in (I think it might be his best friend) and they were about to leave the class for a sec and his friend, whom I don't know said hi to me. But anyways, after his friend left he called me by the same nickname again and asked me how I was and joked with me asking if I was "still driving them race cars", meaning if I was still looking at cars. Then when I answered, he said goofily "I don't want to make you late" and he left. I didn't take the goofy voice as him trying to tease me, because he is a goofy and funny person in general. But I haven't seen him since and there is only one week of school left and first period is officially over because I already did the exam for that period. I really miss him and it is too late. We first talked the other week and I wish that conversation had happened 2 months ago. I don't know him well but I've always felt like I could trust him and I don't know why I miss him this bad. He does seem like me in a lot of ways though except the only difference is he's an extrovert and I'm an introvert. This is a small town and I'm hoping to maybe run into him one day. Any kind of advice would be helpful and thanks in advance. I just want to know if this is something I should or could pursue.
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You must know his name, first and last, right? Look him up on social media if you dont end up seeing him before school is out for summer.
I can't say whether he is genuinely attracted to you as a friend or as something more than a friend. The only differences are that in a couple relationship, there is the friendship but something extra, chemistry, romantic feelings, sexual attraction, but it is the something that is missing if two people are just friends. I am assumeing there is another year or so in school where you can see him this fall if all else fails. So whether you see him around town or this fall, study now on body language a person does if interested in the person they are with. The mimicing body movements that you noticed is one of them. Finding any excuse to reach out and touch is another. If he did that to a guy who was strictly hetero and only liked girls, such a guy might have tried to shrug and pull away and said something like, "Hey, what do you think you're doing, hands off buddy!" You did not. He is still leaving hints and you haven't said anything as far as even wanting to be a friend, start there and see where it goes. If he is no longer in school because you don't see him in class anymore, maybe he got out early for family vacation? You said he had other friends. I assume they are still at school and not all of them about his whereabouts. If he is still gone, you ask when he is coming back and if they think they will be in touch with him. Once you know the situation, and he hasn't moved out of the area or something like that, you ask if they will give him your cell number.
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