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about with holding sex from a guy i just started seeing
hi, I am in my early 20's. I am a med student and I surprisingly, should be the last type of person to ask for such an advice. But, I am asking anyway. I have never actually had vaginal sex before, and I am still a virgin. I recently started seeing this guy and last night, he fingered me..and I told him to wait and that we wouldn't have sex with out protection and he's cool with it. of course!the problem is that even though i have never had sex, i think i might have a simple yeast infection (because of my stressful life). i with held sex from him to protect him and obviously i won't have sex with him until i fully recover. but him fingering me kinda just happened. I know the chances of him getting it are slim to none, with out oral or vaginal sex,but I need assurance from any of your sources..thank you
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A yeast infection is not an STD but some symptoms can seem like ones of an STD. So rather than write the details out to explain,I am posting a link to an article explaining Yeast vs STD's.
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I am a female and I have had vaginitis and yeast infections many times throughout my life and I am a fairly healthy person. The ecosystem of the vagina is a fragilely balanced one. It only takes an imbalance of your good vs bad bacteria in there to start one and then what infectious fluid leak out can infect the labia and sometimes the creases of where the leg joins the body and on the upper leg as well if wide spread. I have never had it that bad as I go immediately to a pharmacy and buy Miconazole. It treats the yeast and vaginitis. Since it is a common ailment and not an STS, you sholdn't be embarrassed to go buy some. Usually you wont need to see your Doctor, unless for some reason your body doesn't response to the over the counter medicine. There are other names, just read the packages as to what they are for or ask a pharmacist. Here's a link to a list of the common names of the treatment product.
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So work on getting rid of that. Now as for being a virgin, most my girls all didn't have sex until after high school sometime in their early 20s with their first serious boyfriend. They did not have sex because they were curious but without feelings for the guy, they didn't do it just to escape being a virgin. Some people view sex as a recreational thing, like riding a bike, going for a jog, its' just something everybody does. That is the worst reason. So think hard about how you feel. Do you want to stay a virgin until you are engaged or married? Do you feel ready? If there is any fear, it is the wrong thing, because if you were with the right male, even if it doesn;t end up a long term relationship, then the last thing on your mind will be worry about not being experienced and not knowing what to do. Since you are a medical student, your partner may assume you are more knowable and experienced on the subject of sex. Set him straight. He won't ask as that is too presumptious and some females might take that as an insult so you need to explain that you are a virgin, and whether you have fear and want to go slow or not at all, or have no fear and want to have sex but you need to clear up a bad yeast infection first. That way he won't think you are just a tease but don't plan to commit to that point. If all he wants is sex and is not as much into the friendship part, as long as that is okay with you, thats fine. Many young men think of women with lust, not love and it is lust that compells them to seek a sex partner in the form of a girlfriend, all while the gal thinks he honestly likes her as a person and is disappointed to find he merely used her for sex when she didn't ask but assumed it was because he had feelings for her. All of this you should consider. I was once in a group of adults, who'd had enough to drink so they loosened up and everyone shared what their first sexual experience was like. Not a one had a good experience. In most cases, it was just to have sex, not because there was a special connection to their partner and both loved each other. Sex as a recreation is what can make the first experience sour for many. However, when Sex is an outpouring of what both feel for each other, the best gift they can give each other, not to prove they love the other, but to simply show how much they love their partner, then sex is wonderful and memorable .
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