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Does he like me?
So I’m confused as to whether or not this guy likes me. I feel like I get mixed signals. Anyway, so here’s the situation. We both go to the same college and met through a mutual friend who gave us each other’s Snapchat’s so we started off as kinda pen pals I guess. We officially met at a football game since we are both senators for SGA and had to be in the same general area. We started hanging out a lot because we both got together to work on a room for the haunted house that was being set up, and from there, started having lunch together, sitting for hours talking, and eventually began going on walks around the lake at night talking about religion, family, school, etc. Now it’s gone from us going off campus just staying in the backseat of my vehicle watching movies on his laptop we have propped up or talk for hours. We start off sitting next to each other, but by then end, I’m leaning up against him and he has his arm around me with his hand holding my arm. We basically end up in a cuddling position. I might play with his hair and he might hold my hand since mine are always cold and his are always warm. Our mutual friend says he thinks he likes me and apparently they’ve talked about me, but he’s always said he doesn’t think I could handle him (he’s very hyper). That’s part of what makes me confused as to whether he likes me or not. He’s also made some comments about how he feels like I’m changing him for the better even though we aren’t talking in that way (we were talking about someone else before). A few comments about how we’re not dating or talking even though we act like a couple. It’s confusing. Even his best friend before made a comment about how we go out on our little dates. And relating to something else, he said before he’d hope we’d be happy if we were a couple. He also seems to think he’s not good enough for relationships and brings himself down a lot because of how he grew up, his past and family situation. I want to find out for sure, but how do I do that? To be honest, I want more than anything to kiss him or for him to kiss me. He goes on for a long time about religion and family and that Just makes me so drawn to him because of how passionate he is about it. What do I do without directly asking him?
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This is the way a lasting romantic relationship should start, with being friends first, and spending plenty of time talking and learning everything about each other. In what we learn, if we find we admire the other, are very impressed and find that even the simple little things are more special simply because we are together, like hubby and I running simple errands together, then you know you have a good chance of there being something special. the Only thing different from a great friendship and a romantic relationship is the sexual attraction, therefore the kissing, and sex. If you couldn't handle him because he was hyper then in two months time, you should have known if you can or can't handle him. I say two months because if someone is trying to hide something about themselves they fear others won't like, then the fake persona they take on uses too much personal energy to keep up the pretense so a person tires of it and lets the mask fall so to speak after a few weeks to two months if being seen quite often. My second husband told me later that a few women including his ex, told him he was too intense of a person, that they couldn't handle it or it irritated them. I am intense by birth sign as a Scorpio so to me, he was heaven sent instead of a wimpy milk-toast of a guy as many came across. He needs to get past fear of you not being able to handle him cus what if you can. Its best to find out now so you both know if you remain friends, distant friends, or if there is mutual romantic attraction, then you explore dating. the word like can go for friends or more than friends. So I can say with all the time he chooses to spend with you, he already likes you, at least as a friend. And yes, male female friends can flirt simply for honing up their skills on someone who will be understanding and to whom it means nothing, or they can hug and cuddle and put their arms around each other. Perhaps the hyper he refers to is ADD and he feels defective because of it. If it bothered you being in the presence too often of someone hyper active, you'd know it by now. I know such a woman around my age. We're helping her as shes a recent widow and just met and shes a bit naive but totally so hyper active in her speech that I can take only short bits of time around her, like an hour or so, not half a day. Ask him if he thinks that since you do well as friends that you'd do the same or better as More than friends. He may be truthful but if he is embarassed, trying to hide, you may just have to kiss him and tell him you like him hyper.
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